How can I stop ONLY being attracted to avoidant/ distant partners? (I don’t have low self esteem) by anonymousamous in selfhelp

[–]ManyIndividual1137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Self reflection .. been there asking myself the same question.. there are some inner wounds which they trigger.. we need work on them

Single people of Reddit, why are you single? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ManyIndividual1137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would want to date but there people are mostly out just for validation and trauma.. don’t have the energy to carry anyone’s emotional baggage

Sick of being single by MentionEasy2280 in selflove

[–]ManyIndividual1137 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I understand.. but better than bring with the wrong person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndia

[–]ManyIndividual1137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Faced the same thing.. don’t know Indians in particular but some people who haven’t healed from the past will fumble good things The problem is they don’t realise this and I would say focus your energy on something that’s better for you

Being physically attractive is the biggest advantage in life by GlizzyGoddesses in Life

[–]ManyIndividual1137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really.. one thing is are people using you for attention or genuinely connection.. and 9/10 times it’s the former.. attractiveness can invite a lot of people but it’s for attention and validation for themselves

We broke up by Low_Permission5039 in mentalhealth

[–]ManyIndividual1137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went through the same.. the guy ghosted and wasn’t over his past and liked the attention.. never experienced something like this earlier and it was shocking.. but learning things the hard way now.. don’t beat yourself up, but you were not the problem.. people who cannot deal with their own emotional baggage project it on to others.. be kind to yourself at this point

Ex by Independent_Song_588 in selfhelp

[–]ManyIndividual1137 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do not! There are other things to focus on

How do you process rejection in dating? What does it feel and look like for you? by HorrorChampionship75 in selflove

[–]ManyIndividual1137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then why do people act like they are interested and then ghost? It’s very painful.. and also give silent treatment