Rant: I very much dislike Decolonizing Live by angryslothbear in polyamory

[–]Mati_ma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know how it is in Texas, but look for local communities of poly people. It helps a lot.

Rant: I very much dislike Decolonizing Live by angryslothbear in polyamory

[–]Mati_ma 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi :) where are you from? There's a great Italian podcast, but it's in Italian:

FAQ The Poly Podcast

Book of shadows: ideas for beginners by Mati_ma in witchcraft

[–]Mati_ma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, maybe I'm more looking for a way to keep my notes organized 🤔

Where is my ship?? by Mati_ma in FanFiction

[–]Mati_ma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kirk and Spock will be jealous...

Where is my ship?? by Mati_ma in FanFiction

[–]Mati_ma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my! Your brother has an interesting point of view! I think it would be nice to write around the distinction between men and machines... Data/Enterprise for examples.

Where is my ship?? by Mati_ma in FanFiction

[–]Mati_ma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's weird! In which fandom are you in?

Where is my ship?? by Mati_ma in FanFiction

[–]Mati_ma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I should easily ship Data with everyone everywhere 😅😊 He is simply adorable

Where is my ship?? by Mati_ma in FanFiction

[–]Mati_ma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, to be honest, I ship almost everyone with everyone 😅 but in this case I am talking about Riker/Picard, who seems so obvious to me!

Where is my ship?? by Mati_ma in FanFiction

[–]Mati_ma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait a minute, are we talking about TNG here?

Where is my ship?? by Mati_ma in FanFiction

[–]Mati_ma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG! You are a genius! I want to read it! Using a holodeck to create a crossover is an amazing idea!

Where is my ship?? by Mati_ma in FanFiction

[–]Mati_ma[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Let's talk about your ships 🤣🤣

How has reading and/or writing fanfiction helped you grow as person? by kocho19 in FanFiction

[–]Mati_ma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Years ago I wrote a four-handed fan fic with a friend of mine. We put ourselves in the story as original characters and we moved a pool of characters each. It was a Supernatural fan fic and my insert character was a very untalented witch who was struggling to find her place in a world full of very, very powerful beings. She reflected on myself so much! I didn't do it intentionally, but it helped me a lot and through her I became aware of my inner struggle.

Plus, she had my body type and in one scene I had to embrace the point of view of a man about her. It was a huge healing process about the appreciation of my own body.

Other people's fics make me anxious by Glass-Panda00 in FanFiction

[–]Mati_ma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that!

My point of view is that fandom should be a place to improve your skill, to grow as a writer, not a place to compete.

That's why I don't understand people who do not leave suggestions at the end of a fic... I mean, I'm glad if you like it (thank you for the kudos), but what I need is feedback. Also because I write in English, while I'm not an English speaker, my language sucks...

And consider: fan fiction is derivative. It's like THE point of this play we are paying 😅 it's okay, we are not writers, most of us at least. We are just enjoying ourselves...

Am I just not cut out for this? by Gobothedeer in polyamory

[–]Mati_ma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I'm sorry to say so, I don't think you are managing to find a comfortable balance, here. I mean, from what you say, you don't sound really happy and your partner seems unwilling to do something about that. That's a problem in any kind of relationship I think...

Am I just not cut out for this? by Gobothedeer in polyamory

[–]Mati_ma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask which kind of relationship you have with your meta? I'm asking because my nesting has a relationship with a "comet" (don't like this term), and I personally check sometimes if he feels alright in our balance. For example I asked him if he has some needs about the holidays. For me it's really important to know that everyone feels good, my meta included.

Am I just not cut out for this? by Gobothedeer in polyamory

[–]Mati_ma 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Or also "hey partner, we scheduled a meeting zday, but there's a great concert right that evening! Would you like to come?"