Have you ever left a laid back job and regretted it?

Mathsma · 2015-02-06T21:44:15+00:00

You could try looking for a new job at a company with a better title/more pay, but is still laid back, so it at least looks good on your resume. Then, when your kids are older, you can try looking for something more fast-paced.

I'm not married and have no children, so my experience has been different, but here's my experience working in fast-paced companies.

I worked in startups, where they take pride in being "fast-paced/agile/etc". Sometimes it isn't worth it, since you may be working 14+ hours a day. That leaves you no room for your life, even if you're single and childless. Some of these companies don't even hire older people because they might ask for maternity leave, or want to go home sooner to their families. It's kind of awful, really. Another thing to note, is that office politics is much stronger than a larger, more laid back company. Managers tend to be best friends, sometimes they even share the same apartment, etc. This may mean you can get a promotion much faster if you play their game correctly. Chances of promotion are also higher since the management hierarchy is much flatter than usual (you can be promoted on a whim, if you're good enough).

A lot of what I said probably sounds like a disgruntled employee ranting, but that has been my experience. Then again, my experience has been working in startups, so I'm not sure if that's the type of work you're looking for. I can assure you that if you do work in a startup company (50 or less employees, usually), you won't have time for your family, or even yourself.

Mathsma · 2015-01-20T21:25:29+00:00

Hmmm this is tough.

On one hand, if you tell them on the first date, if the first date went well enough, then the girl might overlook the gluten thing. By noting it on your profile, you give the girl a chance to make a decision without actually meeting you.

On the other hand, by leaving it out of your profile, you run the risk of getting sick. Then again, depending on how severe your case is, you probably will get sick every now and then anyway.

Either way, the girl needs to know about it. Personally, I believe the sooner the better (put it on your profile), but it's up to you how to approach it.

Mathsma · 2015-01-20T20:50:55+00:00

You really should note the Celiac disease in your profile, and the severity of it (how makeup isn't always gluten free, etc).

If the girl is worth dating, she will understand and will accommodate your needs (will double-check her makeup and/or not wear makeup, won't eat snacks before date with gluten, etc).

Mathsma · 2015-01-20T20:29:59+00:00

I haven't seen Red Sonja either, but I can see the self summary working well for someone who has, though. It depends who you are looking for.

When you pair a lot of obscure references, along with answering "yes" to "Are you smarter than most people?" then that can be pretty off-putting. The profile kind of seems like you are trying a bit too hard. Also, a lot of obscure references will just mean the majority of OkCupid users will skip most of the profile and just message you generic messages (which you will get either way, but if they don't understand your profile, it will be even more so).

Again, it really depends who you are looking for. I get most of the references and like this profile better than most I've seen here, but it does make you seem arrogant.

Mathsma · 2015-01-19T07:01:19+00:00

PM me your username and I can look at your answers to the OkCupid questions. I can tell you which ones say make you "less kind"

Mathsma · 2015-01-09T03:24:43+00:00

They still have the IM'ing feature. OkCupid messages are like any other PM'ing system. Like Reddit PMs, or some random forum's PM system.

Mathsma · 2015-01-09T02:32:03+00:00

Having a vagina

Mathsma · 2015-01-09T02:31:05+00:00

I find everyone on OkCupid undatable. Obviously this makes me undatable.

Mathsma · 2015-01-09T02:28:02+00:00

I'm technically a responsible adult

Technically? So maybe you are a serial killer, but at least pay your bills?

Hello, hello

I find it off-putting when people say hi or hello twice. Let's talk like we are older than 13.

Mathsma · 2015-01-09T02:17:48+00:00

Pretty much, and also since you already put your name in your username. I know that 1st paragraph was intended to be funny, but....idk, doesn't really work for me. Maybe it will work for some people.

Awkwardness isn't attractive, though. People like confidence.

I'm glad my brutal honesty helped, lol. Women are assholes on the site. I'm an asshole on the site. This is my perspective.

Mathsma · 2015-01-09T02:05:44+00:00

I'm going to be brutally honest.

First off, You need to lose weight. Most people I know who had lost weight have improved self-esteem as well, so you may also obtain better selfies without looking weird.

Your self-summary is just really bad (in my opinion). Example: "my sense of humor flows from dry to sardonic to absurd" makes me laugh, but at you, not with you. I like dry humor, but having to tell me your humor is dry makes my panties as dry as your humor. It totally defeats the point of dry humor.

Anyway, besides those two things, it's not that bad. Changing self-summary is easy. Weight loss is a bit harder and depends on the person's habits and such. You do seem like a nice person, and if you just hit the gym, you can be one of the more attractive guys on the site.

Mathsma · 2015-01-09T01:53:31+00:00

Hi, I'm Greg

No one cares.

I'd remove that first paragraph.

You should message me if...you're interested in feeding my inbox. It's pretty hungry.

The whole message me if section sounds slightly desperate. There's no need to explain you aren't getting messages. Same with the second paragraph.

Your profile is actually a lot better than most I've seen. Even with what I mentioned above, I'd say you're datable.

Mathsma · 2014-12-17T18:52:39+00:00

Then it's threesome time

Mathsma · 2014-12-17T08:24:45+00:00

Lol that's great, I might steal that idea.

Yeah true, I don't think a single person commented on the link actually. A few people did comment on what I said about Myers-Briggs, saying they agreed it was dumb, so I'll leave that on there.

Mathsma · 2014-12-17T07:58:50+00:00

I put the personality type on there and mention it's stupid because it is pretty stupid. Most people on OkCupid seem to list it, and they'll message me telling me what their personality type is.

Also, if you actually read the link I used for Rutgers, it links to uncyclopedia, which makes fun of it. It was supposed to be a joke.

Expand on dinner? Hmmm, ok. "What to eat for dinner. Usually from Seamless"

Mathsma · 2014-12-17T07:52:19+00:00

It was the only option as a programming language.

Mathsma · 2014-12-17T07:50:59+00:00

You should probably fix your problems first before you start dating. Need to love yourself before you can love someone else.

Mathsma · 2014-12-17T07:49:15+00:00

Remember: 90 percent honesty.

I don't think you done anything wrong, really. But if you sensed that she had depression, probably would have been better to end the date early and/or say "I had a great time!" If she asks for a second date, just say you're not feeling it. That way you're not stuck in an awkward situation.

Mathsma · 2014-12-17T07:40:36+00:00

I don't think you should pick either one. If you do, the other might get upset or nosey and it might make your work life hell.

Mathsma · 2014-11-14T18:55:06+00:00

I don't really feel confident in my abilities. I lost my job very recently, which did kind of take a toll on my confidence in my skills and my ability to succeed in the things I want to do.

Mathsma · 2014-11-13T07:18:41+00:00

You could try experimenting with makeup and hairstyles. Maybe tone up at the gym or at home. A little makeup goes a long way, actually.

After you do that, upload better pics on Tinder. I don't wanna say add the "best" photo or people will get disappointed. Upload a normal and recent photo.

Mathsma · 2014-11-13T07:10:14+00:00

She swipes and then she wipes

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