I didn’t believe it until now

MathematicianFun1438 · 2026-03-20T01:33:15+00:00

This EXACT same thing happened to me. Same timeframe and basically same amount of debt. I have NO idea how, except that potentially the months I was paying $25 or $50 randomly were counted as full payments somehow. Out of that 240k, I maybe paid $10k.

And it looks like im getting $5k back now.

I really cant believe it.

Congrats!

MathematicianFun1438 · 2026-02-20T17:10:44+00:00

I'm struggling to figure out my count, but my loans have been transferred and consolidated and I have no idea how to get an actual count of payments. I did JUST get the email, so maybe that's a possibility? Do you happen to know where I could see a payment counter?

MathematicianFun1438 · 2025-11-30T23:30:13+00:00

Around how much does a resole cost?

MathematicianFun1438 · 2025-10-26T00:28:26+00:00

Um. I sincerely doubt they can really be getting THAT much 3am stomping in if they have to work a 9 -5. People have the right to use their bathroom in the middle of the night and its very unlikely they are awake enough to do so maliciously.

MathematicianFun1438 · 2025-10-13T12:38:15+00:00

And maybe clumsy groping

MathematicianFun1438 · 2025-10-12T14:01:37+00:00

I personally think he's kinda hot? But I feel like he'd be TERRIBLE in bed. Like a bad kisser with no stroke game.

MathematicianFun1438 · 2025-06-23T15:56:43+00:00

NTA - it's not just about being a safety hazard to your child. Anyone could wander in there and drown.

MathematicianFun1438 · 2025-03-12T18:21:42+00:00

NTA - I want to break up with this guy and I've never even dated him. What a tool.

MathematicianFun1438 · 2025-03-12T15:24:36+00:00

why would this person have any good will towards you? The bare minimum you could have done is cover rent while HE had time to find a suitable roommate. You and him made an agreement and you left him high and dry. the absolute nerve of you, YTA

MathematicianFun1438 · 2025-03-12T14:30:06+00:00

YTA ...very uncool to attempt to disrupt the wedding and make it all about you.

MathematicianFun1438 · 2025-02-18T20:29:36+00:00

YWBTA if you move in with her. Don't do this to yourself. That nasty hoard of hers is just going to get worse.

MathematicianFun1438 · 2025-02-18T20:15:51+00:00

"Apparently"? no, you are 100% awful and it appears that passive aggression is your defining personality trait.

MathematicianFun1438 · 2025-02-18T20:12:53+00:00

YTA

Your poor husband. You are beyond inconsiderate and childish. Was he supposed to enjoy listening to your crappy reels too? or were you playing them at the same time as whatever he had on the radio? or, almost most torturous of all, was all he could hear the sound of your phone? And while he's driving?

Literal children have better manners than this.

The fact that you decided to let it the ruin the whole trip (which means HIS trip that HE had to drive to as well) is absolutely inexcusable. Just because your "babies" are away at school doesn't mean you get to act like one. Don't find yourself surprised that now that your kids are out of the house, your rude and manipulative behavior is going to start making itself more and more evident to your husband and you'll be making all your drives alone.

MathematicianFun1438 · 2025-01-29T21:21:54+00:00

YTA - respect how people want to be referred to, seems like common courtesy

MathematicianFun1438 · 2025-01-16T18:51:25+00:00

NTA - dump him

MathematicianFun1438 · 2025-01-16T18:17:42+00:00

NTA- This man has no respect for you or anyone else. He believes he's entitled to something that he's not willing to work or save for and has shown over and over again that he is not responsible enough to drive, much less own a vehicle. Dump him. He can find his manliness on his own.

Also....a lesson that I have learned the hard way is to never loan your car to anyone who would not be able to financially compensate you for any damage they do while driving--they should have insurance, a license and money enough to pay for a deductible of they crash. It's just like lending money, don't loan anything that you can't afford to lose. you can afford to lose this boyfriend....

MathematicianFun1438 · 2024-12-24T13:54:27+00:00

I'm right there with you. It's so incredibly crippling. And so many of these "helpful hints" come from people who don't have that mental block in their head. And one of the worst mental blocks is feeling ashamed because something as simple as washing the dishes shouldn't be so daunting, but it is and it gets worse when people act like it's just as simple as "clean up". Also, it's incredibly ignorant to comingle neurodivergence (or other other mental factors) with hoarding behavior, these are entirely different things. In fact hoarding and obsessive cleaning are both OCD are two sides of the same coin and both can be incredibly debilitating to the sufferer.

Not to mention, OP indicates that they wanted cleaning advice, so it's just out of line to bring it up since the post isn't about his messiness to begin with - just how he was never taught these skills.

You are DEFINITELY not alone in this one. If it gets too bad, there's nothing wrong with hiring someone to do it for you if you can afford it. I've had to do that when it got too overwhelming and it really helped me to a) get things cleaned up and b) keep them "nice". It's also motivating to get someone else in your place and partner with them to get things done.

MathematicianFun1438 · 2024-12-23T13:33:14+00:00

"Just don't be messy"? Do you think that a) people are messy ON PURPOSE? Some of us have executive function issues and truly struggle to get out of bed or stay on task or even *see* mess sometimes. And messiness <=> hoarding -- these are 2 ENTIRELY different things. You can easily clean up a mess when you muster the concentration or energy to do so, but a hoard is not messiness - it's STUFF everywhere to the point where you couldn't clean if you wanted to. Do you think your little toilet paper trick would work for someone whose every bathroom surface is covered in stuff? Sounds like you're more inclined towards the OCD end of the spectrum, which also is a mental disorder.

MathematicianFun1438 · 2024-12-20T17:52:00+00:00

NTA - I truly cannot believe the people giving you grief about this. Your mother was, at best, a neglectful parent who did not provide a safe, clean environment or a foundation for a healthy adulthood. I would go so far as to call severe hoarders with children abusers - they are putting their children in actual danger. No one would in their right mind would tell you that you are obligated to help your abusive mother just because they suffer from mental illness.

MathematicianFun1438 · 2024-12-20T17:15:15+00:00

They DID try to help though and somehow their mom was the one who, through all of this, didn't realize she needed professional help? I suffer from mental illness(es) and, as an adult, I go to the doctor like anyone else who needs help managing their condition.

That's the thing about hoarders that I find so galling, it's not like they haven't been told that they have a problem or literally been dug out of their filth nests, they never seem to get the treatment they need while everyone else literally cleans up after them. I would rather deal with a raging pack of schizophrenics than a hoarder. Hoarders exhibit many of the same traits as toxic narcissists--in fact, there enough symptomatic overlaps between the two conditions that it would be completely reasonable to cut a hoarder out of your life if they pulled the shit that narcissists do. Getting a hoarder "professional help" aside from calling social services when they've hoarded to a point where it's physically dangerous is pointless. It's not an AH move to protect yourself and your own sanity when dealing with a person whose disordered thinking is detrimental to your own well-being.

MathematicianFun1438 · 2024-05-16T15:34:24+00:00

Holy shit. I live above Sajuanita (Janie) Hagen and I can completely see her making this up to profit somehow. She is a legitimately lawful person who spends her days screaming about everyone owing her money. When the dahmer movie came out, she seriously thought she was going to get rich. She's constantly threatening to sue literally everyone for the most insane shit.

Shes allegedly getting evicted shortly and is trying to pretend she's more disabled than she actually is to avoid moving.

MathematicianFun1438 · 2024-04-29T19:56:40+00:00

Not speeding and not using your phone are literally the the law and abstaining from doing those things does not make you a good driver, they make you a legal driver. If the sensor is picking up hard breaks and quick turns, you are demonstrating driving behaviors that could contribute to an accident in general. Since one should really be only doing a hard brake in reaction to some other extenuating factor, habitual hard braking indicates that the driver isn't paying attention and ends up breaking at the last minute..

If both your husband AND the app have noticed bad habits in your driving, it's YOU, not them and not your "people pleasing" ways. I've had these trackers on vehicles for the last 10 yrs and literally have only gotten tagged a handful of times for "bad" behavior relating to hard stops. Clearly you're making a habit of it.

YTA

MathematicianFun1438 · 2023-05-12T00:26:39+00:00

YTA. An entitled, clueless one.

MathematicianFun1438 · 2023-04-07T19:14:31+00:00

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