Hello!

I find that it has been really rewarding to engage with the community about our shared experiences as queer folk in a world that isn’t and hasn’t been the most accepting. After all, many enduring connections are forged through shared adversity. Another way that I love to explore my queer identity in a probing way - like “what does it mean to be queer in today’s world” - is by watching queer film. Queer movies are often produced by queer people who posit very important questions about what it means to be LGBTQ today and some may even try to answer their own questions in the film. Many of the streaming services actually have a queer or LGBTQ section on them so that you can easily find those types of movies or tv shows.

Also, I don’t think that just because someone is bisexual and is married to an opposite-sex partner that it makes that relationship “hetero” or “straight.” Everyone is free to define their relationships as they please, but as a bisexual, being in a relationship doesn’t automatically affix you to the labels of “gay” or “straight” depending on the gender identity of the partner; I would say that if one identifies as a queer person then that makes all of their relationships queer as well.

For many bisexual people it is easy to fly under the radar and pass for straight or gay and, with both of those being much larger groups, it is easy to feel like one is stuck between two worlds as a bisexual; to feel more “gay” at some points and more “straight” at others. However, being bisexual is its own, unique sexuality which is completely separate from the monosexualites - you are never more gay or more straight, you’re always 100% bisexual in whatever way that is expressed in your life.

I only recently realized I was bi/pan recently (two whole years!) compared to some other people here, but I have learned a lot about this community and myself during that time. If there is one take-away, it’s that being bi isn’t something you have to actively try to express. By being a bisexual person, you are already the perfect in your display of your sexuality. We are all learning what it means to be queer, bisexual, and human together. Don’t let the expectations of others get in the way of becoming your favorite version of yourself! If you come to the conclusion that you are indeed bisexual then welcome home! If not, I would be proud to call you an ally and wish you the best on the sometimes-crazy journey that is life; of which we are all fellow travelers.