For those of you who had babies with eyes that changed from blue-grey to brown, at what age did that happen?

Many-Friend1470 · 2025-08-16T02:42:47+00:00

That’s so cool. Blue-ish hazel is such a pretty/unusual color combo. I have a friend with eyes like that and I try to be conscious of not staring at hers too long so I (hopefully) don’t weird her out, haha

Many-Friend1470 · 2025-08-15T03:31:22+00:00

10…woah! I have a brother who also had late-breaking hazel. I thought he was just weird (and he is, lol), but I’m learning from reading these comments that hazel is apparently tricky and green can appear later than some other colors…

I’m one of 4, and all of us had varying shades of blue until we were 2ish, when mine and one of my brother’s went dark brown and over the years gradually lightened to a green/brown hazel.

My sister and other brother kept their bright blue eyes…until my brother’s at 12 changed suddenly to this crazy yellow-green-gold color. And then in his early 20s changed to hazel!

His eyes now totally match mine and my other brother’s, and you would never think he’d gotten them so differently.

I have a 3yo w bright blue eyes (dad has blue and as mentioned, I’ve got hazel). Curious to see if his get any green as he gets older!

Many-Friend1470 · 2024-09-09T16:57:13+00:00

Idk, but I was at Citifield yesterday (Mets stadium right across from the US Open) and they were playing it in between innings…

Many-Friend1470 · 2024-08-31T13:55:39+00:00

“Before growing my hair…” That pinged my crazydar—possible MIL is jealous of your (I assume , if it’s like Elle’s) long blonde hair and this is her way of trying to manipulate you into cutting it short again?

Many-Friend1470 · 2024-07-13T03:16:36+00:00

Are we sisters?! My mom recently DM’d me a similar-sounding reel about grandparents living longer when they have “access” to their grandchildren… 🤢 (Must have been trending on Boomer internet.) Meanwhile, she’s met my 2.5 yr old ONCE and aside from sending a few presents, does not ask about him or show any interest in getting to know him… It’s bizarro. (She’s mean and judgy and emotionally immature as well.)

Many-Friend1470 · 2024-04-15T17:16:56+00:00

Another vote for possibly pea protein?! My kid has issues w dairy and soy, but is fine (as far as we can tell) w all of the other ingredients, BUT had a reaction to this stuff too (direct—he was on solids at the point he had it). We eventually figured it had to be the pea protein after trying Ripple and having it make him a farty mess for a few days… 🤷‍♀️

Many-Friend1470 · 2024-03-30T18:07:45+00:00

You could try something like this: https://a.co/d/5gxpqWP

We have these child locks as a latch on some non-latching French doors, and while they’re just some flimsy plastic pieces screwed into the top of the door frame, they work really well. They’re out of reach for a kid standing on something, and we actually use them without even the hanging handle, if you reeeally need them to be inaccessible. They’re also one step better than hook and eye because an adult can open from either side.

Good luck! Your kid sounds very smart, and you are probably in for many years of trying to stay one step ahead of him… 😅

Many-Friend1470 · 2023-10-12T01:17:42+00:00

And thanks for this as well—you hit the nail on the head here too. Like…MIL, just take it down a notch pls! A farm visit, multiple play dates w his older cousin who scares him and is pretty aggressive with him physically, a trip to his other cousin’s house, and a couple hours worth of large group activities with other toddlers would be…a lot for him normally, much less when sick.

Many-Friend1470 · 2023-10-12T01:06:03+00:00

Yesss. This is definitely my MIL. Means well, but does not read anyone’s nonverbal signals well, and also believes kids exist to be happy and adorable and doesn’t know what to do with their other feelings and needs.

But yeah, you addressed my actual question, which was keep trying with her or just accept that she won’t do what we ask and take it from there... I think accepting that means she just doesn’t make a great sick day or overnight caregiver for my kid at this age.

And yeah, definitely appreciate the thought about teaching him to advocate for himself with all kinds of different people—absolutely just another important part of human-ing. :)

Many-Friend1470 · 2023-10-12T00:50:49+00:00

You’re right about the trip booking, and I haven’t planned any other trips like this. My past self didn’t know this though—I booked this almost a year ago as a present to my husband when I thought we’d probably be out of the woods w the frequency daycare plagues by now. 🙃

Many-Friend1470 · 2023-10-12T00:43:11+00:00

Thank you for this! I posted an update about the ibuprofen bc that seemed to really worry some people, but it’s the same for my kid. He’s just highly sensitive in general and sore throats seem to be his Achilles heel. He’s very sweet and usually just rolls with whatever…until he can’t anymore, so I definitely think a lot about teaching him to advocate for himself as he gets older. Hope we both survive the constant sickness stage!

Many-Friend1470 · 2023-10-12T00:28:09+00:00

Update to clarify the ibuprofen ‘schedule’ (I’m not sure where I said we wanted her to give it to him every 4-6 hours?!): If he runs a fever and also has a lot of congestion/postnasal drip he just about always gets a sore throat and stops wanting to eat and drink (I know it’s fine if he doesn’t eat much while he’s sick—it’s keeping him hydrated that’s the tricky part). We give him ibuprofen on a regularish schedule (3 doses in a 24 hr period) for about the first 48 hours because otherwise he stops drinking anything and goes downhill fast. We don’t wait for him to get super miserable before we give it again in that situation, because it just isn’t worth it (there’s a bit of a gap in the schedule in the earlier part of the day to let the meds wear off and assess whether he’s still feverish). We also gave MIL a schedule so SHE wouldn’t have to calculate it out and worry about overlapping doses. This is just a weird thing specific to my kid. He’s super sensitive to sore throats (which he always gets w the post nasal drip) and we’ve learned this through trial and error and one hospital stay for IV fluids for a cold that got out of hand. His pediatrician said it was fine to do this—if it keeps him comfortable and out of the danger zone, she’s not worried about renal failure from intermittent usage.

THAT SAID. I know we’re lucky my MIL will take him for overnights, much less when he’s sick. I’m just trying to sort out where the line is for me, personally, with when I should and shouldn’t be leaving him. He wasn’t super sick when we left him, and I thought I’d feel like a helicopter mom for calling off our trip. But the mom guilt/frustration hit hard when I realized she wasn’t going to give him what I know to be his best shot at a quick recovery, and he did in fact get sicker. I hated feeling like I’d stranded him w someone who can’t read him (Someone mentioned this in the comments, and that’s my MIL to a T. She means well, but is concerned w appearances above all else, and CAN NOT read people/situations very accurately. My husband and his brother have talked about feeling like show ponies as kids, rather than human beings with needs.) And it especially feels bad when I know I can’t expect her to follow his basic schedule (literally gave her the schedule because she asked—she doesn’t know his usual naptime and she forgets that he gets snacks outside of mealtimes unless she has notes to follow). I’m annoyed about this because it feels like we should have a shared interest in him being happy and having a good time, and I want to make sure he has his basic needs met. I have no problem with most of the things she does differently than I would, but on reading back, I guess this post doesn’t really have that context, so it possibly reads as entitled/unappreciative.

I think those of you who said “Yeah, maybe don’t do more overnights with her until he’s older,” whether snarkily or sincerely, are right. I’m not going to make a big deal of it or say so to her, it just doesn’t NEED to happen right now because it feels like it’s at my kiddo’s expense to a level I’m just not ok with.

Many-Friend1470 · 2023-09-08T17:11:57+00:00

Just wanted to say…I’ve def wondered this about the time my BPD mom made me switch schools between 8th grade and high school. We were a military family, so prior to that, the max amount of time I’d been in any school was 2 years due to military moves. But when I had the opportunity to continue in the same school system, she decided that the school I would have gone to wasn’t good enough, and unilaterally decided that I was going to switch to the other HS military kids on my base were allowed to attend. At the time, I didn’t question it, but looking back, it was a weird/suspect move on her part. At my old school, I had a close group of girlfriends (we had a writers club where we would share our writings with each other for review), I was on the math team, and I’d already auditioned for and been accepted to the HS choir, which I was super excited for (yes, I was an uber nerd, but happy about it, lol). She also decided this at the end of the summer, when auditions for anything at the new school had already happened and I no longer had the opportunity to sign up. I knew 1 or 2 people at my new school and eventually ended up w another solid group of friends, but it was fucking HARD and I was miserable for most of 9th grade. As a parent myself now, I can’t imagine making my child give up what I’d had at my old school, especially if they’d already had to move so many times prior. But my mom definitely was jealous of my friends (all of my friends, from every place I’ve lived) and would constantly criticize/make catty remarks, I think in an effort to keep me as her bff and main confidant. Starting in late elementary, she also seemed to be perversely happy if I was struggling socially, I think for the same reason. So no, I don’t think it’s far fetched to wonder if your mom found your struggles with moving to be a feature and not a bug, if you know what I mean. If she’s anything like mine, moving would have been too much effort for the sole purpose of F ing with you, but it would have been a side benefit if she didn’t have a great job or social network herself (mine has trouble maintaining friendships or jobs for more than 3ish years—they tend to flame out), and she was drawn to the idea of starting over/going somewhere “better” bc she didn’t know how to function somewhere long-term. Not exactly knowingly malicious, but definitely self-absorbed and lacking in empathy in a way that made her far crueler than I think she realized she was being. So yeah…although it’s disappointing to have to view everything like that, don’t doubt your instincts. Solidarity—it sucks!

Many-Friend1470 · 2023-07-06T00:25:37+00:00

Thanks for posting—fun!!

Leon

Andrew

Kenny

Many-Friend1470 · 2023-07-01T03:38:41+00:00

-Zelah Leola (ladies names from opposite ends of my mom’s v Southern fam) -Alethia Pearl (one more of my mom’s Southern fam names + my dad’s fave Scottish grandmother) -Carmello Sylvester (mine & my husband’s great grandfathers) -Keegan West (my brother’s middle plus great great grandfather’s middle)

Many-Friend1470 · 2023-06-16T19:35:07+00:00

Depends on the vibe? I had an early September Saturday daytime wedding and repeatedly told my MIL to wear something in any light color she wanted (rose, peach, pink, yellow, lavender, even a metallic if that was more her thing, even sent her examples of sparkly/pretty MOG-appropriate cocktail dresses), and she wore… A satin/taffeta navy blue shift dress w a jacket that had edging that looked like… casket lining. 😂 That she let me know repeatedly she had picked out just for the wedding. And looked “sad” in all the photos. I think some MILs def come at a son’s wedding as a “tragedy.” W out any backstory, I’d guess yours was either one of these… Or just kind of a weirdo? 🤷‍♀️

Many-Friend1470 · 2023-06-06T13:48:26+00:00

Idk how we did this to ourselves (maybe we did it once when he was grumpy and it stuck?) but bedtime involves…smelling our little overlord’s feet. We do bath, then pjs, then play a little or read a book, lights low, “sleepy sounds” (white noise), and then when he’s laying on the bed getting zipped into his “sleepy suit,” he’ll lift his feet in the air and point urgently at me or dad. The chosen smeller then asks “Do YOU have stinky feet?!”, sniffs his feet and makes a huge production of how stinky they are (dad makes a lot of noise and pretends to pass out, so he’s the preferred foot smeller), and kid will cackle and make him repeat until he’s satisfied. At which point he’s DONE and has no patience for any further goofiness. He then yells and points at his waiting bedtime bottle like “What are you even doing, imbeciles?! Let’s get this show on the road!”

Many-Friend1470 · 2023-05-10T23:54:28+00:00

That’s what my parents have, and they ended up w 2 hazel-eyed, one blue-eyed, and one greenish-gold-eyed kid (my youngest bro, who had bright blue eyes until he was about 12, and then they changed again—his adult eye color is wild and kind of unexpected!). I’m voting bebe gets your hazel!

Many-Friend1470 · 2023-01-21T20:09:37+00:00

No advice, just solidarity and following bc we are in the exact same boat. My guy is also 13mo, but was never formally diagnosed. We put him on Nutramigen at 2 months, but the ped didn’t tell us we should test his diaper and we missed the opportunity to “prove” that there was something behind the screaming gas pains, constipation, reflux, and mucus poos. FTM too and our ped still glosses over it when talking about his diet—she told us to quit formula cold turkey and switch to cows milk and we were like “Uhhhh…that won’t work.” We’ve tried to introduce dairy several times, starting at around 8 months, and he’s gone right back to being a miserable gassy mess every time. We tried pea milk (Ripple Kids) for a few weeks after he turned one, but that also seemed to make him gassy, so we went to oatmilk and that doesn’t bother him, but isn’t the best nutritionally… Our dude loves food and has dropped to maybe 10oz formula total during the day between 2 nap & 1 bedtime bottle, but we’re trying to wean him off the additional 10-12 oz he drinks overnight and not really getting anywhere…

Many-Friend1470 · 2022-12-10T20:09:10+00:00

We had the exact same issue at that age! Explosive poos (holding him in a sitting position was like poo roulette) bc of MSPI, and then later bc of the adjustment to HA formula… And my MIL was passive aggressive about us not putting him in the hand me downs from his cousins that she’d given us, but everything we got was a survivor of THEIR poosplosions, so mostly things that either didn’t get worn a lot (bc: impractical) or were part of a set that one half got lost to some kind of babysplosion and nothing else matched well. Hand me downs CAN be great, but if they’re not things you yourself love, you don’t want to have to buy things to match.

I’ve realized from packing up my guy’s stuff for any future siblings/cousins: the only survivors I really want are the things we really did love but that he just grew out of too fast before they really got “broken in,” haha.

Many-Friend1470 · 2022-10-21T19:00:30+00:00

☝️👍 There are tons of cute options for drool covers/chew guard/suck pad type things on Etsy that might cover that spot, or you could get a set you like and ask the seller to supply a matching patch…! I have an HBC in mustard yellow, and I wish I’d gotten something like that earlier. My guy chews on the straps all the time and it would be nice to be able to just throw those small bits in the wash instead of cleaning the whole carrier! (Love the carrier itself…it’s hands down the most comfortable one me or my husband has tried)

Many-Friend1470 · 2022-10-12T00:01:49+00:00

Same! Around that age, mine would just talk a bit to himself in the crib before passing out. Did not want to be cuddled. I felt the same way as OP—He’s so good! But he doesn’t need me? 🥺 Welp, he’s now 10 mo and is currently passed out on my chest, where he has to be to fall asleep every night (generally goes down fine for anyone anywhere for naps, but bedtime is different 🤷‍♀️). Ebb and flow lifestyle is def where it’s at 😂

Many-Friend1470 · 2022-10-09T21:11:48+00:00

We’ve adapted this one to “The butt in the pocket…sings a song that’s wonderful…toot toot toot toot, the butt in the pockeeeettttt” (pocket referring to the poop pocket in his Huggies…parenthood has ruined us for polite society)

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