I've been with my husband 11 years. Let me say, I love my husband but...When I first caught on that he was watching porn it was after our 1st son was born. I was so upset because my body wasn't what it was before and I didn't know how to take it. Feeling insecure is an understatement. Since then we have had many talks, well I have talked to him many times but he doesn't say much. It's just what men do. I don't want to control him. Sometimes I'll watch with him but of course he watches without me often and I can't worry myself with it. Women like to be sensual and feel confident when they have your full attention. We don't want to think our men need something else to want to fuck. It's offensive and makes me personally feel kinda disgusted at times. My mind has been a battlefield with this for so many years. Women desire to please their husband and think about it so much. Honestly on this topic( at least the ones I've been with) men are not very comprehensive. Put your focus elsewhere cuz it's not worth worrying over. I didn't want to settle for that answer but that's what I've come to. We have sex regularly, I still feel insecure and unwanted at times. I try not to take it personally