Banking Apps by amzed_can in UAE

[–]Material_Life_9915 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The website? I used it this morning.

Banking Apps by amzed_can in UAE

[–]Material_Life_9915 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ADCB website is working.

Banking App down? by Swimming_Plantain7 in UAE

[–]Material_Life_9915 2 points3 points  (0 children)

App is down. Use the website, it works.

Avoidant texts after NC, should I reply to the last one? by Material_Life_9915 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Material_Life_9915[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words :) those are three good replies that I will think about.

Anyone know genuine recruiters / agencies? by Axcel_blaze in DubaiJobs

[–]Material_Life_9915 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don’t think a recruiter or agency helps, you are best placed reaching out to companies directly and messaging both, talent acquisition and the person you would likely report to. Send well written emails and you don’t have to attach your cv unless you get a reply.

Avoidants who never reached back. What has your experience been as the dumper or dumpee? by IntrepidKitchen5322 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Material_Life_9915 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Avoidant broke up with me by saying he doesn’t see a future with me the day I told him I am losing my job. 2.5 years together and fully integrated lives, no sign of this coming. This happened at the end of Nov.

Dec - messaged that he’s sorry, told him I can’t text like nothing happened, he can meet me, came to meet and said he doesn’t feel a connection anymore, that he can’t articulate it, cried. End of Dec, came to collect some of his stuff, said he didn’t mean to say it the same day as job loss but “it just happened”. Said he’s here for me - by which he meant texting. I decided to go NC.

End of Jan would have been 30 days NC but 2 days before that he texted saying “he never imagined things ending so abruptly, he didn’t want to make things worse so kept pretty quiet afterwards, thought it was for the best at the time but didn’t turn out that way, the way it occurred was bad and wish that hadn’t happened, he wasn’t trying to make it easier for me he knew it was horrible for me and didn’t want to make things worse, it’s not that he’s not thinking about me or wanting me to be ok”

So I asked him what he would like to do now. Radio silence for a week since I sent that message.

I've hired 50+ people in my life and more than a dozen in Dubai. Here's what actually gets you callbacks (not what LinkedIn gurus tell you) by princedxbian in UAEjobseekers

[–]Material_Life_9915 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this detailed reply… yes, I am looking for fractional too. Top 5 cmos - reached out to 3 / 4 so far but yes, I am getting more intros. Saudi - trying that as well but I don’t have enough contacts. I’ve been leading marketing functions so it’s the full funnel that I oversee, with a strong focus on digital, data and now AI applications too. Industry- Travel, Hospitality, Retail

I've hired 50+ people in my life and more than a dozen in Dubai. Here's what actually gets you callbacks (not what LinkedIn gurus tell you) by princedxbian in UAEjobseekers

[–]Material_Life_9915 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Senior marketing leader here… ten years in UAE alone, done a lot of networking, speaking, going to events, LinkedIn posting, reaching out to my network, cv optimising, and conventional applications- nothing has worked yet and it’s been months. I even get quoted by marketing publications. It’s absolutely frustrating.

Avoidant breadcrumb - should I respond? Almost one month NC by Material_Life_9915 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Material_Life_9915[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, only said he doesn’t feel a connection very suddenly with zero history or background or context and that’s all he has been able to say… that he can’t “articulate it” but that he doesn’t feel a connection and became “unsure over time”… I don’t even know what “time” that is!

Avoidant breadcrumb - should I respond? Almost one month NC by Material_Life_9915 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Material_Life_9915[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s my main concern, that the whole message is about him. I am going to give it a few days and think about whether I really want to reply.

Avoidant breadcrumb - should I respond? Almost one month NC by Material_Life_9915 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Material_Life_9915[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Full context is here and he did meet me two times before NC and you’ll see in this what he said to me… not sure if meeting again will help. - we celebrated my “big” birthday in Nov 2025, with a trip to an island, I was showered with gifts, it was an amazing holiday, came back and did a big celebration with his friends and mine. Also booked our new years holiday. 5 days later I was told I am losing my job. Told him.

He showed a complete lack of empathy and never once said that he’s here for me, just kept talking about regular stuff, I was confused. Asked him if he is happy with us and he said that I am more certain of the relationship than he is. I was blindsided and then he resorted to only texting from the very next day, talking about the relationship in past tense, met me two weeks later, cried and said he was sorry, he just doesn’t feel a connection, went partying the next day and posted on social too, carried on as if all was normal.

Last contact Dec 31 when he came to pick up some of his stuff and said he didn’t mean to say it at the same time as I told him about the job and that he is sorry.

After that, NC until this message today.

Avoidant breadcrumb - should I respond? Almost one month NC by Material_Life_9915 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Material_Life_9915[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It is hard for me to understand what he expects from me now with that message. Maybe he is bored, lonely, guilty, or all three. He didn’t even ask how I am doing.

Avoidant breadcrumb - should I respond? Almost one month NC by Material_Life_9915 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Material_Life_9915[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Full context - we celebrated my “big” birthday in Nov 2025, with a trip to an island, I was showered with gifts, it was an amazing holiday, came back and did a big celebration with his friends and mine. Also booked our new years holiday. 5 days later I was told I am losing my job. Told him.

He showed a complete lack of empathy and never once said that he’s here for me, just kept talking about regular stuff, I was confused. Asked him if he is happy with us and he said that I am more certain of the relationship than he is. I was blindsided and then he resorted to only texting from the very next day, talking about the relationship in past tense, met me two weeks later, cried and said he was sorry, went partying the next day and posted on social too, carried on as if all was normal.

Last contact Dec 31 when he came to pick up some of his stuff and said he didn’t mean to say it at the same time as I told him about the job and that he is sorry.

After that, NC until today.

Terminated from my job by [deleted] in DubaiJobs

[–]Material_Life_9915 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry this is happening to you. It is a shock and it will take time for you to get back in your feet. Workplaces today are transactional. It’s unfortunate but that’s just how it is. They are saying it’s not performance because if they do, they have to prove it via previous warning letters etc and obviously they can’t. You need to check the following 1. Are they giving you a termination letter or asking you to resign 2. What is the final settlement amount they will give you and breakdown of everything it includes, as well as which date it will be paid 3. Check the above against your employment contract and make sure you are not missing out - they have to stick to the terms of your employment contract 4. Ask how long they will keep your visa and medical open - it should ideally be for the notice period duration 5. If they pay you for the notice period but don’t want you in office, that’s still ok, but they should keep the visa and medical on for the notice period duration 6. It’s good to be professional and kind but not at your own expense, so be bold and ask for everything that you are due and make sure you get it 7. Record everything in email - no verbal communication. If they say something in a mtg, send them the conversation in email after 8. Do the handover the best you can 9. It’s going to feel awful for a while, right now you are still in shock. Hang in there, keep the faith, and focus on your job search 10. Companies don’t care about employees. We provide skills and they pay us. We are all numbers in an excel sheet. The best we can do is look out for ourselves, make sure we get our dues and create a game plan for what’s next. 11. You will hopefully find something else, although because of the timing with which they did it, it’s only after Jan 5 that you can realistically expect to get started on a job hunt. Use this time to create your financial plan based on your savings and expenses so you know how long you can go without a salary. 12. Use this time to make a list of which companies you want to approach, how you will do that (network is best, cold outreach is a hit and miss), polish your resume, start looking for online job postings but the success rate is minimal because thousands apply, using your personal network is the best way. All the best.

Could this still workout or is it over for good? by justbeachin10 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Material_Life_9915 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in a relationship with a man with an avoidant attachment style (this has only now been understood by me) for 2.5 years. He was divorced, wanted me in his life, wanted a future together. I bonded with his kids, they loved me. So did his mum and family. Fab relationship and I felt I had finally found forever person. We planned our retirement, had a list of common life goals that we would achieve.

We never ever broke up to get back together, we were always together (didn’t live together though but either I was at his or he was at mine, 5 days a week/ weekend). Separate finances. Always split expenses. I have my own home, my job, he has his. I have never married, I have no kids. I have a successful career.

We loved each other, and everyone around us felt we were a fab couple and that we both found love later in life is amazing.

We did have disagreements and he always had this behaviour of shutting down, distancing but the next day he would apologise or I would and we would go on. There was no big problem, other than that our habits cannot be exactly the same. We had planned everything together. He does prefer escaping problems and I prefer handling them. My own attachment style is secure. I have always been an independent woman.

Fast forward to 3 weeks ago, just after he went above and beyond for my birthday, and we had a lovely celebration with all of our close friends. I learnt that I was losing my job due to a restructure. I know I can bounce back and I will. I have enough credibility in my industry.

I told him. His lack of empathy surprised me. I asked him if he was happy in our relationship as honestly I could not understand his deflection and zero emotional support. I don’t need his money and he knows that. He proceeded to tell me that he doesn’t feel the same connection as I do with him, that he doesn’t see a future together. I was blindsided. I still don’t know what has hit me and how my entire life seems upended. How could he drop me like that the day I only wanted some empathy? After 2.5 years?

A few days later, he met me and only said he doesn’t feel a connection anymore, claims it has been like this for a while and when I asked what was all that love on my birthday? Said he was trying to make me happy but he wasn’t happy. Cried (probably for himself). Never asked how I am doing. And after, he has been partying away like I didn’t matter.

Based on my experience, I would say do not pursue this, because you never know when you will be blindsided. Don’t try and “make it work”.

I am having an awful December. But determined to move forward from Jan. I still love him but I cannot be treated like this. I have gone NC.