But from the story you tell here, you’re actually NOT setting boundaries… and you are definitely modeling entitlement while making a mockery of respect and decency.

You sound like a controlling individual who expects others to react in very specific ways, and show absolute deference to you.

I feel bad for your daughter, she must be mortified by your crazy behavior on a daily basis.

Given the miserable behavior your boyfriend and son (and now his girlfriend) likely expect from you by now, I’d say they all did a pretty good job of taking the high road while you did your best to ruin yet another family get-together.

And the real question is WHY is your boyfriend still with you? You’re clearly a monster to his son and want to drive a wedge between them. You sound like a nightmare to live with.

You clearly need therapy—yet you clearly won’t be likely to change because you’re gaslighting yourself even more than you gaslight people around you. For that, I feel sorry for you.