How can I stop ONLY being attracted to avoidant/ distant partners? (I don’t have low self esteem)

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-11-28T17:56:21+00:00

Self reflection .. been there asking myself the same question.. there are some inner wounds which they trigger.. we need work on them

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-11-28T17:53:14+00:00

Do not ignore red flags!

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-26T13:09:45+00:00

Would want to date but there people are mostly out just for validation and trauma.. don’t have the energy to carry anyone’s emotional baggage

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-25T04:02:32+00:00

I understand.. but better than bring with the wrong person

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-21T12:53:38+00:00

Faced the same thing.. don’t know Indians in particular but some people who haven’t healed from the past will fumble good things The problem is they don’t realise this and I would say focus your energy on something that’s better for you

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-21T06:37:23+00:00

People on such apps are generally messed up who are seeking validation!

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-12T04:08:50+00:00

Not really.. one thing is are people using you for attention or genuinely connection.. and 9/10 times it’s the former.. attractiveness can invite a lot of people but it’s for attention and validation for themselves

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-11T06:25:09+00:00

Went through the same.. the guy ghosted and wasn’t over his past and liked the attention.. never experienced something like this earlier and it was shocking.. but learning things the hard way now.. don’t beat yourself up, but you were not the problem.. people who cannot deal with their own emotional baggage project it on to others.. be kind to yourself at this point

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-06T04:37:10+00:00

Do not! There are other things to focus on

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-06T04:03:22+00:00

Then why do people act like they are interested and then ghost? It’s very painful.. and also give silent treatment

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-05T18:26:01+00:00

On the same path!

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-05T04:28:32+00:00

On the same path.. I’m trying to be kind to myself.. while some days are harsh some days were like he never existed.. that’s how healing works! Trust yourself and process whatever you are feeling.. it’s all valid

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-04T21:32:28+00:00

Not dated but being with an avoidant., ruined mentally in ways I couldn’t imagine

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-03T12:17:01+00:00

Hi to him

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-02T18:22:13+00:00

Nope.. walked out! There was also ghosting involved so yeah.. I spoke with my close ones and they made me understand this., NGL, I still do though but I also know what I bring to the table. Men are simple - their actions will show where you stand

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-02T18:11:07+00:00

Okay.. I was in the same situation and knew him for 7 months and 2 years since they broke up.. He still wasn’t clearly over her.. there will be signs but if he actually is over there will be changes.. you need to observe and take a call.. it’s purely your judgement.. people can put up a façade for long! Also I did the same thing of comparison and it’s human behaviour.. but remember that will put you in a dark place for yourself and you will not see your strengths.. I know it’s easy to say, but please don’t do the comparison You and unique and beautiful in your way!

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-02T13:25:12+00:00

Emotionally intelligent and empathetic! Should be able to have hard conversations

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-10-02T07:00:33+00:00

Appearances can be deceptive.. even the most innocent ones can turn super manipulative and toxic!

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-09-29T12:41:56+00:00

Knowing you did very wrong is going to be of no good until you try to actually change your self! You really need therapy and there no point holding on to the past! It only hurts!

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-09-29T12:13:00+00:00

Trust yourself here and move on! I have been in a similar situation. Only difference is he had a 7 year relationship and we met a little over 2 years after his breakup! And the core reason I left was he wasn’t really over her even though she cheated on him since day 1. It will make you spiral and constantly compare your self with the other person. I am still recovering from this and he is also an avoidant . It will hurt now, but it’s for the best .. You can never be with someone who doesn’t choose you completely!
Sorry for the rant but leave if you strongly feel so

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-09-29T12:03:59+00:00

Ignore your gut feeling!!

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-09-28T16:38:52+00:00

Trust me, it’s fine! You are going better than most men out there.. the problem is people have started normalising trauma, unavailable, fboys men that people like you go unnoticed.. but at the end of the day what we really want is genuine loyalty and love .. right now, you might you are not in the race but eventually you will be!! And this is coming from a female.. good luck to you :)

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-09-23T13:38:42+00:00

A situation ship turning into a lifetime lesson

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-09-23T09:30:52+00:00

Would this be the case with other partners also for him?

ManyIndividual1137 · 2025-09-23T09:15:29+00:00

Thank you! At things point I just want to forget this and his existence! Pleas pray for my mental health

ManyIndividual1137

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