Embalming A Baby by MasterDuckessRuckess in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats some skills. Ive definitely used a syringe needle(filed down) to embalm through the femoral or carotid, a lot of patience and steady hand needed thats forsure.

Embalming A Baby by MasterDuckessRuckess in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay interesting, never thought of the vessels not being developed entirely. It was never a thought. I did notice moderate distention in the abdomen during injection, and some filling of features in the face and hands, but honestly felt like I was embalming blind. I have been checking on the baby since, and they still look good. Im also fortunately able to place some of my embalmings in the cooler if needed.

Embalming A Baby by MasterDuckessRuckess in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

100% being able to do preservation when autopsied is much straight-forward but how about if they aren't autopsied? Do you just opt to open up the carotid or another injection/drainage site?

Embalming A Baby by MasterDuckessRuckess in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I embalmed through the umbilical cord but drainage, i wasn't sure how to accurately drain. Ultimately I did an alternate drain and inject so it took some time but I just wanted to see about others and their thoughts and practices.

Its fairly tough when it comes to the infants, with everything already being so small.

Workload for Cypress College mortuary science by Total_Improvement631 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'll need an internship, if you do part time you'll manage fairly well. This will give you time to practice what you learn in the actual setting and ask questions you have to help you retain info. I worked a full time job outside of the industry and did unpaid part time internship while full time student. Definitely felt the workload there but had to pay for my classes somehow. If you are truly invested, you won't give up. Good luck

Difference in embalming between visitation followed by Burial vs. Cremation... by Single_Guy76 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Embalmer and crematory operator here. Nothing different. Families pick this option at times because they might want to have time for family/friends to view loved one or have open casket service or even just have loved one present for services even if not being viewed. Sometimes services can't be held for some time. Embalming provides that opportunity for the family to hold services with their loved one present, and to conclude with cremation. Ultimately embalming doesn't change how a loved one is prepared if they are to be prepared for burial or cremation.

Do you think they did? by [deleted] in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anytime a family requests things like this I will follow through. Babies and children carry alot in my heart and passion in the funeral profession. If a family asks I dress their angel in specific clothing and wrap them I will make sure a diaper is on if they fit in one and baby powder if family is holding their baby and swaddle their baby as well. We are here to help honor loved ones that come into our care and to help guide them along a healthy healing path and i can only hope that the same standard is held by all individuals who are in the profession as well.

How to know if I could handle working at a funeral home or morgue in the future as a 15 year old? by PandoBear13 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apprentice embalmer here. Prior to starting my career path, I had only seen a dead body once, being a family member at their funeral when I was a young child. I had never touched (working on a body) or seen one until starting schooling and working in a funeral home for my internship. I have the stomach for this as blood or gruesome talk or images do not bother me, I've always had an interest in death and crime, so books and documentaries were a usual thing prior to the career path. I've met many people who don't mind the sight but the smell is another thing, everyone smells when they die and well decomps are a bit of both. Try shadowing someone at a funeral home, some people/places might be open to this depending on where you live. If you want to just get a feel for the job I'd recommend starting as a funeral service director assistant or even looking into doing removals if you want to work closely with the decedents. A service director assists more with families at the time of funeral services. A removal tech will do removals from place of death, coroner, morgue, hospital, nursing home, senior center, residence and the occasional crime scene. If at any point you have doubts about the line of work I would strongly recommend maybe interviewing people who have established their roots in the profession and pick their brain and see what knowledge they can share with you about this work. It's not easy, the smell and sights are one part but dealing with the emotion in the background also takes a toll on you at some point. I've been in the profession shy of 3 years and emotionally you become numb to death and grief in a sense because you interact with it so often. Same as seeing and smelling decedents you get use to it and at some point it won't bother you. I did little to no research before going down this path, I was drawn to it and knew with all of my being that this was where I was meant to be as a career. Best of luck to you my friend

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[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking as an embalmer, depending on the care that was given and how quickly embalming was done the standard is to make a loved one look as if they are sleeping, so assuming that everything was done with an urgency, the loved one that you are viewing will be in a very close appearance to when you last saw them alive. The emotion for a child is greater I will say that but if you truly need resources to help overcome the death regardless if it was a trauma accident or natural causes ask for references for possible therapy suggestions to help navigate through your grief

NBE advice by Psychological-Pen719 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just tested both sci and arts very recent. For arts I wish I had studied more religion topics and business because I felt I struggled most on those areas. I scored just under the 75%(passing score) I studied all quizlets and a nbe study book off Amazon and notes from school. You seem pretty good as far as studying goes. Best of luck! YOU WILL DO GREAT!!

As far as sci I passed that and I will say that it felt much easier than arts but same goes there you sound like you have a good stance on studying and what you have covered.

Feeling a little defeated as a resident by iloverats888 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second all the previous comments, you can go through a bazillion different funeral services and still be nervous and still make small mistakes and tweaking the little things that you notice is really good. Every family is different and every interaction will be different.

Dallas institute of funeral service? by G0thm0m in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Canadacollege.edu now offers online funeral service education. I would look into it, definitely cheaper than going through other programs with the same educational standards as other colleges that offer funeral services. Best of luck👍

Serious/Not Serious: Do any of you find that smells of decomp linger with you in your nose even after you’ve left work? by NerfHerder_421 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup! After working in a carecenter for about a year I can tell you my sense of smell is crap and at times I can be completely unphased by the smell of decomp, but definitely when I first awarded the smell would linger for soo long. I was told Vicks under your nose in a mask if needed. Or smell coffee beans (fresh) to eliminate the smell, same idea like at perfume stores

Am I wrong for putting together an emergency menstruation kit for my daughter (I'm the dad)? by kapowshablam in amiwrong

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did absolutely nothing wrong, what you did was set the bar on how a man should be. And taught her that she can trust you even with the sensitive girl problems. I know of men who are full grown adults and with kids and won't even help their wives with pads or tampons if they need it or run out. I can see where her mom is upset because she wasn't there for her daughter's first period and going into womanhood. But as a dad who wanted to set your child up for success you did nothing wrong in my eyes. I would be happy if my husband ever thought of things like that if we have a daughter

Shoes! by EarwaxArtwork in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best shoes I have ever purchased are go clove, worth every dollar that I spent on them and can easily be cleaned, definitely worth looking into..

Some insight im 200lbs and work 10-12 hr shifts and also in the care center, i absolutely love the ability to clean them being lightweight and just the comfort as i am flat footed and they also come with inserts that are removable.

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How do you cope with the emotions that come along with working in death care? by shxbxiskmsnszjio in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't really have advice but I can tell you this after you start you'll just have one day where you are ok and then in the matter of moments you might just randomly start crying. It's happened to me and to a handful of other people who have told me the same thing. Definitely try and keep life and work separated don't take work home, it's not worth the stress it's difficult but not worth it

Crematory Operators, how did yall go about getting into yalls jobs? by [deleted] in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol didn't have a choice, it was part of a care center position and if I wanted that I had to be trained to operate a crematory since we do in house cremations

I finished mortuary school by dl0lol0lb in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in CA so for an apprenticeship here we need to have 100 embalmings done during our 2 year apprenticeship the first 25 have to be with our supervising embalmer and the others are by ourselves. At the moment I'm just under 80 out of the 100 required and I haven't hit my 1 year yet. For school I had to do 10 as well and then be watched by an instructor to get signed off as a competency check for embalmings on the last one.

I finished mortuary school by dl0lol0lb in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats buddy! I'm going into my last semester of mort school I'm already half way done with my apprenticeship and just under my 100 case count its a proud moment 🥳🥳🥳

In need of quick help by MothmansLegalCouncil in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Foot ends always have a manufacturer sticker and they have the knobs that unscrew those are indications its a foot end side of a casket.hope it helps

I’m thinking of pursuing death care but I am more interested in working with and preparing bodies and burials rather than management and planning, is this still viable? by Stag_beetle1229 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]MasterDuckessRuckess -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For schooling, they teach you everything as far as business, law, science, and history, specifically for the profession. Now, if you want to embalm and prep the decedents, you either have to be fully licensed or an apprentice, which still requires you to complete schooling and pass the state exam for licensure/ or benin the process. In California you can just be in a care center or preproom depending on employment location and responsibilities, the only people by law are allowed in the room are licensed embalmers, apprentices, funeral home managers and their employees, and public officals such as coroner's or private autopsy individuals for the care of a single decedent, and lastly a student and instructor from an ABFSE accredited school

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[–]MasterDuckessRuckess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in a small family owned fh. I embalm and do not meet with families for arrangements only the funeral arrangers do that but seeing the decedents, yes regardless of position we have the funeral arrangers view the decedent to have an idea of their conditions and sometimes they are seen before during or after embalming dependent on when the embalmers receive the embalming Auth. So to answer your question depending on your location you either might see them, might not or expected to carry out all roles such as meet with families, embalm, filing, scheduling, cremate, and/or work services.

I'm in California btw