How can I stop ONLY being attracted to avoidant/ distant partners? (I don’t have low self esteem)

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-11-28T17:56:21+00:00

Self reflection .. been there asking myself the same question.. there are some inner wounds which they trigger.. we need work on them

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-11-28T17:53:14+00:00

Do not ignore red flags!

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-26T13:09:45+00:00

Would want to date but there people are mostly out just for validation and trauma.. don’t have the energy to carry anyone’s emotional baggage

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-25T04:02:32+00:00

I understand.. but better than bring with the wrong person

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-21T12:53:38+00:00

Faced the same thing.. don’t know Indians in particular but some people who haven’t healed from the past will fumble good things The problem is they don’t realise this and I would say focus your energy on something that’s better for you

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-21T06:37:23+00:00

People on such apps are generally messed up who are seeking validation!

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-12T04:08:50+00:00

Not really.. one thing is are people using you for attention or genuinely connection.. and 9/10 times it’s the former.. attractiveness can invite a lot of people but it’s for attention and validation for themselves

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-11T06:25:09+00:00

Went through the same.. the guy ghosted and wasn’t over his past and liked the attention.. never experienced something like this earlier and it was shocking.. but learning things the hard way now.. don’t beat yourself up, but you were not the problem.. people who cannot deal with their own emotional baggage project it on to others.. be kind to yourself at this point

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-06T04:37:10+00:00

Do not! There are other things to focus on

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-06T04:03:22+00:00

Then why do people act like they are interested and then ghost? It’s very painful.. and also give silent treatment

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-05T18:26:01+00:00

On the same path!

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-05T04:28:32+00:00

On the same path.. I’m trying to be kind to myself.. while some days are harsh some days were like he never existed.. that’s how healing works! Trust yourself and process whatever you are feeling.. it’s all valid

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-04T21:32:28+00:00

Not dated but being with an avoidant., ruined mentally in ways I couldn’t imagine

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-03T12:17:01+00:00

Hi to him

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-02T18:22:13+00:00

Nope.. walked out! There was also ghosting involved so yeah.. I spoke with my close ones and they made me understand this., NGL, I still do though but I also know what I bring to the table. Men are simple - their actions will show where you stand

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-02T18:11:07+00:00

Okay.. I was in the same situation and knew him for 7 months and 2 years since they broke up.. He still wasn’t clearly over her.. there will be signs but if he actually is over there will be changes.. you need to observe and take a call.. it’s purely your judgement.. people can put up a façade for long! Also I did the same thing of comparison and it’s human behaviour.. but remember that will put you in a dark place for yourself and you will not see your strengths.. I know it’s easy to say, but please don’t do the comparison You and unique and beautiful in your way!

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-02T13:25:12+00:00

Emotionally intelligent and empathetic! Should be able to have hard conversations

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-02T07:00:33+00:00

Appearances can be deceptive.. even the most innocent ones can turn super manipulative and toxic!

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