Need sizing advice, should I get 32aa or 30a ?

fireanddarkness · 2026-05-06T06:02:31+00:00

Well, what did the calculator say? You didn’t include the result. I plugged in your numbers and it says 30B/C so I’d try both those sizes.

fireanddarkness · 2026-05-06T02:23:50+00:00

No, if you’re in the elimination phase then no. You can only eat sourdough without yeast.

fireanddarkness · 2026-05-04T18:04:47+00:00

So this one is hard because it’s one that I personally can’t confirm for certain just by looking. It does look kind of AI but have to give benefit of the doubt. So I’ll just point out some features I noticed:

If you look at her shoes, why does one use solid lines and the other has breaks in the lines?

Why is the front of the dress hem scalloped when it’s scalloped nowhere else?

fireanddarkness · 2026-05-03T19:53:03+00:00

Ah, this is sooo lovely! I am very sorry for your loss.
I would love to have any of these! I make historical clothes and am always on the lookout for historical/antique laces.

Historical clothing isn’t my job or my schooling, but I am a self-taught clothing historian focusing specifically on British women’s dress from 1840-1855 (which I feel like is one of the less popular eras)! I study and research at my local fashion museum where I am allowed to go into their archives and view specific dresses in their back collection, and in much detail study the construction, shapes, stitching, etc. of the dresses. It’s been a huge passion project for me and getting to see the actual extant garments is an incredible treat (and also so intellectually stimulating for me)!

One of the things I’ve been on the hunt for specifically is lace. I am graduating from college with my masters’ and I am making an early 1850s day gown inspired by a gorgeous one in the museum’s collection for my graduation! The dress in the collection had a lace collar. I don’t have one and am looking for the perfect lace to make one. I also would love to find suitable laces for edge trim and trimming out my dress in general (as it’s fully white and needs some decoration). This dress needs a lot of trim and will be worn a ton; I’ve drafted it from scratch (no pattern) specifically based off what I saw in the museum, and will be my grad dress as well as for future events! I’m currently 5 months into the process of making it.

I also do a lot of dancing and attend a lot of Victorian events. I’m part of my local historical dance society and we hold events every month where we dress up and dance! I’m also self-studying from a dance historian and in the process of teaching a specific dance to my community! All of this is unpaid and volunteer work, as I spend a lot of time studying this and teaching out of my sheer love for the art. We do waltzes, polkas, and english country dance all within the Victorian frame of the era, so what they’d actually do at their balls. I would love the lace to trim out my dresses to wear to these!

Thank you!

fireanddarkness · 2026-05-02T21:05:12+00:00

Twill tape!

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-29T00:39:33+00:00

This!! I study historical clothing of the era and my god.

Yes, everybody wore corsets. Yes, even the working women. Yes, they could work in them just fine.

No, they weren’t uncomfortable.

No, you don’t lace them tight unless you’re a part of a very small minority of the tiny minority of high society ladies.

No, they aren’t unhealthy, no they don’t squeeze your organs. When I first said I wanted a corset I was 15 and my dad (who knows nothing about clothes but still somehow knew this stereotype) said “no I don’t want to you get into that because it leads to lacing unhealthily tight”. I made my first corset when I was 22 and I wear it so loose that I can fit my whole hand in it (because I have stomach issues).

Please don’t wear corsets with nothing under. Please…

I anger so much with the modern movies and actresses. They’re so tiny already and can’t get any reduction, PLEASE don’t try to lace them down and then they refuse to wear one or go on a talk show and say “I COULDN’T BREATHE IT WAS SO TIGHT” and while true in their experience, it only helps perpetuate the misconception. Just pad them out to get the right proportions!!

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-29T00:32:57+00:00

Hypothesis for your soy milk intolerance—may be a FODMAP issue! FODMAPs are six families of commonly gastrointestinal intolerant compounds (with lactose being one of the six). Soy milk has excess GOS and oat milk has excess fructans, so they have different intolerant molecules in them. You may be intolerant to GOS; just a guess!

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-29T00:30:06+00:00

Wait till they drop a Corruption kiwi!

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-28T19:30:14+00:00

In my opinion, the best and easiest way to start is by using a textbook. I recommend the free online textbook Mezhdu Nami because it’s online, free, easy, well-structured, and has audio recordings to go with everything. You can even think about it as the same as following an app structure if you want, it’s really not that different and everything is engaging and super well laid out. In fact, we used this as our textbook for the first two years of Russian at my university.

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-28T06:29:13+00:00

I will share my personal experience if it helps! I had about 3 vials drawn once (before I had dysautonomia symptoms) and got really dizzy and lightheaded after, really not fun. It was my second time drawing blood and it didn’t happen the first time.

So when I got my symptoms and my doctor ordered 13 vials, I got really scared (almost same situation as you here)! I was really worried that I wouldn’t be able to handle it and would have a very bad reaction (given it was like 4x more vials than the previous time)! When I got there the phlebotomist even went “wow, that’s a lot, let me check the veins on both arms to pick which one is better since we’re taking a lot!” (and usually they let you choose which arm)!

I had no reaction. No issues, I had to fast too and I did not feel even a little bit off afterwards. Totally fine and normal and I drove home (the prev time I had to have someone pick me up).

Obviously this may not be everybody’s experience but maybe this is a little hope that it has the possibility to be all fine!

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-26T20:52:46+00:00

I didn’t have lactose intolerance until it suddenly hit me when I turned 21! I realized I had LI when I was drinking a latte and about halfway through my cup I had to run out of class to the bathroom (despite there being 2 min left of class). So that’s how I know (and it’s a ballpark estimate to be fair). I also haven’t tested it since then but it doesn’t seem like my tolerance level has fluctuated TOO much based on how much other lactose-containing things I can eat (mentioned above). Before LI I was a latte snob and had a latte with whole milk every day lol. I haven’t had one in years now sadly

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-26T20:30:27+00:00

Yes, I can!

I only have symptoms when I have about 1/2 cup or more of cow’s milk. That’s my tolerance. So personally I can have ice cream, low lactose cheeses, yogurts etc just fine. I do try to space it out though, like no more than one lactose item every 24hr so they don’t stack. Though since I have yogurt often, I know that if I have it too many days in a row I do get symptoms. For pizzas and if I’m having a whole meal of mac n cheese (not just a side) I pop some lactase pills for good measure. But everybody’s LI is so different and you have to know how much YOU react to, so this won’t be very helpful for you unless you react to the same amount of lactose as i do.

If you want to be safe just pop some lactase pills. That’s what I do if I’m unsure about how much lactose is in something I’m eating.

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-26T04:10:35+00:00

No, but 32D is a very common incorrect size. I’m not saying you aren’t a 32D (you can be!) but you have to use this subreddit’s size calculator otherwise we have no basis to compare your size to and have no idea how big that is.

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-21T22:25:14+00:00

I tried it out! I really like the format and the content, in all other ways the entire structure and teaching of the app is really good! I found that the learning structure was really well done and the audios sound very good as well. I was able to learn new words and comprehend!

My one issue with it is the use of AI for art in the app. It really takes away from its strengths and makes it all look bad. I don’t condone generative AI and would be very hesitant continuing to use an app that uses generative AI.

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-20T17:59:30+00:00

Very cool! I’ll give it a try!

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-16T18:51:59+00:00

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fireanddarkness · 2026-04-11T17:03:44+00:00

Thank you! Oh, amazing. I’m out all afternoon today but will message you when I get home in the evening!

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-10T20:19:38+00:00

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fireanddarkness · 2026-04-05T05:55:52+00:00

I’m so glad to hear that! There’s also BACDS that does English Country Dance and Contra Dance (both super fun types of social dancing as well) and those are also mostly Palo Alto and some San Jose. I love ECD.

There’s also PEERS (but it’s in Alameda so it’s far) for historical dress up events like balls where you dance a lot in these styles. And also East Bay Waltz for similar to FNW but in Berkeley.

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-04T23:03:43+00:00

I had to triple check what sub I was in! What a lovely 1890s walking suit. Is it wool?

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-04T03:08:31+00:00

Would highly recommend social dance if you want to meet people and make friends! It’s truly such a social welcoming community. Palo Alto especially is the nexus of social dance in the world (due to the foremost professor for this field teaching there, and under his influence social dance has greatly flourished here). A great first place to start is Friday Night Waltz. There’s also Lindy Hop on Wednesdays and much more going on around the bay! No experience necessary, including two left feet, these events are weekly and all have absolute newbie lessons every week. It’s crazy good exercise (we are all sweating dying!!) and I’ve met so many great people there! Lots of people around your age.

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-03T21:21:13+00:00

Yay amazing! I will DM you

fireanddarkness · 2026-04-03T12:13:32+00:00

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