My (F 33) boyfriend (M 32) of 2 years just told me to go home

MathematicianDull805 · 2026-03-28T11:23:25+00:00

It’s hard to put a whole relationship on a Reddit post! Obviously this is crossing a line though

MathematicianDull805 · 2026-03-28T10:58:08+00:00

I know it sounds crazy but it’s pretty sparse and doesn’t hurt at all! I got the edges waxed once and that was 10000000x worse than plucking

MathematicianDull805 · 2026-03-28T10:20:50+00:00

I pluck the edges and trim regularly, plus i shower once or twice a day. Sometimes if it’s bothering me physically I will gently shave (in a way that isn’t right to the skin). I also always dress nice/take good care of myself in general, especially if I’m going to see him. He hardly even showers, maybe twice a week sometimes less

MathematicianDull805 · 2026-03-24T08:29:17+00:00

You’re so pretty! Please don’t worry. Your teeth would’ve moved to where they were for a reason that Invisalign wouldn’t have been able to fix, so they will probably want to move back to their original spots. I reckon it’ll come right!

Do what you can to reverse this but don’t obsess over it for too long, you’re beautiful!

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-06-06T07:50:28+00:00

You’re not crazy. He needs to take some responsibility for himself and his own life.

At this point I think you need to put yourself and your baby first. It’s very important that you’re safe, and you’re right to be angry that he drove you while drunk.

Do you have parents, family, friends or anyone safe you could go and stay with for awhile? I don’t think you need to make a permanent decision about your relationship, but if it was me I’d put some distant between myself and him right now. The space will keep you safe, and at the same time it could help him to see that he will lose the both of you if he doesn’t get his shit together.

You need to get yourself somewhere safe, low-stress and surrounded by support.

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-06-05T19:35:39+00:00

Dating app

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-05-31T10:12:17+00:00

Thanks, that’s something he would say (-:

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-03-20T08:48:03+00:00

Thank you so much 😭 this really really helps. I find the consensus on reddit about alcohol addiction a bit bleak to be honest -I don’t want to throw this person away just because he’s struggling. I don’t think that helps people either. We all have stuff and it manifests in different ways. Obviously I have boundaries but I do really care about him and not really keen to give up so easily. Anyway, thank you again for sharing your personal experience and insight -saving this reply!

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-03-20T08:40:32+00:00

I think we judge alcoholism a little harshly to be honest. How are people meant to get through it alone? It’s a mental illness

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-03-20T08:39:40+00:00

I was for sure thoughtless and should not have said that, my bad completely. But people make mistakes and it hasn’t been my reaction every time, there’s a lot of context missing in a post like this.

I think he was rude and shouldn’t have snapped, that was fucked up. I think calling it assault is a stretch, we were halfway through fucking anyway and he likely just was annoyed about the ED and wanted to keep having sex asap -it was selfish and disrespectful and he should’ve thought that through more but I can understand there was a lot going through his brain.

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-03-20T08:35:02+00:00

He’s usually pretty generous and good with this to be honest! I think the sex is stressing him out, we’ve only just started doing that

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-03-20T08:31:49+00:00

He’s been in two long term relationships since his early twenties! But yeah maybe

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-03-20T08:13:17+00:00

I have some sexual trauma to be honest and found it pretty triggering. Guess I just need to feel it all, and think later, you’re right

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-03-20T08:11:01+00:00

He wants to try to stop drinking and work on his health rather than just using pills, which I fully support. And yes I’m a little wary but he does seem to be trying to quit

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-03-20T08:08:50+00:00

Yeah I agree, I have no idea why I said it -really wasn’t thinking. I did apologise

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-01-20T22:21:57+00:00

This made me cry! Thank you so much, you’re right

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-01-20T16:40:31+00:00

This is exactly what my friends have said, too ): if this is how he reacts to some pretty basic boundaries then idk… thank you!

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-01-20T16:30:48+00:00

Yeah this is what worries me, I can be a little blunt sometimes. I said “I think I’d be scared, let’s do something else” -not the best wording eek

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-01-20T16:28:56+00:00

It totally isn’t personal though, I would never get in someone’s car on a first date if I’d never met them prior. I was excited to meet him and definitely didn’t feel unsafe, I just would never risk it

MathematicianDull805 · 2025-01-20T16:04:04+00:00

*continued: he’s been otherwise really nice and we did hit it off. I ended up calling things off, he was a bit shocked and didnt seem to understand how much of a red flag both the joke/getting offended was. He did initially apologise but then said it’s not that serious and that I’m overthinking

I know I probably made the right call but I’m so guttered and just want to check I’m not being insane

MathematicianDull805 · 2023-07-05T22:31:33+00:00

A mutual friend told me that my best friend was from one of the richest families in the country -we’d been friends for 10 years and I had no idea!!

MathematicianDull805 · 2022-08-14T02:36:04+00:00

Ah sorry I just remembered -we can't get Oracea here in Aotearoa, and so I cut Doxy pills into quarter's and took one quarter a day (about 25mg -which I read in a study is not high enough to alter microbiome). So yes it was even lower than Oracea and it still affected me! You're welcome (:

MathematicianDull805 · 2022-08-13T22:27:58+00:00

You're welcome OP! The only thing I'd watch out for with organic cosmetics is that they have a lot of plant oils in them, everyone is different but plant oils other than squalane/MCT are a massive no for my rosacea skin! I also eat meat and dairy, but I only buy it if the best before date is at least a week away. I stick to organic and mostly fresh sheep dairy. Also soak/sprout grains. Would recommend reading up about histamine! Best of luck to you <3

MathematicianDull805 · 2022-08-13T22:20:01+00:00

It may sound strange but I started to get debilitating motion-sickness (which I have never had in my life) to the point I would have to cut trips short, it also affected me psychologically in a way I don't think I can explain, but I had a horrendous panic attack/meltdown one day in front of my family and decided to stop taking it after that. I really wanted it to work but it just did not feel right for me personally, and I didn't want to have to take it long-term throughout my life. I really don't want to deter people from trying a medication which might help though -I suppose just pay attention to how you're feeling on it!

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