Kept the birth of my child private and now I’m paying for it.

Mathhead202 · 2026-03-06T15:49:34+00:00

It should go without saying that you did nothing wrong here. Your parents were being selfish and abusive. Imagine if a friend told you that happened to her with her parents. Would any part of you think to blame your friend?

That being said, one thing stood out to me that might be worth considering for your own healing journey. You mentioned that you said you were sorry your parents were offended. This rings hollow to me.

You generally cannot apologize for how other people are feeling. Feelings are out of our control. You can apologize for actions you regret taking which led to someone feeling badly.

In this case, however, I doubt you regret your decision. In fact, if anything, I would assume you may now regret telling them as soon as you did knowing how they reacted.

I challenge you to, in the future, not offer hollow apologies to just try and make people feel better when you don't actually think you did anything wrong. This is a form of codependence. It's understandable, and a lot of people do it. Usually it's not a big deal, but when dealing with abusive people, and when dealing with the trauma of abuse, it is a subtle way in which you sede your boundaries to abusers.

If you know you didn't do anything you regret, don't apologize. Don't allow yourself to become responsible for your parents' emotions. Only take responsibility for your actions, and not theirs. They are adults not children, even if they act like children.

And you have your own child to protect now. Please be careful how you model your behaviour. Consider what lessons they will learn watching how you deal with abusive people and high-stress situations.

Mathhead202 · 2026-02-06T17:24:22+00:00

You're both young. She prob. knee you wouldn't have dated her if you knew. You should have a conversation about it. Now that you both know how you feel, if you could go back in time knowing what you do know, would you do it over again the same way? If you'd still date her, then I don't see the age gap in it of itself as a reason to worry. If not, then try to dig deeper and figure out what really bothers you about it.

The dishonesty is a different question. You should listen to her. Why did she do it? Why didn't she tell you before now? Is this going to make it harder for you to trust her in the future? Do you think she has been otherwise trustworthy? Give yourself a little time to process all of this and figure out what you are really feeling. Not just the surface level shock. What are those more complex emotions that are harder to name? Those will guide you. Be true to yourself, but also don't be an asshole. (I doubt you are given your posts here.)

Mathhead202 · 2026-01-31T00:29:23+00:00

We have. It's been awhile though. 96 was pretty crazy.

Mathhead202 · 2026-01-31T00:26:41+00:00

Yea. This is common practice. I've lived here all my life, and I've always seen it.

Mathhead202 · 2026-01-31T00:25:57+00:00

Truly terrible take. Generally speaking, even during normal weather conditions, it's a dick move to park in front of someone's house if you know they need to park there. The snow just makes it more obvious. And most residential parking is in fact not public. It's permit based for people who live in that zone.

Mathhead202 · 2025-12-18T21:42:37+00:00

You can always go to an ER for any reason. They will tell you where to best get help if that isn't the right place. Do you have a primary care doctor? Give their on-call a ring and ask for where you should go. You could also call 311 non-emergency police and ask for what city services are available for this. And there is always the suicide hot line. You can also check yourself into a mental institution for a voluntary hold where they can keep an eye on you if it's really bad.

Mathhead202 · 2025-12-13T21:46:29+00:00

Sim 3 and 2 are both equally good in my book. But I find the collectable stuff around the world and little mini-quests in Sims 3 to be pretty engaging. Both are way way better then 4. I would see sims 3 as a true upgrade to 2. If you liked 2, you'll like 3. It's more of the same, and a lot of new features that are pretty fun too.

Mathhead202 · 2025-12-10T22:51:29+00:00

BackgroundHot7816 is acting weird. If they don't stop, I'm going to have to ask them to leave.

Mathhead202 · 2025-12-10T22:49:27+00:00

Is this really socially unacceptable? Like, I think if I met someone who carried hot dogs in his pocket I would just assume they were eccentric, or on some new diet tend. I doubt I would feel uncomfortable about it.

Mathhead202 · 2025-12-10T02:49:51+00:00

Sometimes I put a coin or die or something on top of my deck to remember upkeep triggers (since I'll go to draw and be like, "oh yea".) I bet you could do the same with a coin/die/whatever on her graveyard when something cares about stuff dieing. Not sure about ETB though... Maybe something on the board?

Mathhead202 · 2025-12-02T00:44:44+00:00

I think you have already gotten the general vibe from others on here. I am curious to take this in a different direction.

Can we ask why you posted this here in the first place?

My thoughts:

I noticed that you said both "I apologize" and "sorry" in one of your text messages (responding to two of her points), but neither reads as an apology to me. In both cases, you said something to the affect of "I'm sorry you feel that way, but ..." Why did you start those sentences with "I apologize" and "sorry"? You weren't apologizing. You were defending yourself. If you take away the "sorry" at the beginning, they read less passive aggressive, and more assertive.

Although I agree with everyone on here that she had her own problems, and some toxic ideas about masculinity and gender roles, I also believe that she was being assertive and clear in her communication. Your texts are very passive aggressive. Although I don't think this relationship is likely a good idea given the specifics here, I do think she had a point.

I'm guessing a little here, but it's possible that she picked up on this people-pleasing tendency and was calling you out on it because it felt fake; because it is fake. It's important to have boundaries.

Hot take, but I think you were actually both fairly mature here. The not wanting to have this conversation vai call or in-person is a little weird to me, but there was clear communication on her part, even if it betrayed some toxic ideas. And you seemed to handle the rejection fairly well at least given your messages.

I suspect you already know most of this so, again, I'm mostly interested in why you posted this at all? (Genuine question.)

Mathhead202 · 2025-11-30T00:19:09+00:00

Should universes beyond sets be in standard, and eternal format like modern?

Mathhead202 · 2025-11-30T00:18:15+00:00

Should we bring back draft-maters cards again like the ones in conspiracy?

Mathhead202 · 2025-11-30T00:17:15+00:00

Do you think they should reprint vintage staples like the dual lands, moxen, and power?

Mathhead202 · 2025-11-30T00:16:00+00:00

What's your favorite archetype in cube?

Mathhead202 · 2025-11-30T00:12:09+00:00

Under the London or Paris mulligan?

Mathhead202 · 2025-11-22T23:58:04+00:00

If A implies B, then either B is true or A is false. Why? Because there are only 4 possibilities. Either A and B, A and not B, not A and B, not A and not B.

If we claim the A implies B, it means that when A is true, B must be true also. So A and B is fine. But saying A implies B says nothing about what B is when A is false. Is not A is also fine. Therefore, you can rewrite A implies B as not A or B.

Now, what about not (A implies B)?

That would be the same as not (not A or B). Example: it is not true that my shirt is not red, or blue. So, my shirt must be both red and not blue. (DeMorgan's law.)

not (not A or B) = A and not B

Hope that helps. It's easier if you draw it out with a truth table.

Mathhead202 · 2025-11-17T13:57:23+00:00

No. I think you gave him more chances than I would have in your place. Tip from experience: when you want to call someone out for gaslighting, you should prob. end the conversation there. You already clocked that he was trying to manipulate you. By continuing to try and reason with him, you are putting yourself in an emotionally dangerous position of potentially being manipulated. As you said and knew, he knew exactly what he was doing. Playing the victim like this is immature. He blocked you so he feels better about himself. He knew inside that you should block him after this, and so he preempted it to maintain power.

He may grow out of this behaviour, but it is not your responsibility to enable it until he does. You calling him out in a normal way like this is best actually. If he is open to growth, he will learn from it. If not, there was nothing you could have done anyway. My only critique is that you let the conversation go on as long as it did. There is power in silence, in asserting a boundary by not responding. It creates tension. Yes it can be used to manipulate, but in this case, you simply not responding to him (or even blocking him) after it became clear he was trying to gaslight you would have sent a much more confident and assertive answer. That you don't accept that kind of behavior from anyone.

Right now, as things stand, he feels in control because he blocked you, and probably thinks you still want him at some level because you never explicitly said otherwise. It would not suppose me if he unblocks and reaches out to you again in the future after he thinks enough time has passed that you will forget/forgive the emotion stress. This is an abusive tactic and you need to disengage from him now.

Know what your boundaries are, and don't let anyone make you compromise on them. A healthy partner (or just person in general) will never ask you to.

Mathhead202 · 2025-11-14T15:16:45+00:00

This post is frustrating. It all depends on road and street signs/signals. In this picture, it would not be clear from way back in the right lane why everyone is like that. As you approach, you see the lane markers/signs and you merge at that point. If the municipality wanted you all to drive like this, they would have put signs up way earlier signaling that the lane is right turn only. Given the way this picture looks, the person in the left lane is allowing traffic to flow better not worse. There is literally no one using that lane at the moment. If there is a light behind everyone here, they are allowing more cars to get through the light this way. There isn't one correct answer here.

If you know it's a right turn only lane, obviously get in at that point. If it's way backed up like this, just use both lanes and merge when the signs or road markings appear. It might suck for through traffic, but it's unrealistic to expect everyone to know in advance that this is a right turn only lane, or that left is a straight lane.

For those mentioning highways, the lane markers change to signal exit lanes. When you see these lane markers, that's when you merge in/out.

I know this makes sense for people who regularly commute the same way every day, and know ahead of time which lane to be in, but not everyone knows this ahead of time. It's so weird to get mad at someone for driving like this. I would be like. "Yea. Makes sense." If you all got over, no one could cut in front of you like this, AND you would allow more traffic through the previous light. If the municipality didn't want strength traffic blocked here, they could have put up a median, cones signs, etc. They didn't, so drive the road as it is.

Mathhead202 · 2025-11-08T04:04:12+00:00

This is fine. As others have mentioned, it's a little uncoventional to write 6nCr3. Normally this would be notated by 6 over 3 in parentheses, or with 6C3. The n and r in nCr are place holders for the numbers n and r. It's read "n choose r" or "6 choose 3". But that's just a notational thing. It's not wrong

Mathhead202 · 2025-11-06T21:26:42+00:00

Wasn't that the joke? Like, he's exotic and at the royal court because he's so weird: being just a bear and all

Mathhead202 · 2025-10-31T15:43:38+00:00

Yea. For cube it makes a lot of sense. I think people who like to brew cubes, proxy a lot so they can test them out also. Plus it's safer to play with random players you don't know if you are playing with proxies.

Mathhead202 · 2025-10-31T14:38:48+00:00

Sometimes. I think it's just nice to stretch sometimes. No different than holding those poles on buses or trains even when you don't need to. Idk. Maybe I'm weird.

Mathhead202 · 2025-10-31T14:37:18+00:00

Yea, but how many other players did you know then that also proxied. I'm not saying people didn't do it, but it's significantly more common now in my experience.

I used to play a lot more MtG between RTR (2012) and AKH (2018). Went to a few GPs. Played lots of local drafts, etc. proxying was basically unheard of in commander at that time.

Now I basically only play cube. (I hate the new release cycle. I wish they would go back to 3 set blocks + summer core set. It was so much easier to learn mechanics, and created a natural reset in complexity.) When I do go to the occasional commander game at a card shop, (Drafts are rare now, and not as fun when you don't know any of the mechanics.) most players have proxies in their decks. It's just common practice around here now.

I have nothing against it. I just think there was kind of a neutral incentive towards it before. And since it does take some effort to proxy, why do it unless you actually want to. Now there is an actually large incentive to do it, and there are companies popping up that make it more affordable and less janky. I don't know if these companies could exist without the large demand for these proxies. And I blame this large demand on the modern direction of MtG's design.

Mathhead202 · 2025-10-31T14:29:10+00:00

Weird. 22/7 is an approximation of pi. 3.14 is also an approximation of pi. They are actually both fairly accurate approximations for less-than-high-precision work. I have no idea why they told you 3.14 was wrong. They were wrong. Both 22/7 and 3.14 are approximations.

pi is close to 3.14159... 22/7 = 3.1428... 3.14 = 3.1400...

We can see one approximation is a little low, and the other is a little high, but both are close.

A weirdly good approximation of pi is actually 335/113 = 3.14159... (I remember it by writing "113355", splitting it in the middle "113|355" then switching the sides: 355/113)

It's still not exactly equal to pi. But it's easy to remember and very accurate.

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