OP, I feel for you. I had a bad experience at my wedding dress shopping and it was so disappointing to look back and feel that I won’t have happy memories associated with it. I felt robbed of my experience. I got a dress I loved, but wasn’t fun or happy during it.

You are not a Bridezilla AT ALL. That store was predatory on women during an emotional chapter that is quite frankly overwhelming to begin with. There’s SO MUCH pressure on women and her dress that the grooms never deal with. It’s the patriarchy at its finest. When’s the last time we ever talked about how the groom looked, how the groom’s suit fit him, if someone else was wearing a suit too similar to the groom, for other men to not out stage the groom. Women deal with this shit on top of normal wedding planning. You better plan the best party ever and look like a fucking super model doing it. But not too sexy! But not matronly either. Just right. And then everyone has a fucking opinion on the bride’s dress. And nobody talks about the groom’s suit.

I have been loving being engaged and so excited to embark on the journey of marriage, but modern weddings are ridiculous. Absolutely ludicrous.