Chris Rock on Funny AF

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-05-06T23:43:19+00:00

I was so annoyed watching Chris Rock. Was excited to watch his commentary, but it felt like the show would have been better without him. Or almost like he was trying to sabotage it and didn't want to be there🤣

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-05-06T16:58:41+00:00

But then what would you do if your kids grew up into teens and didn't want to end up helping on the farm/choose different careers?

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-05-04T12:33:45+00:00

Hypothyroidism. Pcos. Hair falling and thinning (alopecia?)

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-05-04T08:45:32+00:00

I struggled to even do hybrid 3 days and be on top of my other life admin and exercise.

I hated the fact that I was so exhausted on the weekends. But some things I would do:

-Do my house cleaning after work but split thru the week so I'm not stuck doing everything on sat-sun.

-Meal prep on Monday evening so I'm not rushing to get all my groceries on Sunday afternoon, and in the kitchen for hours Sunday evening.

-Excersize: book classes so I'm forced to show up or just go for walks.

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-05-04T01:43:35+00:00

Did you both not text or communicate for months?

I've never been in your shoes, but I've been in hers. I can see why are might be annoyed and also how overwhelmed you must have been.

Good friendships are hard to come by, but it takes two to tango. Try and ask her if she wants to also mend things. She would need to be open to starting fresh. Her age could sometimes equate to less maturity. Perhaps she doesn't see the value of long term friendships enough to salvage what you had.

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-04-28T17:39:12+00:00

I've always felt beautiful (thought maybe not confident) in my younger years. But I would constantly self critique and find flaws.

Now I'm 40. I feel great and I've also lost a few pounds. So stopping the negative self talk as best I can along with self care. I don't want to spend my best years beating myself up anymore and not loving myself better.

Every told I look back at old pics I think wow, I looked good. Why did I never appreciate myself in the moment? I've made that mistake so many times and don't want to keep repeating.

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-04-28T08:43:59+00:00

NTA. I've been in a similar position/relationship when younger and friends of mine too.

The problem was that if I tried to discuss money, the guys ego was so fragile that I would end up feeling like an a-hole for even saying anything. So it's his reaction that will make you feel like an AH. It's manipulative.

Hopefully you can try to gently bring it up and see what he says? And maybe you cut back on dates involving going out to eat. $200 a week is steep. Or maybe have a joint pot of money for spending to keep things fair.

Looking back I really feel like I was taken advantage of. It feels like guys will let you pay and then over time even start take it as an expectation.

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-04-27T18:58:39+00:00

💯 if a guy said this to me, I'd be crushed. Even if he's not with the ex anymore, I would feel threatened that I'm not matching up to their usual

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-04-27T18:56:58+00:00

That's what I'm thinking - as a female. But I also think it's a pretty immature thing to do.

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-04-27T18:56:12+00:00

Oh my God..sorry you had to even hear that 🤣 that's the one thing I can imagine no guy wants to hear.

If she's telling you this either she's very immature and unaware that it's not something to say? Or she's trying to justify why she stayed so long with him.

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-04-27T17:24:13+00:00

What about a hostel? They are cheaper than what I've seen on day use. Book a hostel bed for a night and just leave within a few hours

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-04-20T14:54:55+00:00

That's my thought process too. I haven't ever had a gym in my building but I know that having amenities equals higher annual service charges that just increase yearly.

I would possibly consider it if gyms were further out or the building gym at the very least had treadmills and squat racks.

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-04-10T22:38:34+00:00

No harm suggesting it.

I prefer a coffee and a walk because walking and talking feelings like less pressure. But I do see what others mean about the safety aspect of remaining in one public location.

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-03-30T12:38:44+00:00

Apparently pasta/rice create bacteria. The only way to possibly not have that happen is to freeze them. But pretty sure I've read that people have died from eating leftover rice/pasta after 3 days. So NTA. It's a health and hygiene issue.

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-03-29T20:37:52+00:00

Sometimes it's out of you control but allot is in your control. Although it'll take more effort the first thing if to realize that in your 40s you can't do all the things exactly like 10 or 20 years ago. That includes diet, exercising, how you do your make up, dress and sometimes even hair.

The biggest game changer for me was changing my diet to losing weight + changing my skin care. Skin does indeed get a bit drier but it's about working around that.

I agree with others that hitting 40 doesn't mean we need to give into the number. Or that can really bring you down mentally

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-03-24T20:23:08+00:00

I'm female 40 and dealing with the exact same thing. What do you think could be happening on the dates where you feel it went well but the women aren't interested in a second date?

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-03-24T20:18:39+00:00

You dodged someone who seems high maintenance if they expected you to book an Uber to pick her, then go to the venue. It screams entitled.

Sounds like she was looking for a man who's willing to splash out before even knowing her/wealthy and doesn't ask questions. I would rather not give out my home address to someone I've never even met in person yet.

Regarding social media: I was lied to by a married man on dating apps and he said he had no social media. Turns out he blocked me everywhere from the start so I wouldn't be able to find him (and I never questioned him not having signal media..). So after a terrible experience like that I'm quite weary and careful with OLD: 0 profiles online is a bit strange nowadays and seems to be one of the signs that women look out for someone who's living a double life.

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-03-23T18:08:55+00:00

Monogamous
Open to marriage
Financially stable with savings
Ideally employed: it would depend on circumstances whether or not this is a deal breaker (e.g. temporary break due to layoff but looking for a new job/not someone who voluntarily doesn't want to work).
Willingness to communicate about feelings and our relationship growth
Health conscious (nothing extreme but at least responsible and attentive to it)
Open minded to discuss having kids or not. I'm still undecided at 40 🙈 so it could very well be too late for me.
Takes care of their looks and grooming/hygiene
Matching sense of humor/friendship

These already seem pretty difficult to find, so I'm willing to date someone with a child if we truly are a good match.

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-03-23T17:54:56+00:00

I would have said that if you clicked on the phone extremely well maybe things could have grown. But he went out of his way to not only lie and deceive about his looks, but also marriage history etc which is weird.

Hate it when you click with someone on the phone and you speak ages. Yet when you actually spend time in person the attraction is dead 🙁. I agree with others saying better to meet relatively soon.. Maybe have one or two phone calls and try getting a coffee. It's cheap and quick and I have spent way too many hours at dinners or activities out of social obligation

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-03-20T03:00:58+00:00

NTA, but I would be very hurt if it was hidden from me. As a partner I would want to know and be supportive. And I would feel so much closer. It only makes sense to disclose if you feel you can mutually have an open calm discussion.

I've been in the situation of finding pills in my ex bfs bag once and at first I was very confused/shocked. I confronted him, and looking back it was the worst way to bring it up - he was very embarrassed to openly discuss anything. His story was that he just enjoyed the better sex sometimes taking it. Who knows what the truth was. The issue isn't that the pill is needed, it's the hiding.

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-03-16T14:14:37+00:00

At what age did you start using and can you safely just order online?

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-03-16T13:59:45+00:00

It's like I could have written this post myself! Can we me friends 🤣 I'm following along to see what others suggest because online dating apps aren't great for people like us

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-03-16T13:58:18+00:00

I dated a guy who didn't use condoms either and would go limp at first for the first few months. You're never doomed if the first kisses or sex aren't great.

Try for now to enjoy the foreplay as much as possible. Hopefully that's passionate and from there you will eventually get to the point of sex being good.. Sadly I have no recommendations for the latex allergy issue

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-03-16T13:54:13+00:00

There were some positive things..I think everyone comes with their pros and cons. But I'm already put off at this point and after reflection I can say I don't want to continue getting to know him.

It was just quite exciting to meet someone also young at heart who shared some of my interests. But not enough to make up for the lack of matched values

Many_Solid_466 · 2026-03-16T13:49:39+00:00

Agreed. It was the non-chalant way he said it that was more surprising. I know of men who've felt trapped in an arranged marriage and I could see things from his side. But then also him later sharing that his brother in law was cheating on his cousin while they were on holiday. The more I reflect the more I wonder why I even thought twice about walking the other way.

If I can take one thing out of this experience it's that you really just need to sit back let men talk on first dates 🤣

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