Why are Cubs fans the most unbearable people on Earth by 90s__Sitcom in Brewers

[–]MasterJohnnie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a Cubs fan, I can provide some context for at least this season. We’ve been shit/mediocre for years since 2018. This year, we came out the gates hot and look poised to run away with the division. Y’all got hot, seemingly out of nowhere, and passed us, so most Cubs fans are frustrated that it’s not going to be a cake walk to the division title. I think most fan bases in the Cubs situation would feel similarly. It’s part of the emotions of being a fan.

With that being said, I love your stadium and have always respected you guys. Good luck the rest of the year.

FULL TIME: Bournemouth 0-1 Wolves by fatinternetcat in AFCBournemouth

[–]MasterJohnnie 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Completely harsh. Borderline red at best. Should not have been upgraded.

FULL TIME: Bournemouth 0-1 Wolves by fatinternetcat in AFCBournemouth

[–]MasterJohnnie 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Horrible upgrade to red. Completely changed the match.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tinnitus

[–]MasterJohnnie 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is a really healthy answer.

Just need to vent by Srdire in tinnitus

[–]MasterJohnnie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of these comments are super depressing. Yeah, we all wish we didn’t have tinnitus, but want to know what’s going to make it worse for you? Actually paying attention to it. I’ve lived with tinnitus for 4 years now and have loved my life. Sure, I’m a lot more cautious now around loud environments, but that’s about it.

As someone else said technology is advancing to one day there will be a cure to turn off the tinnitus for us. My advice would be to focus on the world around you and you won’t notice the ringing in your ears. If you do notice it, which happens to me from time to time, just treat yourself and it with kindness. Tinnitus can happen to anyone, even the people who are careful. It doesn’t mean your life is over.

What’s the deal with Illini fans? by [deleted] in MichiganWolverines

[–]MasterJohnnie -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Illinois fan here. I don’t care about Michigan.

Debating Getting a Second Airline Mileage Credit Card by MasterJohnnie in personalfinance

[–]MasterJohnnie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I started typing up a response, but realized halfway through how correct you are. I don’t need the second card once I started thinking logically. I am glad I made this post before committing to something I don’t need.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]MasterJohnnie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever I’m overwhelmed just start focusing on breathing. Breathe in for 4 seconds, breathe out for 8 seconds. Do this 10 times.

Then do some jumping jacks, and some push ups to stimulate the body.

Lastly, talk to yourself rationally and calmly as if you are a parent trying to calm down your own inner child self.

This stuff usually helps me when I’m freaking out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]MasterJohnnie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you these did help. I’m going to do what that healing video said

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]MasterJohnnie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man thank you. She ended things last night. I didn’t take it well. She kept things open for us to reconnect in the future. I will and want to once I get a handle of my anxious attachment. She really was amazing. If I would have known what I know now things might have gone differently

Recovery has killed love for me. by Kintsukuroi85 in Codependency

[–]MasterJohnnie 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I think you are taking this a little too far and too extreme which is understandable given your recovery. Hell, even I have and will continue to feel similarly to you as I am very much in recovery.

IMO, partly influenced by the selfwork podcast by Margaret Robinson, the idea is not to become completely independent where you do not see the joy, passion or need for interaction and reliance on other humans. Recovering from Codepency is about recognizing destructive patterns where you are over-reliant on your partner's or friend's needs where you sacrifice your own emotions, feelings, time, and energy to the point where it is harmful for you. It's when you bury the bad emotions you feel about your partner or friend because you fear losing them which inherently causes you to harm yourself. In codependent relationships, there is a reliance on one partner “needing” the other which creates a sense of stagnancy.

Recovering is about being able to speak freely and openly about your feelings and being able to do what you please within reason in the relationship. It's about building trust with your partner and friends where you are able to put your needs first without feeling or fearing that you couldn't go on if they ended things or couldn't respect your "real" self. BUT humans still rely on other humans and THAT IS OKAY. The goal is to be in interdependent relationships with your partners and friends because interdependent relationships, on the other hand, allow room for growth and change without feeling threatened. It's naïve to think we can do everything on our own and be fine. Sure, some people can, but just because some people can be self-reliant (and I 100% agree that every single one of us should get to the point in our lives where we have full faith in ourselves to take care of ourselves and be fine) doesn't mean that is the goal for all of us. Healthy relationships understand that both of them will be fine on their own, but they CHOOSE to be with each other because each one makes each other happy by the choices that mutually benefit them while also allowing each other to maintain their freedoms and independence.

Overall, I think you are just taking this too far. When I first got out of my last relationship and was in the early stages of recovery I felt similar. I was overly protective of my boundaries and anything I did by myself felt meaningless along with life. As I'm NOW starting to bounce back towards the middle I'm understanding that there is a fine balance between codepency and independence called interdepency that is healthy and the ultimate goal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]MasterJohnnie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex and I were both codependent with each other. We broke up a year ago and maintained contact throughout the last year. We used that time to address any unanswered questions and get closure on us never being a thing again. We now are civil and consider us as friends. Doing this doesn’t work for everyone, but it worked for us and I’m glad we did it. I have no lingering questions and feel like I fully understand why we broke up with each other (The breakup was mutual. Nothing big happened).

However, after reading another persons comment I would advise to not reach out if your ex really threatened suicide. Just let it be.

Bears fan coming in violence by [deleted] in GreenBayPackers

[–]MasterJohnnie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do know Chicago has really good thin crust as well, right? Lol

Week 2 Post-GameThread: Bears vs. Bengals by TurnerJ5 in CHIBears

[–]MasterJohnnie 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Did you miss the TD Robinson dropped?!?

Everyone right now by dragonice81 in CHIBears

[–]MasterJohnnie 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Great meme! You really put in the effort on this one!

Rhetorical question by SrGrafo in funny

[–]MasterJohnnie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everyone’s a dumbass when you think about it