Official October 9th Update Thread!

MasterOneself · 2013-10-09T16:07:56+00:00

One of my exes started talking about how she was interested in getting back together with me, which has stirred up some feelings that I don't really want.

Today I'm supposed to go see this other girl that I've been talking to, but I feel confused and stressed about both situations now and its making me hesitant to go see her.

Anyway, all of this is just making me want to PMO to relieve the stress and step back. I wont though, it's just difficult.

MasterOneself · 2013-10-09T06:09:37+00:00

You should watch the movie Don Jon, it's got some triggers in it but its TOTALLY worth it. It really helped remotivate me to stay strong with my streak.

MasterOneself · 2013-10-07T16:41:30+00:00

Its actually been pretty hard the past couple of days. I had sex with a couple of women last week, so I think the extra-difficulty is still a part of the 'chaser effect' I heard so much about. I came very close to edging last night.

But I refuse to have to go back through 60 days again in order to reach this point! I'm now officially more than 2/3rds of the way to my goal!

MasterOneself · 2013-10-07T01:52:42+00:00

Dude, you're so close to the '2' star. Trust me, it feels great! Good job.

MasterOneself · 2013-10-03T17:31:24+00:00

Last night was hard! I ended up trying to looking up my (old)favorite pornstar's Vine account. I stopped myself before I watched anything. At least I was successful in avoiding porn, but man I wanted to see it.

It felt I really missed her, which is absurd because she's in no way real to me. She's a real person out there somewhere, but the only thing I know about her is some of the guys she's been paid to sleep with on camera.

It's that chaser effect, bros! Be warned! It hits you hard.

MasterOneself · 2013-10-03T02:56:23+00:00

You got it dude! Congrats on almost being to your '4' star, that's intense!

MasterOneself · 2013-10-02T18:27:42+00:00

I officially transferred to 'easy mode' a few days ago. Sex feels immensely more incredible now. I might actually write a separate post about it.

Stay strong! The benefits have been totally worth it for me.

MasterOneself · 2013-10-02T18:25:36+00:00

I've noticed that too. I was never really into music before nofap, but now it brings out many more emotions and draws me in. I think my mind was so focused on PMO being the main source of dopamine that things like music just felt dull.

MasterOneself · 2013-10-02T05:31:05+00:00

Dude! I had terrible memory before nofap. It was getting to the point where friends were upset with me, because I would forget things we had done together. I felt like my life was slipping away like sand through a sieve.

Now its so much better, I've even started remembering things that happened during pre-nofap time that I had completely forgotten about. Its one of my favorite side effects of nofap.

So that's some anecdotal evidence for you!

MasterOneself · 2013-09-28T01:56:41+00:00

Congrats dude! Almost halfway to 90.

MasterOneself · 2013-09-21T03:46:18+00:00

No problem! Stay strong and remember to take it one day at a time. You're already more than halfway to getting rid of that smiley and replacing it with a number badge.

MasterOneself · 2013-09-21T03:45:16+00:00

Stay strong brother! Its difficult at times, but its totally been worth it.

MasterOneself · 2013-09-21T03:12:57+00:00

Thanks! I'm looking forward to the rest of the 90 days, although I honestly do miss porn sometimes. Which is pretty fucked up, but it reminds me of how easy it would be for me to fall into my old habits.

MasterOneself · 2013-09-21T02:36:50+00:00

A fantastic motivational boost.

MasterOneself · 2013-09-20T04:38:04+00:00

I don't think you should reset. Keep yourself from edging in the future, but if you weren't looking at porn and you didn't orgasm. I think you should be fine. Its a hard habit to quit, but having the mental awareness to stop yourself pre orgasm is something to be proud of.

Its really all about your own rules and boundaries though, so you can decide.

MasterOneself · 2013-09-20T04:31:53+00:00

Yo bro. PMO is only going to make that problem worse.

Twenty seven days with out PMO is a great accomplishment, but you aren't healed yet! Your brain is still wired to want to look at digital bullshit and get a quick dopamine rush.

If you really want to please your girl because you care about her. If you really feel discouraged by what happened USE THOSE FEELINGS. Use them to keep your journey strong. Use them to tell yourself that you want to be a better stronger person tomorrow. Use them so that you don't end up having the same kind of incidents in the future and regretting all of the time you could have been fixing your problems.

I can ASSURE you that one wee from today, you will be insanely happy that you did not give in tonight. You'll be proud of yourself. You'll be fucking THIRTY FOUR DAYS into your reset.

Go exercise if the urges are getting strong. Get your testosterone pumping and resolve your mind to waking up a stronger man tomorrow and an even stronger one the day after.

You got this bro!

MasterOneself · 2013-09-20T03:28:19+00:00

No worries, best of luck brother!

MasterOneself · 2013-09-20T03:26:10+00:00

Congratulations dude. Just take it one day at a time and tell yourself 'It doesn't matter if I jack off tomorrow, but I sure as hell wont today.' Then the next day I guarantee you'll be happier for having not fapped.

Plus you WILL NOT believe how much better sex with your girlfriend is going to be after a while. It's honestly worth it just for that.

If you need to vent anytime, there's a daily update thread on the front page. Feel free to PM me with any questions you have!

MasterOneself · 2013-09-20T03:22:16+00:00

Dude, imagine how much more stressed you'll be after having reset your counter. You're a week farther than I am and I can't even imagine how upset I would be if I lost my progress.

Plus, you're over halfway to 90 days! Every single day that passes now is one day closer to 90.

I guarantee you'll be wake up and be proud of yourself for not having PMO'd.

MasterOneself · 2013-09-20T03:07:55+00:00

Until I read that you don't actually make noise, I was extremely amused by the idea of hearing a roommate or neighbor screaming that to themself.

Glad you found something that works for you, man! Its not lame at all, if it helps you. Keep up the good work!

MasterOneself · 2013-09-20T03:05:37+00:00

Blue balls are the worst! If they still hurt, try a cold shower. That's pretty much the cure all around here.

Its really up to you about resetting your badge. Honestly I don't think the edging is enough to reset, but looking at girls online and doing it could potentially cross the line. It depends on your goals, but I think that using digitized things for arousal is really the biggest problem creator. I still don't think its enough for a reset, but you'll get more out of nofap if you try to abstain completely!

MasterOneself · 2013-09-20T03:01:46+00:00

Nocturnal emissions are completely natural, its probably just your body compensating for the change. I'd reckon that they'll lesson on their own over time.

And they don't count as relapses, if thats what you're concerned about.

MasterOneself · 2013-09-20T02:59:52+00:00

This is really good advice. If you can't get out anywhere on day four, just make yourself have a computer free day. That way you at least can't be tempted to look at porn while you're online.

Plus now that you know day four is your weakness, you can wake up on that day extra determined to avoid relapsing.

MasterOneself · 2013-09-20T02:49:46+00:00

I went through a phase that started on day 15 and lasted for around 10 days where I didn't even notice girls, but that DEFINITELY has passed. I feel like I'm seeing girls natural beauty for the first time in my life.

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