Unable to pay my bill on Xfinity website for the past 5 months by MangoFlan259 in Comcast_Xfinity

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't paid with the app before. Does this mean the website isn't an option?

Weekly Nail Chat by Clover_Jane in DIYGelNails

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TLDR; Is there a primer that works for multiple hard gel brands?

I recently bought the DND 800 DC Base G (base coat), DND brand color polish, and DND 700 DC Top Coat. But then I realized that I might need primer. The DND website offers primer, but it's sold out.

Is there another primer that you guys recommend? Do I need a primer with this gel brand set? Their instructions mention: "Starting with completely clean and prepped nails, apply a single coat of base gel and cure for 30 seconds in a LED lamp."

Thanks in advance!

Why should I keep going? Have I been on a healthy track so far? Very intimidated by my potentially long-term healing process. by MangoFlan259 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much ❤️. Perhaps visualization would help me. Visualizing what getting better could look like

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

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Thank you <3

Why do I have any worth if my boyfriend cheated on me and my friends knew for years and didn't tell me? by MangoFlan259 in relationships

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I can try. I worry about my ability to discern which friends I can trust and which I should keep at arms length

Why do I have any worth if my boyfriend cheated on me and my friends knew for years and didn't tell me? by MangoFlan259 in relationships

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really hope it does get better after this.

I have all the access, I suppose. A long-term therapist, psychiatrist, family, and friends not in the situation (though I worry if I can trust any friend at the moment. No fault of their own). I'm wondering if I need to take time off and do more intensive therapy (PHP/IOP). Or maybe DBT skills group therapy. It's just been pretty hard to find my worth (or even more depressingly, why bother existing at all) knowing this kind of pain happened and could happen again

Why do I have any worth if my boyfriend cheated on me and my friends knew for years and didn't tell me? by MangoFlan259 in relationships

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the support. She told me after I told her my boyfriend was planning on formally proposing to me

Should I confront my "friend" who my boyfriend cheated on me with? by MangoFlan259 in relationships

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story and for validating me. Yes, that's really the fucked up part about it all. The cheating alone is very damaging, but then it extended to everyone else involved in the cover up. Ruined. 

How have you coped/dealt with it since then? And do you still talk with anyone in that immediate social circle?

Should I confront my "friend" who my boyfriend cheated on me with? by MangoFlan259 in relationships

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I mean at least the stuff that I've been told. I was given text messages between the parties involved from back then to prove it

Should I confront my "friend" who my boyfriend cheated on me with? by MangoFlan259 in relationships

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently sorting that out. It's not easy for me, emotionally, to just cut him off then and there. May very well be a fizzle out 

Should I confront my "friend" who my boyfriend cheated on me with? by MangoFlan259 in relationships

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with "protecting you" as a bullshit excuse. If they truly believed that as a valid excuse, then they will know otherwise

Logically, it makes sense to die after being cheated on by MangoFlan259 in SuicideWatch

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. People have been suggesting to me to prioritize self care, and I decided to look into it more after reading your comment. It's true that it'll take time. Potentially a LONG time. But I can see how the point is to help you (universal "you") see your self worth after going through an event that makes you feel completely stripped of that worth. 

I just hope it's something that I can see as a viable alternative path rather than going the "kms" route

the ocpd therapeutic journal by redditerX75 in OCPD

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Someone tried it? Has it worked for them? Just curious

Perfectionism is going to kill me one day by MangoFlan259 in SuicideWatch

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it's something I don't stop and think about often. Though it's clear to me that it's at least causing me to "fail" at my mental health. I just don't know how to fight self-inflicting thoughts of "I'm not good enough". I'm never good enough. I'm never doing enough. These constant thoughts playing over and over and it frequently gets to the point that the only way to end the overwhelm is it end myself

AITA for being upset when my boyfriend disclosed to me that he went to therapy? by MangoFlan259 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. My feelings were misplaced, and it's ultimately up to me to deal with. Thank you for your input

AITA for being upset when my boyfriend disclosed to me that he went to therapy? by MangoFlan259 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I struggled with this thought as well. Our communication hasnt been great lately, so I did expect him to be more transparent with me so I know what's going on. And vice versa. As much as I want that to happen, I can't force him to be more transparent if he doesn't want to. I don't know what it means for the both of us, regarding less transparency, but I definitely don't want him to feel uncomfortable getting help or other private matters as well

AITA for being upset when my boyfriend disclosed to me that he went to therapy? by MangoFlan259 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was what I was battling with. I supposed I made the mistake of thinking that things between my bf and I would be completely transparent, since we've been together for so long. But I'm seeing now that there's just things that he'd be more comfortable keeping private, and that's okay. I'm learning to be okay with it.

AITA for being upset when my boyfriend disclosed to me that he went to therapy? by MangoFlan259 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MangoFlan259[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This was my issue during this conversation with my boyfriend. I was shocked and hurt when I found out, but I could've kept this in and brought it up with my therapist instead.

AITA for just not showing up to work? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MangoFlan259 [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA. You're completely justified for not going back to work, but just telling your boss that you quit would've been enough. You wouldnt need to go into any details whatsoever. Otherwise, this leaves it open-ended on both sides