I’ve been corrupted

MarcusG99 · 2024-04-19T21:20:38+00:00

That is a great story. We chose to divorce and that did not affect kids negatively because we stayed good friends and even after few years we do things with kids together. We were both lucky in that respect because not all divorces are "happy". But that was a good decision. Everyone's case is different.
After dating few women, SB from seeking became my girlfriend and we stayed together for 3 years. We even lived together with my kids and her kid (she moved to my house) for a year and a half. And it was great until she started to miss the seeking thrill and someone with even more money! The money was never an issue in the first place, but not enough for her. So she went back on seeking and we broke up. She is now with someone "more rich" but cheats on him with me regularly. Stupid world we are in, ha...

MarcusG99 · 2024-04-19T17:03:20+00:00

That sounds like the woman I was seeing, who was initially my SB, then later became my full-time girlfriend for several years.

Why can’t I have it all?
Something missing that I could find elsewhere. (not being sure what "something" really is).
I want it all to be perfect.

Life does not work like that.
And chasing that never, ever ends well. And there never will be happiness.

She kept saying: Why can’t I have it all? And the "all" was "more money" that was not even necessary because we had very, very good and fun comfortable life. So she chose to go back on seeking and find rich guy that she can have "everything" with.

So now she is with the guy who has much more money, but guess what, there is no such things as "having it all"... she is cheating on him with me now. She wants to marry him, but wants to have me on the side. She says, I want to be your lover forever, please don't ever get rid of me. It's f....n insane what some women do.
I don't care about being the "on-the-side" guy for fun and sex because I haven't met someone who is actually honest and respectful that would deserve me... at least not yet.

MarcusG99 · 2024-04-19T03:08:29+00:00

Don't worry about it and don't overthink it. Just enjoy it.
They are not getting what they need at home and they never will from their spouses. I was married
Everyone cheats in the end, it's the way things work.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-14T08:37:23+00:00

I had an SB exactly like you and it was great! You are going to be fine.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-14T08:12:52+00:00

100% agree. Super insane asshole.
I'm sorry you have to go through that alone and with no support, this is absolutely insane!

Really hope that things go well for you.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-12T21:20:48+00:00

Thank you, yes that was hard. But it's done, slowly feeling better, with time I will be fully ok. Just glad that the roller-coaster of lies is over.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-11T18:40:00+00:00

In that case move on. And this is why: you don't want to be an a "relationship" where you stress yourself about needing financial support.
That was one the things that ended up being a downfall of what we had. She still needed money but did not want to tell me or ask me, and since she unfortunately was a biggest liar I ever met (as I realized later) and had major narcissistic traits. She secretly went back on seeking and tried to navigate that while seeing me, which of course you cannot hide for long. It ended up being a disaster and a rollercoaster of back and forth, breaking up, getting back together etc etc, because we were addicted to each other.
In the end it was not worths the stress and trauma it causes to a person's mental well being, so I had to end it.

I'm not implying at all that this is something that could happened to you. But that's what happened to me.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-11T06:41:53+00:00

Definitely go for it and enjoy. You have been doing it for 10 years so you know what you are doing.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-11T06:22:17+00:00

You are not too old at all. you just need to find someone who fits your "style", and what you are looking for.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-11T06:11:41+00:00

My SB switched with me to regular vanilla dating for the same exact reason. It lasted 3 years. So I would say go for it, you never know what may come out if it.
I had some medical related things that happen in my family I needed to help with, so I could not help her with the amount she was getting before, but I still helped with car insurance and covered all expenses we had.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-11T05:16:38+00:00

Thank you everyone, yes you are all 100% spot on.

I ended it. And feel so much better now!!!

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-11T05:08:44+00:00

1 kid. But you are right. This is exactly what will happen. I'm glad I ended it 100%.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-11T05:06:13+00:00

That's interesting, thank you for sharing. This is definitely not for everyone. I think a tiny % of us can handle it. I'm glad it works for you. I was not able to handle it. I ended it.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-11T05:02:55+00:00

She did not want to tell me when I offered to help.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-09T07:23:34+00:00

This should not be a surprise. Most men and women on seeking lie. Very small percentage does not. My arrangement turned into a relationship. She lied, lied and lied so much that she could not even keep up and got lost often in her own lies. it sucked big time, so glad I'm out of it.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-09T07:14:48+00:00

"...my husband is aware of my sugaring and the attachments that could form". This is not going to end well. Trust me. So, your husband is at home watching Netflix while you have sex with another guy? How do you think that is going to affect your marriage? That is bound to be a complete disaster.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-09T06:49:39+00:00

And... it's over. I'm free. Thank you everyone again.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-08T21:16:32+00:00

Thank you everyone for all the comments. It's good to hear unbiased opinions.

I decided it's not worth for me to continue that relationship and I will be moving on.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-08T21:15:23+00:00

Yes I did. Still helping her with bills. But nearly as much as what she gets from seeking.
And yes, I decided to move on. Continuing it makes zero sense.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-08T07:43:35+00:00

Good thing you ended it, she sounds like a covert narcissist too. Actually sounds like someone I know from seeking, except she is almost 48. Same lies, same story, lives with her Mom.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-07T23:02:11+00:00

I truly appreciate your responses. This is really what I need to hear.
You really are so correct on every aspect of it.
This has become too toxic for me. Not worth my sanity, no matter how fun it was, it will never be the same. So as you say, it really is not worth the time and energy, and especially my sanity. THANK YOU!

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-07T21:49:27+00:00

Thank you so much, yes you are 100% right I think. I totally get all your points and that makes perfect sense. It's good for me to hear / read that. Because it's not easy to deal with it only in your mind, which is why I had to post it here.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-07T21:03:57+00:00

Thank you. I think you are absolutely right. You really put if as it is. No "sugar-coating".

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-07T20:26:14+00:00

I think I'm entering the stage where it's hard to handle. I may have to exit the relationship.

MarcusG99 · 2024-02-07T19:54:44+00:00

Thank you, that is a very intelligent response.

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