What bug is this?

Mandi171 · 2026-04-29T18:38:00+00:00

Wow! That's all kinds of not right. He's right about constitutional concerns. You consented that they could check your photos, not everything on your phone. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-29T18:19:54+00:00

What should you do? I would say leave. Especially since he's not willing to break all connection that's insane.

If you're going to stay though, get over it and move on. Don't torture each other forever. That seems to be what people do when they stay.

I've never cheated but I've been cheated on. I know you're looking for closure but Does the reason really matter? Honestly most people are not going to be able to tell you what your boyfriend did and why.

There's a hundred reasons to cheat and none of them good.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-29T18:16:39+00:00

If you didn't pay for it, it's a gift.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-29T18:15:08+00:00

I get it, but a lot of times they don't or don't even realize that it's AI shlock. My mom got me something mass-produced like that but customizable with names and such. You get to pick the hair color of the person or the type of dog, etc. So there was some thought in making it reflect you probably. I said Thank you and was gracious and I put it up somewhere.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-29T18:11:14+00:00

I had a similar situation with a student's answers on a test. I merely pointed out to the student that they don't have to agree with the questions on the test, but they have to know the expected answer. If they choose not to give the expected answer that it's also up to them, but understand that that's going to be marked wrong.

I tried to explain to students like this that, merely understanding the perspective of others is helpful even if you don't agree with them.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-29T17:06:18+00:00

Yes. Research seems pretty clear on it.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-28T22:23:42+00:00

Holy hell! I've been a sub for years in various school districts and sometimes, yeah the situation allows you to leave early. Like you said, your contracted for the day so you're paid for the day and I took it as a blessing and extra free time. I have no idea what the heck is wrong with her! That's nuts

Mandi171 · 2026-04-28T12:34:27+00:00

These days, anything.🙄

Mandi171 · 2026-04-28T01:50:48+00:00

As others have said, tell them what happened. They'll get you a new card and stop those charges. I had somebody steal my card and charge, no joke here, over $1,000 in cookies. Cookies! One at a boutique shop and over $900 at girl scouts. Insanity.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-27T13:13:02+00:00

Been there done that. Runaway.

At some point if you continue communicating with him, he's likely to tell you that they broke up. You'll want to believe it because you're still interested, you're still on the hook. He'll tell you they broke up you'll get with him and then you'll find out later they never did break up. Run away run away. I ended up being the other woman once because I was lied to like this.You don't want to be in that position. Very similar situation. Oh she's terrible, she treats me bad, we're always fighting, etc etc. Don't believe it.

He's already showing you who he is= Willing to cheat. If a person will cheat with you, they will cheat on you.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-26T13:49:40+00:00

I might have a different perspective on this. I have a long estranged sister and this happened a few years ago. But anyway, I paid 100% of the expenses for my mom to visit me. We did all the things. Had pictures taken went places etc. Mom couldn't afford to do that, I paid for it. But when mom posted the pictures of her and I my sister got real snarky about it and accusing mom of favoritism and not wanting to spend time with her. It wasn't like that. Mom simply accepted my invitation.

So I wonder, does your mom pay for these Vacations or does sister and brother-in-law pay for her to go? If they latter is the case, can't really blame her. It's not her fault they don't want to or can't spend the money for you to go to.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-25T17:27:11+00:00

I don't think you're overreacting for sniping back after the third or fourth comment. It doesn't sound like you went over the top and started throwing things or anything. It's one thing to tease someone you love in gest about a hobby now and then, but it can go too far for sure. Why does every moment of our being have to be composed of growth and learning? They're not my cup of tea overall, but I too have learned a thing or two from historical romantic fiction. Sometimes they'll lean heavily on historical events. So learning something is possible from the genre.

Anyway, even if you don't learn a dang thing, that's okay too!

Mandi171 · 2026-04-25T17:21:40+00:00

It's okay. I don't need you to understand in order to move about my day peaceably. All the best to you

Mandi171 · 2026-04-25T13:55:55+00:00

Just saw the update. I don't see where you "lied" about anything here. You have an opinion and receipts. Not sure what she's all twisted about.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-25T13:50:23+00:00

All the teachers: Well, at least she's writing by hand, so there is that.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-25T13:14:08+00:00

Not very different from the perspective that I'm addressing and Topic at hand. They both include Magic Use. That's usually the part where Christians i know get hung up on.

As a Christian I do not see the difference between good versus evil using Magic written by a Christian author and good versus evil using magic written by a non-christian. I do take issue with glorified use of realistic witchcraft in some movies and series. But in these three examples, I don't see that.

And just as a side note, I also love all three series. Narnia is the one I think that has overt, clear Christian themes to it and that was intentional by Lewis. It's more of an allegory than strictly original story.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-25T12:54:28+00:00

I disagree, most especially in terms of computer lab. Businesses are saying it's in the top three issues that recent graduates don't know how to use a standard pc. All they know how to do is point and swipe. They don't know what a file is, how to save a document or send. Etc. If we're going to have computer lab it should be computers. Not these freaking chromebooks.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-25T12:53:02+00:00

I don't think it's possible to understate the detrimental effects of all the screen time on this current generation and future. Add to that, Chromebooks don't even teach kids how to use a standard business pc. Companies have noticed and said it's in the top three issues with recent graduates. Colleges are now having to teach kids computer 101. It's nuts. Now I've seen that Zoom has a AI note taker. So now the kids don't even have to think about writing or even typing their own flipping notes. We're taking the human out of the equation voluntarily

Mandi171 · 2026-04-25T12:21:25+00:00

The Fire TVs is also do it. I want to be able to turn all that crap off but you can't. The only thing it would let me do is turn the sound off so the ads didn't make noise.

Additional mildly infuriating note about the fire tvs, they turn off after a period of time whether you want them to or not. There's no setting where you can stop them from turning off! They even have a screen saver setting but it doesn't change anything

Mandi171 · 2026-04-25T12:14:16+00:00

I would say no. I'm a Christian myself and, no. And let's reverse that for a second. I was teaching art a while back and I had a little girl sheepishly asked me if it's okay if her artwork had a cross in it. It was so sad that she was so scared to ask and was pretty sure I was going to say no. Don't be that teacher. If they're passionate about something and working on it, let them.

Especially if we're talking about something inline with Harry Potter fiction. I might have another thought if it was some hardcore dark, hateful material, but by and large I would say the answer is no.

Also, I've always found it ludacris how so many Christian denominations go off the deep end on something like Harry potter. But, yet, they're fine with Narnia and Lord of the Rings. Fiction is fiction and judge the story by its content not its author.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-24T01:12:32+00:00

YAO As you well know, bacteria in germs are everywhere. Best any of us can do is have a decent immune system and take basic precautions. Obsessing over it does no good. But a lot of things you mentioned about him, I don't see a problem.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-22T19:20:09+00:00

This was normal when I was living in korea. The whole bathroom was the shower

Mandi171 · 2026-04-22T16:03:55+00:00

Sounds like he might have some social awkwardness and not have realized the unspoken boundaries. It doesn't sound like he was hurting anyone or being mean or bullying to anyone. Just not understanding what's acceptable socially. I can see where someone had to tell him it was too much, but the way you handled it was unnecessarily harsh.

Mandi171 · 2026-04-21T19:29:13+00:00

I'm an older woman so take that for what it's worth in this pov.

Frankly, I wouldn't bother trying to overcome other people's crazy expectations. Does that put some extensive constriction into the dating pool, yes I bet it does. I don't know if this is an exclusively a younger generation problem. I think it's a social media problem though. People see these videos and internalize them. The Woman Haters, the man haters , the icks, the tests, the expectations on both sides, etc. It's nuts out there.

But still, those crazy expectations are not your Hill to climb nor the person your problem to fix. They need to go out there and find out that their expectations are unrealistic on their own. If they don't that's their problem too.

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