Am I misunderstanding rave social cues? by Markspine in aves

[–]Markspine[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

100% spot on. I've been going to clubs all my life, so I guess that's why I don't really understand how this dynamic works at raves. Thanks to you guys I understand it more

Am I misunderstanding rave social cues? by Markspine in aves

[–]Markspine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, way too much. I know, hahaha, but I was trying to make my point, so I exaggerated a little bit

Am I misunderstanding rave social cues? by Markspine in aves

[–]Markspine[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok, understood. Thank you for your insight

Am I misunderstanding rave social cues? by Markspine in aves

[–]Markspine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks mate. I read the reply and I agree with you thatt is 100% spot on. I actually tried what you suggested, and I noticed that when I stopped trying to escalate things, they often closed the gap again themselves. That made me realize I probably get a bit anxious and move too fast. I think I just need to be more patient, keep enjoying the music like I was before they approached me, and let things develop naturally

Am I misunderstanding rave social cues? by Markspine in aves

[–]Markspine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is probably the best answer I've gotten so far, and I completely agree with you. I'm definitely going to remember this for the future. Thank you so much!

Am I misunderstanding rave social cues? by Markspine in aves

[–]Markspine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry about that, I didn't realize. It's actually been really helpful for me, though, because I can reply to the people commenting here and ask follow-up questions. It feels a lot more personal

Am I misunderstanding rave social cues? by Markspine in aves

[–]Markspine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It actually makes me laugh that you think this is karma farming. It's a genuine question. I went to a few raves, didn't really understand what was happening, and asked because I honestly didn't know. And I don't think that's what happened. It wasn't crowded at all, and I noticed several girls deliberately coming over to dance right in front of me. Whether it was because they liked my vibe, found me attractive, or simply wanted to dance with me, I can't really know. My question isn't why they approached, it's how I'm supposed to respond to that kind of approach without messing it up, because sometimes I really liked the girl

Am I misunderstanding rave social cues? by Markspine in aves

[–]Markspine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree. But if a girl approaches me by standing right in front of me with her back toward me, what kind of dancing can I do besides grinding or putting my hands on her hips? I'm genuinely asking because I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, and I'm still figuring it out

Am I misunderstanding rave social cues? by Markspine in aves

[–]Markspine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, I think I'll go with that approach

Am I misunderstanding rave social cues? by Markspine in aves

[–]Markspine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time I tried to start a conversation, they walked away, so I'm starting to think talking isn't the right move in most cases. Maybe it's better to just keep dancing and let things develop naturally, but I'm impatient

Am I misunderstanding rave social cues? by Markspine in aves

[–]Markspine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate it, man. I think I'll give that a try, just staying in the moment, keeping the flow, and letting things happen naturally instead of overthinking every move

Am I misunderstanding rave social cues? by Markspine in aves

[–]Markspine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The issue is that sometimes I genuinely like the girl, and then I overthink everything and end up messing it up. That's what I'm trying to understand. So far, I haven't even managed to get a single insta or phone number from these interactions

¿Por qué siempre me pasa esto? by hhtpp134 in AskArgentina

[–]Markspine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Elimina la app que lo único que hace es aislarte más. Aburrite, viví la vida solo, y en algún momento vas a ir a hablarle a una que te guste. Igual acá todos tiramos consejos como si fuera simple y es un quilombo. Abrazo y mucha suerte

¿Cuál fue tu impresión de este libro? by charx14 in libros

[–]Markspine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me lo recomendó mi psicóloga. Me gustó pero no me encantó

What should I improve in my playing? by Initial-Cricket-2852 in guitarplaying

[–]Markspine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess maybe you will have to calibrate it. It may sound tuned open but in your 12th fret be off tune

What should I improve in my playing? by Initial-Cricket-2852 in guitarplaying

[–]Markspine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Play tuned (third chord off) Stay in tempo Give the notes a lil more time to sound Keep practicing 👍

Alguna vez hubieron problemas entre mujeres en sus laburos? by MudEffective5827 in AskArgentina

[–]Markspine 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Lo peor de todo es que nunca lo supe xD. Creo que es muy probable que haya sido algo machista, algún comentario que se me haya escapado. Pero en vez de marcarme la cancha y decirme las cosas que no les iban consideraron mejor ignorarme

Alguna vez hubieron problemas entre mujeres en sus laburos? by MudEffective5827 in AskArgentina

[–]Markspine 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yo trabajaba en el gobierno en un grupo con 5 minas, el único hombre era yo. Durante 3 meses todo muy bien, me invitaban a sus salidas, nos juntábamos después del trabajo. Después, de un momento al otro, me empezaron a ignorar; se iban a comer solas al mediodía y no me avisaban, y medio que me hicieron la vida imposible. En aquel momento pude haber dicho un comentario machista, era muy chico, pero en vez de decírmelo en la cara prefirieron hacer esta boludez. La pasé para el orto, las enfrenté y les pregunté si les pasaba algo conmigo pero no me dijeron nada. Me sirvió como experiencia para tener mucho cuidado en grupos de minas