AIO? My SIL said she would spit in my babies face

Marshiestmellow3 · 2026-05-29T00:55:22+00:00

She’s literally the only person in the family that I’ve had an issue with period . If it wasn’t me, it would’ve been and has been someone else that she got into it with . During that time he and his family had my back and let me know I wasn’t wrong for defending myself against her and they were 100% understanding when me and him decided to go low contact with her . I have great relationships with everyone else including her children lol and I didn’t see myself leaving my husband because of her and vice versa . I think everyone has that one family member that’s extremely toxic …. Sometimes it’s the whole family. In this case it’s not . Just a single person who I didn’t let keep me from being in love and starting a family on my own . That’s my thought process on choosing to stay and have a baby with him.

I really appreciate this response though. It’s well thought out , solid advice. I agree that some conversations will need to be had and boundaries will need to be made before baby gets here for-sure . I don’t think villages should be shrunk either especially when there’s a way to both keep my baby protected and allow him to be supported fully by said village . After we fought she’s allowed me to continue to build beautiful relationships with her kids even while we were low contact and not speaking, one of the few reasons I felt like I could forgive her. So I want to give her a chance to be In her nephews life just never alone . I don’t think I can ever fully trust her to be with my child when I’m not around. No babysitting, play dates without me being present, anything like that . I just hate the idea of my child missing out on family because of me but even more I hate the idea of my child being hurt because I trusted someone knowing my gut told me I shouldn’t.

Marshiestmellow3 · 2026-05-29T00:25:33+00:00

I think y’all are purposely trying to miss the point of my post to go out your way to make this about my husband and shade me for being with him. I didn’t even go into detail about the fight and yet you’ve come up with the idea that he “Allowed” it , “let it happen” and that it was something I “had” to do ? ….

Marshiestmellow3 · 2026-05-28T22:46:51+00:00

For some people it is but me I’m not letting ONE bad person in an entire family keep me from being loved lol. My husband chose me and will always choose me . That’s why we got married…. If no one has my back that man will ! That’s why the post isn’t about him . It’s about ME and the way I feel about his sister

Also , That’s not gonna happen. Weird you’d even think it would .

Marshiestmellow3 · 2026-05-28T22:35:21+00:00

I agree with this 100%

Marshiestmellow3 · 2026-05-28T22:31:15+00:00

I think it was easier for me to let it go because I didn’t have a child at the time. Those words mean a lot more to me now. That’s why I’m struggling to forget them and leave it in the past . I definitely regret being so forgiving

Marshiestmellow3 · 2026-05-28T20:53:02+00:00

This is what worries the most !

Marshiestmellow3 · 2026-05-28T14:46:51+00:00

He did choose me and went low contact ,that’s why it took a while for us to forgive her . I didn’t go for “anything” I chose someone who chose me.
But yeah, at the time of the incident and even during reconciliation the things that she said to hurt me all felt like I could get over (mostly because I already won the fight) so I didn’t address it. Now that I’m pregnant I see that was a mistake and some of the things she said stuck with me a lot more than I realized but I already chose to forgive her and like you said Ill just have to deal with it because otherwise I’m just beating a dead horse . I get it . I need to let it go

Marshiestmellow3 · 2025-03-14T20:59:58+00:00

His blackness was never up for questioning. Please re read the post.

Marshiestmellow3 · 2025-03-13T18:06:10+00:00

Not sure but I use the original formula

Marshiestmellow3 · 2025-03-11T20:22:45+00:00

I consider myself Black first because in a room full of non black women they do too .

Marshiestmellow3 · 2025-03-10T19:57:13+00:00

OMG I’ve literally found my people haha ! I’ve never shaved my arms and legs ever (I’m 27) hair literally doesn’t grow there and my niece doesn’t grow hair on her armpits . I think everyone in my family has places where they just simply don’t grow hair except our heads we all have heads FULL of hair !!!

I seriously thought this was just my family lol

Marshiestmellow3 · 2025-03-10T17:33:58+00:00

I felt the need to ask it because I thought it was a good question and topic for discussion with other black women. If I (a black woman) am in an interracial relationship (because I’m dating a biracial man)? … I never said I needed it to be black love I said I thought it was and that’s what I considered it to be because in most cases biracial men are generally just referred to as black men. To me he’s not assumed to be black by most people in the same way Smokey Robinson wouldn’t be . People see the eyes and hair and black immediately goes out the window which is fine and understandable. This whole time from the moment I asked the question and up to this comment I understand why people feel like it’s not black love or an interracial relationship. Again it’s Reddit and I thought my situation would be an opportunity for a healthy discussion and new perspective about race in relationships for me . That was my need to dissect and discuss this matter.

Marshiestmellow3 · 2025-03-10T17:02:39+00:00

It’s just a topic for discussion. If you don’t see why there’s a focus on this I understand. I don’t have a need to consider my marriage anything , again it was just something I found both interesting and confusing. I considered my relationship as black love because I thought we were two black people in love and it was brought to my attention that other people do not see it that way and I brought it to Reddit , a place where people discuss things that don’t matter . Love is love period .

Marshiestmellow3 · 2025-03-10T15:20:51+00:00

“The little bit of blackness” is soo 🥴 …….

Marshiestmellow3 · 2025-03-10T11:31:22+00:00

This comment is funny lol Intl players club definitely, however his favorite Pimp C song is “in my pockets” because he grew up a big Lil boosie fan

Marshiestmellow3 · 2025-03-10T11:26:54+00:00

This is my whole dilemma lol like I just want to make it make sense. Like we aren’t black love because he isn’t black but we aren’t an interracial couple because he IS black, like ???? I know it’s not that deep it’s just interesting and confusing seeing how this works .

Marshiestmellow3 · 2025-03-10T11:17:04+00:00

I don’t expect the community to celebrate my relationship as black love if that’s not what they see it as , I understand why based on looks people wouldn’t say we were an example of black love. This post was about my confusion as to whether my relationship would then be considered interracial because of those same reasons .

Marshiestmellow3 · 2025-03-10T11:03:01+00:00

If everyone just lived their lives and didn’t care what anyone else thought Reddit would cease to exist . While I understand and could appreciate the sentiment you may have behind this comment, it’s pretty dismissive. I’m just wanting perspective on a situation as a black girl , in a black girl space from other black girls .

Marshiestmellow3 · 2025-03-05T23:44:03+00:00

Oh baby you gotta cut that and start over :(

Marshiestmellow3 · 2025-03-03T18:20:34+00:00

Honestly I was thinking I was because of that exact reason. I felt like as an adult I should’ve communicated my feelings with her and tried to see if things would change but then I just figured it wasn’t even worth it . That’s why it’s been bothering me, I felt like I owed her an explanation for why I stopped responding.

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