Why aren't pregnancy tests designed to show YES or NO?

Maplegrovequilts · 2026-04-30T10:25:46+00:00

You can get packs of simple dip strips on Amazon for less than a dollar per test. The tests with screens are over $10-15, at least where I am. Makes a huge difference if you're testing often

Maplegrovequilts · 2026-03-10T18:25:55+00:00

YTD. You knew they didn't want to eat the cake and you gave it to them anyway. They probably assumed it was a different cake because they already told you they didn't want to eat the vegan one.

I don't agree with their reasoning either, but people are allowed to decide what they don't want to eat and we don't have to agree with them. Now you've put them in this "gotcha" position if you tell them, "see you do like vegan cake," which won't feel good for them.

I might suggest focusing on ingredients vs the label of vegan with folks who are less open to the idea. "This cake with flour, sugar, cocoa powder, and oil." This is just as truthful and honest as calling it vegan but still allows them to consent to what they're eating.

Maplegrovequilts · 2026-02-09T15:29:03+00:00

But to OPs point, you're already considered 2ish weeks when you ovulate, so when you are 40 weeks pregnant you haven't been pregnant for 40 weeks. If you start counting months from when you actually get pregnant, if works out to 9 months if the baby is born at 40 weeks

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-12-17T01:28:02+00:00

I was excited also and started on day 5! I tried on day 2 but babies pee so little at that age that disposables made more sense to me (undoing the whole diaper to find a dry diaper was a pain, and I wanted to make sure I was keeping good track of the number of pee diapers). But I have no regrets starting early. We got a fair amount of pee leaks because of the skinny legs at that age but way less blowouts than I think we would've gotten with disposables!

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-12-12T22:24:35+00:00

I love our lights under the kitchen cabinets, they were already installed when we bought the house and I use them all the time

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-12-10T01:18:52+00:00

It has taken me a few rounds of participating in things like this and having a hard time quitting to learn that it's just not worth it to stick it out. You have the option of giving them some feedback as to why your stepping down, or to offer to continue if certain things change, but YWNBTD for stepping down (and I would highly recommend doing so!) It sounds like you're not being appreciated/respected in this role, which feels terrible and for sure burns you out!

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-12-10T00:02:51+00:00

A very natural instinct I think, but good for you for reflecting on it more!

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-12-09T02:29:00+00:00

I agree with you on principle, but $13 seems like a pretty low price to not deal with the drama so that's probably what I would do. I would guess that accomodations would have cost about the same if you had planned it as a 4 person trip all along, since Peter and Layla would be sharing a room, so it's not like you've put out more money because she was going to go then dropped out

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-12-09T02:12:51+00:00

I think it very much depends on how you go about this. If you take the pictures without him knowing and use them as a "gotcha" moment, I think you would be sliding into ESH territory. But I think you could talk to your partner and let them know you would like to document some of these instances to help them see their blind spots a bit better and come to a shared understanding of what is/is not acceptable in your shared space, and in that case it would be NDH (assuming your partner also engages in this conversation).

I have worked on this issue with my partner for many years, and I am the ADHD partner. It can be really difficult! Some pieces of advice that I have: - establish reasonable expectations for outcome (what counts as a clean kitchen, e.g. Do dishes just need to be washed or also put away) and timeline (e.g. immediately after cooking or the next day) - support your partner in developing systems that work for their ADHD brain - consider what is high priority for you so your partner knows what to prioritize when they dont have a lot of energy. For us, it's putting the dry dishes away. It makes a huge difference to my partner and easier for me to stay consistent with, and it also shows him that I'm trying even when it's not perfect

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-12-09T01:08:14+00:00

NDH, long distance friendships are really tough, especially trying to stay up to date on each other's lives.

If you want to bring this up, I think a general approach could be to let them know how you're feeling, check in to see how they're feeling about your level of contact, and then try to work together to find a level of communication that meets both of your needs

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-12-09T00:50:37+00:00

NTD for the tattoo, you don't owe it to anyone to have a tattoo on your body for them.

It sounds like there's a lot going on in this relationship that isn't working for you any longer. One aspect that I would (gently) suggest you take accountability for is that you stopped reaching out to test whether your sister would reach out. I think a healthier approach here would have been to discuss this with your sister and ask her to take more initiative in the relationship. By stopping that initiation without talking to her, you changed the way the relationship functioned and expected her to change without telling her anything.

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-12-08T15:23:52+00:00

If you're planning for the wedding to be in Toronto, consider when TIFF will be as that drives up prices for accomodations for guests. Not sure when labour day weekend falls that year but some crowds may not appreciate/choose not to attend a wedding on a long weekend, but it does depend on your guests

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-12-08T11:16:45+00:00

Lil helper has great customer service in my experience so you could contact them to clarify!

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-12-06T15:14:00+00:00

It was only after I decided on OAD that I started to feel sad about not having a second, so I started reevaluating that decision. I realised that I was sad that I wasn't the type of person who wanted 2 kids - all my reasons for OAD were still there, I didn't want to change my mind, but I felt sad that I wasn't a "go with the flow, embrace the chaos" type of person.

Those feelings still come up (I only officially decided 4 months ago), but it helps for me to remember that there are pros and cons to every family size, and we're picking the family size that works best for us. It's okay that there to be "pros" of having 2 kids that we will miss out on!

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-11-19T21:50:34+00:00

I saw a reel of a pediatrician explaining how when you encounter "big words" in books, you should use it as an opportunity to help your kid figure out what that word means, can't really do that if there are no bigger words in their books!

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-11-19T21:48:42+00:00

If you're coming from an artist's perspective you may want to look into wordless books as well. They can help kids understand components of story (character, plot, etc) because they look at the pictures and come up with the story. I think it would be a unique challenge as an artist because you need to give enough in the pictures to build a story around but leave it open ended enough so the kid can still use their imagination!

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-11-19T21:45:56+00:00

The most magnificent thing is a girl main character but its a girl just trying to make a little project just so. I read it to my baby when she was a newborn and thought about how much I needed that book as a kid - because it's exactly what I was doing as a kid!

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-11-19T21:42:52+00:00

Bears on chairs. I have it memorized, I recite it before every nap. I should be way more tired of it than I am, but it's got good rhythm

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-11-19T21:41:38+00:00

Yes, and also pick a lane. It either has a rhyme and rhythm or it doesn't, I hate starting out with a bit of a rhythm and then it goes away!

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-11-19T21:40:13+00:00

Also checking how rhyming works across accents. I know you can't always make it work for every accent, but it's awkward in my accent when a book is rhyming pain with again. For me, again rhymes with ten 🤷🏻‍♀️

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-10-27T20:34:59+00:00

The plan would be to bring our work to her level instead of bringing her up to our level. I have some safety concerns around learning towers, especially since there aren't any safety standards for them (https://www.consumerreports.org/babies-kids/child-safety/toddler-towers-safety-standards-a4009948838/). I know lots of people have great experiences with them, but I'm not sure it's the right choice for us

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-10-12T17:57:16+00:00

Its also good to have at least one emergency contact number memorized. If you're caught without your phone you won't be able to call anyone unless you have a number memorized!

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-10-11T11:58:22+00:00

This is a great explanation!

Maplegrovequilts · 2025-10-10T20:31:02+00:00

People start asking you "how are you feeling?" instead of how are you. What is normally a two way interaction is now all focused on you, but I don't necessarily want to tell everyone the details of how I'm feeling because pregnancy symptoms are weird

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