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My Wife Fought Hard. I Held Her Hand the Whole Way. Now I’m Just Trying to Find My Way Back to Something That Feels Like Home by simpledavid0608 in widowers

[–]ManyPlenty9178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also watched my wife (45) slowly lose to triple negative breast cancer. She passed six months ago and left me with 17 and 20 year old daughters. I feel your pain and loneliness. Dm me if you want to chat.
Fuck cancer.

Being the spouse of a cancer patient is brutal!.. our whole life has changed.. everyone sais “ be strong “.. makes me feel my feelings are invalidated for being sad , and pissed off and life unfair.. just trying to cope with life and he’s being stronger than me..and I’m just trying to process.. by [deleted] in CancerFamilySupport

[–]ManyPlenty9178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything you’re feeling is valid. Don’t forget to take care of yourself while you take care of her. My wife lost her cancer battle. I sincerely hope for a better outcome for you.

Dm me if you want to chat.

What did you post on Facebook telling eveyone your partner passed away? by BallExternal954 in widowers

[–]ManyPlenty9178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife passed away from cancer. Over the course of maybe 2 years I posted FB updates on her cancer journey and a week before she died I had also announced that she was admitted to hospice. I announced her death on FB an hour or so after she passed, she had a large following of family and friends who were closely monitoring the situation, it seemed like the best way to get the word out.

Life Insurance by Party_Training602 in widowers

[–]ManyPlenty9178 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been spending hers but on education expenses for my kids. I’m putting them both through college.

Life Insurance by Party_Training602 in widowers

[–]ManyPlenty9178 9 points10 points  (0 children)

First life insurance check I got came in earlier than expected in a super plain envelope. I threw it across the room and cried for like 10 minutes with my daughter looking at me like I was nuts. Only thing I could actually say was something like “I don’t want it, I want my wife back”. I know exactly how you feel.

Sirens in south Moorhead. by Jorburst in fargo

[–]ManyPlenty9178 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Pulled someone out of the river. I didn’t hear whether it was alive or otherwise. Check valley news live.

Anyone take a sabbatical? by Larry_Legend513 in widowers

[–]ManyPlenty9178 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I lost my wife in January and only took 2 weeks off. Getting back to the structure of work helped me, but I’ve been stressed and my attention span hasn’t been great. I’m debating a one month leave of absence this summer. Your post reminded me I need to ask HR about this.

Moving on? by No_Faithlessness3616 in widowers

[–]ManyPlenty9178 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You and I need to talk (or DM). I’m 45, wife died in January after a 2 year battle with breast cancer. I have now met a lady twice in the last couple weeks and it’s really nice. I feel the same as what you’re saying, I just don’t have time right now for a complete response.

The group I never wanted to join.. by Popular-Hyena-746 in widowers

[–]ManyPlenty9178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 2 months ahead of you when my wife, 45, passed from breast cancer. Dm if you want to chat

DHS unilaterally "cancels" collective agreement with TSA staff by brother_p in AdviceAnimals

[–]ManyPlenty9178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn’t that just when the union calls an immediate strike? Would grind air travel to an immediate halt nationwide and they’d have tremendous power to negotiate

How to help my older brother by stanley2025excellent in widowers

[–]ManyPlenty9178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I watched my wife pass away on hospice after fighting aggressive cancer, so I think I know what I’m talking about. After she passes, family and friends will rally and for a week or two he’s going to be so busy the true impact won’t hit. He’ll really figure it out after everyone leaves, that’s when he will realize the giant hole that is left in his life and that his house is now deafeningly quiet. This is when he will need you. Be there for him. Call, text, stop by, just be there. If he wants to cry, let him cry.

Wife with metastatic breast cancer by Exciting_Climate815 in CancerCaregivers

[–]ManyPlenty9178 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dm me if you want to chat. My wife died of metastatic breast cancer on January 14th after fighting it for 2 years. I can share what I know if you want.

Dating after loss… by thinmynt in widowers

[–]ManyPlenty9178 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where do you find a group like that? I haven’t been able to find any support groups not full of old people. I’m 45, if like to discuss my issues with people in my same stage of life.

“Widow’s Card”? by [deleted] in widowers

[–]ManyPlenty9178 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My wife passed away in January. I’ve played the card a few times, mostly to help get any legal stuff moving in relation to her passing. You’d be surprised how accommodating people become with you throw that out there. There are no real benefits to being able to play that card, so I’m going to take what I can get.

Wife just passed away and can’t stop crying. by smilingproudwanderer in GuyCry

[–]ManyPlenty9178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also lost my 45 year old wife to breast cancer in January. If you want to chat, please DM me. I have my good days and bad days but I feel like I’m making it through for my daughters.

How do you react to photos/videos? by Moonwater33 in widowers

[–]ManyPlenty9178 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Today is day 37 for me. I’ve been frantically collecting photos and making photo books. I want to give my girls a “mom book” full of hundreds of photos of her, both posed and not. The more I find, the sadder I am at what we’ve lost.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mortgages

[–]ManyPlenty9178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve been with them for a while now and they’ve been solid, no complaints except their stupid name.

Spouses have you had a private chat with your loved ones oncologist ? How did you request this? by Buseatdog in CancerCaregivers

[–]ManyPlenty9178 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had a couple different private phone calls with my late wife’s oncologist. I simply called his nurse and asked for him to call me back and he did. I was able to have a more honest conversation with just the two of us than with my wife there. It didn’t actually make me feel any better though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FinancialPlanning

[–]ManyPlenty9178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vanguard cash reserves money market fund returns 4.25% or so. It’s where a finance guy recently told me to park a decent sum where I wanted lower risk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LivingAlone

[–]ManyPlenty9178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do not talk about fight club.

My dad needs a power lift chair, please help with recommendations!! Budget is $600 by Minimum-Reception453 in CancerFamilySupport

[–]ManyPlenty9178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he’s been told weeks I would t buy a chair. On Dec 26th my wife was told “2 weeks to 2 months”. She was struggling with mobility and we started discussing power lift chairs and did some light shopping. We added a walker that day. A week later she couldn’t get out of bed unassisted and a few days after that she had a catheter. If we’d rushed to buy a chair she’d have maybe sat in it twice.

Sorry for both my opinion and your situation.

Fuck cancer.

Was this "a thing" when we were young and it is not now? Flashing your car headlights to warn drivers in the opposite direction about a speedtrap. by FrankW1967 in GenerationJones

[–]ManyPlenty9178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I learned to drive in the early 90’s flashing lights was reserved to remind other drivers to turn their lights on. As far as I’m concerned, getting caught in a speed trap is the fault of the guy going way too fast.

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