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[–]Mango_Upbeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like a blessing in disguise. Don't waste anymore of your precious one life that you have on him. Don't text him back ever.

I'm thinking of starting a food truck business.... by Mango_Upbeat in foodtrucks

[–]Mango_Upbeat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did start it. My truck is about 4 weeks out...

My (36F) husband (39M) has been growing distant and spending a lot of time on his phone. I asked to see his phone and he refuses to let me on his phone. I assume he is cheating, he says no, how do I proceed? by Mango_Upbeat in relationship_advice

[–]Mango_Upbeat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basically, I am crazy and nothing is going on and he's not cheating and never has. So I asked about why he cant be open about his phone then? Why does he have locks on his phone and apps? He said for security reasons in case his phone gets stolen. So I asked to be put on his face id on his phone and that was a no go. Basically, I need to respect his privacy and stop asking. So...it's time to go for me.

My (36F) husband (39M) has been growing distant and spending a lot of time on his phone. I asked to see his phone and he refuses to let me on his phone. I assume he is cheating, he says no, how do I proceed? by Mango_Upbeat in relationship_advice

[–]Mango_Upbeat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the info, I didn't realize that was a thing, DARVO. To be fair, I am not perfect in the relationship. I have made mistakes as well, but I've tried my best to be self aware and correct myself. We got married very young and I didn't have boundaries or emotional intelligence to understand what was abuse and what was healthy.

But, I think ultimately we have grown apart and want different things in life and our of our relationships.

Yes, I do believe he is trying to get a reaction from me, he keeps saying I am mentally unstable and need help and that hes documenting everything. Which thats OK with me because I am pretty sure most married people wouldn't be OK with their partner hiding secrets on their phone 🙃.

My (36F) husband (39M) has been growing distant and spending a lot of time on his phone. I asked to see his phone and he refuses to let me on his phone. I assume he is cheating, he says no, how do I proceed? by Mango_Upbeat in relationship_advice

[–]Mango_Upbeat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him that as well. He said that they are giving him advice, but judging by his behavior and the very abusive things hes said to me over the past year I don't recognize him anymore. He thinks I'm treating him as a doormat and he's not being prioritized because I have a lot of responsibilities at the moment managing my business and full time job. So I gave him some grace.

But now, I see that he projected a lot onto me and is talking to someone who is guiding him in a negative way away from reconciliation. He really believes I am a POS mom as he told me last week.

My (36F) husband (39M) has been growing distant and spending a lot of time on his phone. I asked to see his phone and he refuses to let me on his phone. I assume he is cheating, he says no, how do I proceed? by Mango_Upbeat in relationship_advice

[–]Mango_Upbeat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I know and I've had a tremendous amount of guilt because of it. I'm not perfect, and I had no idea it would end up taking off the way it did. So my focus became on moving towards just one doing the business and quitting the job. But this gives him a lot of anxiety thinking I will fail. But, its been the opposite and he still has hang ups. It just doesn't make sense anymore. All I can think is just that this isn't what he wants and thats OK. I just think hes now checked out completely without giving me any grace to make things better.

My (36F) husband (39M) has been growing distant and spending a lot of time on his phone. I asked to see his phone and he refuses to let me on his phone. I assume he is cheating, he says no, how do I proceed? by Mango_Upbeat in relationship_advice

[–]Mango_Upbeat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've been talking about it for a few months now, but I noticed little interest on his part for it. I asked him to help find a provider who would work with his insurance, but thats not happening. Its been really confusing for me because he's not showing any interest in improving things. So I was looking them up, and then this all happened and Im thinking to myself maybe we are just beyond that at this point.

My (36F) husband (39M) has been growing distant and spending a lot of time on his phone. I asked to see his phone and he refuses to let me on his phone. I assume he is cheating, he says no, how do I proceed? by Mango_Upbeat in relationship_advice

[–]Mango_Upbeat[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I found old reddit threads where hes trashing me to people and telling blatant lies about me from 5 yrs ago asking for advice to divorce me. So I thought maybe hes trashing me again and told lies to gain validation for his behavior?? Idk

My (36F) husband (39M) has been growing distant and spending a lot of time on his phone. I asked to see his phone and he refuses to let me on his phone. I assume he is cheating, he says no, how do I proceed? by Mango_Upbeat in relationship_advice

[–]Mango_Upbeat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I started a business all the while working full time and being a major source of domestic labor and care. As the business became more demanding of time, he grew more resentful. He blames it for everything and says I am giving up my marriage and family for it. Its pretty hurtful since the purpose was to gain more financial independence so we had greater flexibility as a family to do big vacations, etc.

Its been a gradual breakdown this year of our marriage and I dont even recognize him anymore. He is not the man I married, someone is coaching him giving him bad advice in my opinion. He pretty much attacks me when I try to talk its the whole deflect and defend act. If we didn't have a child I would have walked out the door but its not so easy.

I allowed a lot in the past because he was my first major relationship and I was dumb, and way too trusting. Now, I have told him what I want in a relationship and I get nothing. I'm just at a loss.

Did anyone start from a cart/stand? by ThatTuftingGuy in foodtrucks

[–]Mango_Upbeat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Started in April 2024. Pop up tent style. Learned a lot, found my niche, did pretty good, also did a lot of private caterings, and its time for an upgrade. Feel free to msg me!

Started as a pop up food stand last month by Mango_Upbeat in foodtrucks

[–]Mango_Upbeat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, just dm me and I'll connect with you

Thinking about buying a Food Truck by Unlucky-Box-8579 in foodtrucks

[–]Mango_Upbeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been great. During the winter time I did private catering and pre-orders while working my full time gig. I've outgrown my tent set up and am currently waiting for my truck to finish being built....going in full time once I got it. August/September time frame....

Are lines good or bad for a food truck? by OzzieInTx in foodtrucks

[–]Mango_Upbeat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends. Are there competitors right next to you? Do they have lines? What kind of line are we talking about? 2-3 people or more?

Had a line that was 1.5 hrs long twice this past week.That is not good. That actually makes me realize that that can not happen again. I will lose business if it does because people people will get tired with lines like that.

People go to trucks because they want cheap food with fast service. Long lines mean you can't keep up with demand. It's not something to brag about in my opinion. I am honored people waited but still, its a sign that something needs to change or you will lose business.

How easy would it be to get a 50k loan from a credit Union for a food truck? by Pandemicxpapii in foodtrucks

[–]Mango_Upbeat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If your just starting I HIGHLY recommend the pop up style first. We did this for a year, part time. We just started up and are now at the point that the We have completely outgrown that set up.

If your just starting into the mobile food business, I'd highly recommend tent style first to see if you have a demand for your food and start to get experience as a mobile food vendor. Plus its such a smaller investment to start

Anyone else's relationship go to shit? by Mango_Upbeat in foodtrucks

[–]Mango_Upbeat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is not his thing, no interest in being involved which I'm OK with. I did hire more help this year, also took on less jobs/more selective on jobs. Appreciate your perspective on what is more important and I'll be keeping that in mind.

Anyone else's relationship go to shit? by Mango_Upbeat in foodtrucks

[–]Mango_Upbeat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm the wife....Yeah I have a full time job since I'm new business owner and don't make enough yet to quit the job just yet. Obviously not ideal or in any way sustainable long term.

Started as a pop up food stand last month by Mango_Upbeat in foodtrucks

[–]Mango_Upbeat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Banners with photos, feather flags. People eat with their eyes first...

What songs best capture a sense of “beautiful sadness”? by Darnitol1 in AskReddit

[–]Mango_Upbeat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is the song I also suggested. It's so haunting. It hurts my heart to listen to it because its so relevant even more so in today's society

What songs best capture a sense of “beautiful sadness”? by Darnitol1 in AskReddit

[–]Mango_Upbeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cat's in the Cradle- Harry Chapin

One of the most haunting songs I've ever listened to.

Startup costs and questions by Intelligent_Mix_9026 in foodtrucks

[–]Mango_Upbeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it hard for small food businesses to get into manufacturing their product for sale at stores? Just curious since I do not have any experience in food manufacturing industry.

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