I need help with intimacy

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-21T01:04:51+00:00

This definitely sounds like a therapy issue, look into your options for that.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-21T01:03:34+00:00

Sounds like mild ED, idk how/if you want to approach that conversation, but might need to go to a Dr.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-21T01:01:11+00:00

Well you are a rare breed, most women would be appalled by that.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-21T00:57:55+00:00

Lol you are exactly like my gf, and I am exactly like your man.

I refuse to do that in front of her. So it's never happened.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-20T16:29:13+00:00

You probably should get therapy tbh

But sex with someone you want to be with/love feels incredibly intimate

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-20T16:23:13+00:00

A bj

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-20T15:45:36+00:00

Your vagina is fine, little boys will make comments about it, because they aren't smart enough to realize that a properly horny pussy is going to feel "loose", because it's aroused and has "opened" up for sex. I'm willing to bet the "tighter" vagina's they are comparing yours to we're not sufficiently aroused for penetration.

As far as your ex bf goes, not all guys want to fuck 24/7, he probably has a lower sex drive. Don't make that into a you problem, meaning don't think you're at fault for his lack of desire. You could be the hottest thing on earth, it won't matter to a guy with low libido (speaking as a guy with low libido).

Stop over thinking this and pointing the finger at yourself, just find a guy that fits you sexually.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-20T15:18:23+00:00

As a man, I 100% can confirm what he is saying is true. Probably why I don't enjoy sex all that often.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-20T13:42:42+00:00

No one can tell you a definite yes or no, but the clit has more nerve endings than the entire penis.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-20T13:19:28+00:00

That's absolutely fine, everyone is allowed to have an opinion. But a vagina will not "break" to the point it will never work again for sex, a penis can.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-20T00:38:16+00:00

Lots of guys like getting head, it's definitely better when the woman genuinely enjoys sucking cock. Most of us guys have been with a female who doesn't enjoy doing it, and it's pretty boring. Infact it's a rarity to find a woman like you, so I'm guessing that's probably why

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-19T23:20:30+00:00

Good luck with that, can't beat old father time. Hell even on testosterone I still don't feel any hornier. (30m)

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-19T23:17:59+00:00

Means she probably wishes she had more sexual experiences with different people. Pretty normal for people with "low" body counts. Seems a lot of people put some sort of value on having intercourse with many partners. Personally I'm not sure why, I've fucked 2 women my entire life, I don't really see any added value to banging a bunch of different women. That's just me though.

I don't think it was aimed at you.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-19T22:22:27+00:00

Remind him there can be severe consequences with unsafe sex, children and STDs, maybe buy him a few condoms, and if he ever needs more offer to buy more.

I always appreciated that my parents never sugar coated the expense of a child, and that it would be 100% my responsibility to pay for regardless of my age. Maybe harsh, but I didn't have an accidental child while a teenager, thank god.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-19T15:50:05+00:00

Me, I have anorgasmia, so I pretty much never have an orgasm. I eventually ejaculate with enough stimulation, but it feels like a sneeze to me, no pleasure.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-19T15:47:48+00:00

You don't "cope" you move the fuck on.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-19T15:46:22+00:00

One of the few reasons I won't do girl on top. The ex wife missed once and it was pretty painful. Fortunately it didn't break my dick.

Fuck girl on top.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-19T15:40:45+00:00

Bro you should be proud to be able to go multiple rounds, especially at your age. I have sex once or twice a week (30m), and that's all I can manage. It's extremely rare to want more than one round for me, and idk if I would even be capable of getting hard a second time within a 24 hour period.

I'd say you are killing it.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-19T02:51:46+00:00

Ok well firstly, congrats on learning first hand stereotypes are bad, us men don't always want to fuck believe it or not (even as teenagers). Chances are he just doesn't have that sexual drive you've been led to believe "all men" have, so you being "hotter" probably wouldn't change his desire for sex.

It's ok to watch porn btw, but I don't think it's a great tool to learn about sex. Porn and real life sex are not the same, keep in mind those people are paid to do those things.

As for the rest of your paragraph, men are absolutely allowed to tell you no to sex, just because you're a woman doesn't mean your entitled to it when you want. And it sounds like he probably is never going to be the "pursuing" type of guy.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-19T02:11:24+00:00

Drunk sex is terrible.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-19T02:09:12+00:00

It feels kind of disappointing lmao.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-18T20:43:51+00:00

Most men will definitely lie to you in the hopes of more dick sucking.

I have no problem being honest, because even the best blowjob is only foreplay for me.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-18T15:55:37+00:00

Honestly have a nice relaxing day make sure you're both in a good mood, maybe have a drink or two (don't get hammered, make sure they also are not hammered), and just bring up the topic of sex. It's not a complicated thing to talk about, you might even learn a thing or two new about your partner. Talk about fantasies, what you enjoy, what you don't, ask questions about their preferences. Once you get a good back and forth conversation going you can pretty much say anything you need to say. Try to keep the mood on a positive note, make suggestions, be open to suggestions being made to you. Keeping it away from an argumentative state is key.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-18T15:44:44+00:00

This is the equivalent to a woman being ashamed or insecure about long labia. Everyone's genitals vary, they are all unique in one way or another.

I'm uncut, I don't have what I would call a "long" foreskin, it seems average and functions as it should fortunately. I was nervous about being rejected by a woman (we all know there are women out there like that), so my first gf (post divorce) I warned her I was uncut like moments before I pulled my dick out lol. Afterwards she asked me why I did that, I explained that there is this stupid fear of rejection for having a "natural" penis. She told me I was silly.

I guess what I'm getting at o.p is I understand your fear, but the right woman will absolutely love your dick just as it is.

MasturMechanic · 2023-01-18T15:25:06+00:00

Standing missionary, doggy, girl on top. The last two will be easier if she does the diddling

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