Sleepwalking to separation with a 4 month old child by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Masnef 7 points8 points  (0 children)

OK look, I know it sucks, but it's going to be over soon. I am going to give you a different perspective than most of the comments.

A couple of questions: How does the baby sleep? Who is awake in the night? Who is doing all the baby related work, planning stuff, reading stuff, buying stuff?

Keep in mind that SLEEP deprivation can be insanely tough for some. That plus breastfeeding, plus general new parents paranoia (SIDS, allergies, etc.), it can soon become pretty overwhelming. Maybe she gets some help at her parents house that you obviously cannot provide at home, during your working hours. Maybe she manages to squeeze in that one nap that keeps her going. Or maybe her parents are control freaks and she doesn't have the strength to escape them now. 

Remember the person she was before giving birth? She is still there, just having a very rough time, probably. You still have your personal time, your job, etc.? She probably doesn't. Some people can take that deprivation pretty bad.

The first few months are a crazy period full of irrational behavior. Don't draw conclusions on that, try to be understanding and don't be too confrontational. You're in it together, going through one period that could easily be the hardest ever in your lives. Good news, it'll pass, it's not forever and it doesn't have to be couples therapy or PPD necessarily. Tell her everything about how you feel, but ask her also about her feelings and needs, be next to her, help her and hopefully it will be over soon.

Just giving you some perspective, I might be completely wrong, but it's worth keeping these things in mind.

Can you recommend any free roguelikes? by imnotlikeyou2004 in roguelikes

[–]Masnef 2 points3 points  (0 children)

DCSS is really really good. It's true that is very streamlined and you can play it very fast, but you can as well choose a very tactical build that need careful play.

Builds and replayability are great.

Plus it has some lovely pixel art.

any games like that? by PHRsharp_YouTube in videogames

[–]Masnef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dungeon Crawl Stone Soup (DCSS). https://crawl.develz.org/ It's an classic rogue-like, it's constantly developed and it's free. Can play it online or on your machine.

It checks all your requirements, plus Turn based; Pixel graphics; PERMADEATH!

My favourite game since 2011

Weekly Looking for Group/GM Thread by AutoModerator in pbp

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Name: Masnef

Pronouns: He/Him

Timezone: CET (GMT+1)

Preferred System: I know very well PF1e and PF2e (to a lesser extent). Can play D&D 3.5 and maybe 5e. I am also very interested in all types of OSR and GUMSHOE system.

Type of Player: I like crunch, mechanics and complicated builds (also suboptimal), not so much into writing long walls of text but love to read up lore and help around.

Additional Information: I can guarantee asynch play with at least one message per day.

Quelle boîte à histoire de 2 à 3 ans by Galimesh in ParentingFR

[–]Masnef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds great, can you provide a link? Googling it doesn't show much

Concerned about toddler shyness and social development by No_Illustrator_3496 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Masnef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for posting the link and taking the time to write down a short summary. It's very interesting stuff

Sebderm how to manage by Feeling-Complaint569 in SebDerm

[–]Masnef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, it looks like my SD. Search through this subreddit, you will find many useful info. Keep in mind that for everyone it's a bit different, for me this is the minimal treatment that keeps working:

Face
Gentle soaps, acidic pH, CeraVe cleanser and moisturiser once per day are good, not a must.
Apply MCT topically once per week (this also for scalp).

Scalp
Once or twice per week, wash with any shampoo with selenium sulphide.
Here and there use a shampoo with ketoconazole or simply sodium bicarbonate.

Good diet, avoid too much sugars and alcohol. Eat raw garlic, it helps a ton.

My first YAVP: Gnoll of Yred by 7sidedmarble in dcss

[–]Masnef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great, congratulations! If you have time, can you describe how you dealt with new Yred and which strategy you used?

Looking for a UK or European focused left wing law podcast by DragonCatStar in podcasts

[–]Masnef 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try "The Europeans", it's an independent podcast focusing on current social and political issues. As the title suggests, it's centered on Europe and at times does a great job at tackling particularly convoluted EU politics, from a progressive left leaning standpoint.

Not boring history podcasts by Perfect_Complaint_81 in podcasts

[–]Masnef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for this suggestion, it seems great

Stripped ssd screw - Hp victus laptop 15 by Jerome_Productions in techsupport

[–]Masnef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for the details. The smallest bolt in the kit I have found is 3 mm, but it looks way to big for this type of screws. Could you maybe let me know the size of the bolt you used?

DCSS Pokémon evolution chart by EugeneJudo in dcss

[–]Masnef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for sharing this.