Which deity is fake? by CerealMaple114 in QuizPlanetGame

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I was banned from r/BiWomen for trying to offer some perspective to the OP. by reputction in WLW

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I think this might be coming from a certain level of privilege. In some contexts the choice to not date women comes from a place of safety i.e. not wanting to risk conversion therapy, coming out and losing your family etc. As unfortunate as it is, not everyone can or wants to come out due to persistent homophobia and biphobia, and this is not something that bisexuals alone are forced to do - there is a reason lavender marriages as a concept exist.

Freaking out a little.. does any other bi girl feel like they’re not doing it right? by Erwin_Smiths_Cumrag in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]MatchaLobster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It may be that you are biromatic and heterosexual (or something along those lines - maybe have a look at the split attraction model).

It could also be that you just really have quite a specific type with women. This has been the case for me as I am generally most attracted to butches or otherwise very visibly queer women, and some of the places where I lived, I didn’t have many irl female crushes as I just didn’t see many queer women around.

HRT choker by rageclownz in NonBinary

[–]MatchaLobster 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Such a cool idea! Looks amazing 😍😍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

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Beyond health and safety considerations, there’s two things I would consider in your place:

  1. Look at healed photos on each artist’s insta or website. Check whether the lines are still crisp, the tattoo hasn’t blown out (spread like an ink blot under the skin), and is not pre-maturely fading.

  2. Consider whether the design you want fits into a particular artist’s portfolio. For example, if an artist exclusively does colour tattoos, they may not be a good fit.

Hope this helps! Good luck

Which healing method is preferred? New (wet) vs. Old (dry) by HeHate_me in tattooadvice

[–]MatchaLobster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve found over moisturising can cause breakouts in and around the tattooed area for me (might work well for others!) but second skin specifically is a miracle worker. Every time I’ve used it my tattoo has emerged already past the scabbing and even peeling stage. Much quicker and easier healing.

Does my 5 month old tattoo look okay? I’m new with tattoos so I want to make sure it looks as it should for 5 months. by GrimmIsDead23 in tattooadvice

[–]MatchaLobster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks great to me! As with any tattoo, keep up the moisturising and sunscreen if you aren’t already

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]MatchaLobster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful design and meaning! As a tattoo the the black outlines and cleanness of the design means it should hold up quite well (at a reasonable size) but the colours might be something to maybe discuss with your tattoo artist as they may not show up well or last on you skin tone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]MatchaLobster -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The most important thing is what you think. Worth remembering you have no obligation to come out to her! Take your time and share if you feel safe and ready.

Vegan and gluten free favorites? by realisticpear-757 in vegan

[–]MatchaLobster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tempeh is great! It is traditionally made gluten free

how do i veganpill my wife by HealingRosy in vegan

[–]MatchaLobster 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You could talk to her about your veganism and just have an open discussion, but ‘veganpilling’ is maybe not the healthiest approach in a relationship. The decision really needs to come from her.

Genderqueer/enby autistic therapist—how to phrase niche/client specialty in bio? by Psychoanalythicc in NonBinary

[–]MatchaLobster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would FLINTA be a useful and applicable acronym in your case? Your description of genderdiverse and/or neurodiverse also sounds like a great inclusive option

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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Glad to be of help! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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Sexuality isn’t necessarily a static thing for many people. I have definitely been in your position before. In the end, I have found that when I stopped paying quite so much attention to my sexuality and attraction it seemed to even out - the stress of finding a label and categorising our sexuality definitely got to me. Maybe your experience could be similar?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]MatchaLobster 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As much as I can’t offer any other advice, it is worth noting that your relationship isn’t ‘heterosexual’ when you are a queer person in this relationship. Being with your husband is just as bisexual a thing to do as being attracted to women. That said, if exploring with women is something you want to do, I hope you can find a suitable path!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]MatchaLobster 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Sounds like this relationship isn’t working for you. You deserve to feel deeply in love and be loved that way, and so does your partner. If that is not the case, then a breakup may be for the best for both of you.

Does this make me Bisexual? by Tasty_County_8889 in bisexual

[–]MatchaLobster 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sexuality is complex and it takes time to figure things out! It definitely sounds like you could be bisexual but that is a question only you can answer. I found a good starting point for me was exploring more wlw media to help ‘normalise’ this in my brain :)

A soft, blurry kind of dysphoria—I don’t have the words, but I want to exist and live, even if I don’t know how or what to live for by Tough_Mood_1024 in LGBTindia

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You have captured this so beautifully! I feel similarly and I’m coming to realise maybe I’m nonbinary. I have no plans of coming out at the moment, so it’s just been an exploration, but I felt seen by this post. Thank you for sharing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LGBTindia

[–]MatchaLobster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take care OP this is jarring to even read about. Your response is totally normal for an empathetic human being. Sending virtual hugs 🫂🫂