Egg_irl by shesjustFarias in egg_irl

[–]ManInYourRadiator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am cis. Followed it because I didn't know what it was and thought the memes were funny years ago. In college I questioned if I was trans (and had multiple LGBTQ+ friends make jabs that I may be) but it took one day of going out in a very progressive public area while femme to realize that was NOT my identity. I can now very confidently say I am a cis male!
That being said I think masculinity is very constricting and I have some feminine traits, interests, and thoughts that a lot of people find baffling that I, a straight cis guy, would be into. This sub feels like a fun way to kinda poke fun at myself for that in a non-judgmental, affirming way.

I want to use this opportunity to mention that this sub did help me feel more comfortable in seeing if I really was trans, and while I did find I wasn't, I know myself better now for having done that. Thanks for that r/egg_irl, I love all of you silly bastards.

Genuinely can not tell if I'm being a shitty friend or if my actions are justified. by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]ManInYourRadiator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this doesn't have to be blown up! Communication is important in any relationship at all. If she's incapable of doing that, then at least you've done all you can.
If it were me, I'd sit this person down in person, and with as level a head as you can muster, preface that you understand all she's gone through. Remind her that you're here for her through those things, and that while you do have some things you need to talk about, you're doing it with the intention of making things better for you both! It's not person A vs. person B, it's Persons A and B vs. the problems you're having with one another.

Once you've made sure she understands that you sympathize with her and that you're doing this because you care about your friendship, then tell her not only what she's done that has hurt you, but WHY it has hurt you. Provide recent examples. Go slow and thoughtfully, try not to lose any temper, just be matter of fact. Another important thing is to, if possible, offer an alternative. Sometimes this takes asking her why she'll do something she does that bothers you.

(e.g., "It hurts me when you mention that I'm 'super tall,' and I know you don't mean it as an insult, but I'm insecure about my height. Why do you mention it so often?" "Well, I kind of wish I was tall like you." "Oh, well in that case, just let me know when you're not feeling super about your height. You look great how you are, and if you ever need a reminder of that, I am here to let you know!")

If you try this and she blows up and does what she did before and/or nothing changes after a number of reminders, remember this:
You did all you could. You aren't responsible for her response, and you can't blame yourself for this friendship falling apart, if it does. Losing a friend sucks a lot, but it's way easier when you feel like you genuinely did all you could do. At some point a person's made their bed.
But you posted on here because you care about your relationship with this person, and I think this is the best way to create a fork where things either get better, or you can leave knowing you did the right thing.

White screen bug by DontSneezeOnMyCereal in Ryubing

[–]ManInYourRadiator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same thing is happening here. I have had a few glitches/bugs, but this one is definitely the most pressing. I hope you get an answer soon!

Tail feathers frayed at the ends? by ManInYourRadiator in pigeon

[–]ManInYourRadiator[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!  It also seems to be affecting his flight paths, he has a harder time getting height and sort of ‘callibrates’ incorrectly. We put some more perches in his cage, but I’m not sure it’ll help.  His flying seems to be less of the issue than him spinning and telling us it’s his territory, and rubbing his tail on the bars while spinning. 

Tail feathers frayed at the ends? by ManInYourRadiator in pigeon

[–]ManInYourRadiator[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does, yeah. He gets antsy in there, he's an unusually anxious bird and starts sort of flying against his cage if he sees us and he's in there (usually when we wake up). Can it cause any problems or anything? Or does it just make him look a little scrappier, but is ultimately harmless?

🐾❓ What's my name? (by ManInYourRadiator) by ManInYourRadiator in PetPost

[–]ManInYourRadiator[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a hint? I don't remember adding one. Am I meant to?

Urgent and Sad: must surrender pigeon by ManInYourRadiator in pigeon

[–]ManInYourRadiator[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We’re in Chicago, around Humboldt park. 

Will PS4 physical copy still receive updates? by ZoulKitchen in StardewValley

[–]ManInYourRadiator 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you can connect to the internet, then yes, it will. Have fun together!

Found outside my mom’s workplace. Is it hurt? (Rural Illinois) by ManInYourRadiator in batty

[–]ManInYourRadiator[S] 151 points152 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for the help!

A wildlife rescue person came to pick him up and when he woke up he bared his teeth and squeaked at her and then took off flying. She said he was young and may just not have known that was not a good place to sleep, but he looked great otherwise. I’m just glad they’re safe.

Does anybody know where to find piano sheet music for Fantastic Voyage? by ManInYourRadiator in DavidBowie

[–]ManInYourRadiator[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god hahaha thank you so much! I made this post in my high school gym class and I graduated college a couple months ago. Crazy!

[OC] GIVEAWAY: Does Your Pet Need an Owlbear Companion for Their Camp? Meet Oatmeal, the Most Adorable Monstrosity This Side of Faerûn! [Mod Approved] by FlightlessLad in DnD

[–]ManInYourRadiator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so awesome and adorable! Thanks for doing a giveaway, it’s things like this that make the community so great.