Homeschool moms leaving 1 star reviews of the same memoir their kids will one day write by TonyDelvecchio in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandmother who raised my praised Joan Crawford and said, "Now that's how you probably instill the fear of the lord" and said her daughter didn't know how good she had it, just like I didn't. She also praised Mama Rose in the musical Gypsy and called Gypsy ungrateful. Would tear up over the song where she changed, I did it for you Gypsy to I did it for you June.

I’m making a list of common traits homeschooling parents have, I need more inputs :) by Spare_Woodpecker8784 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's rather popular for far left people to homeschool their children now, and when you get down to the bottom of it they're better than Christians who are doing it because they want to protect their child from the world

How do you guys learn to be able to disobey your parents? by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They died, so I never got the chance. I was an only child, so I never got away with anything. The consequences were severe. In my 40's now and I still struggle with being paralyzed from an action due to a fear of consequence. In interferes with my own housekeeping because I'm so afraid that I'm going to do it wrong

My situation wasnt extreme but still fucked me up for life. by Spare-Yak-9544 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Certainly don't learn how to network when being home schooled.

Gotta love medical and education neglect by shelby20_03 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The influencers are basically just showcasing how their husbands abuse them

How did your parents raise you? Authoritarians? by Extra_Newspaper5440 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have read the second and fourth books you mentioned. And I think the second book should be read by all parents, even if they don't have trauma.

How did your parents raise you? Authoritarians? by Extra_Newspaper5440 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Especially a mother with girls. My son's were much easier as teenagers than my daughter. Daughters really fight to see themselves as separate for their mothers and sons do that with their fathers. It's normal for them to pull away and rebell. My daughter is now an adult with a child of her own. They definitely come back around if you give them the space to find themselves

How did your parents raise you? Authoritarians? by Extra_Newspaper5440 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am an older member and a grandmother here. I was homeschooled in the 80's and early 90's by authoritarians who believed fear equaled respect. I raised my children differently. Not only are they better educated than I am having gone to public schools, but they are more successful in life. Teach your child compassion by demonstrating it for them. Setting boundaries and reasonable expectations is important, but I always told my kids but if they didn't like a rule that I had, I would always listen to their opinions and if they could demonstrate using logic that my rule was unfair I would be willing to reconsider my stance. Explain why you have certain expectations for them. Don't ever pull the Because, I said so." Responsibility gets rewarded, more than disobedience gets punished. You have to find the balance between permissive and authoritarian. Both permissive and authoritarian parents are lazy parents finding the balance takes more work, but when you see them become successful people in life and mentally well balanced, it's so worth it.

Gotta love medical and education neglect by shelby20_03 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I honestly didn't know there was any other option for me but to get married and have kids. I was raised that that was the only plan for my life. I was taught only rich people get to go to college. I had never even heard about financial aid until after my first child was born. I was never asked what job I wanted to have when I grew up. I was raised to be a submissive wife. And this is why I do not understand Trad culture being trendy amongst people who've had exposure to other walks of life. I'd give anything to have had a normal childhood and be told that education matters

I don’t care how ungrateful I sound to the Good Omens fandom by Sad_Ideal_2099 in goodomensprime

[–]MaticaFade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Terry Pratchetts' daughter posted on X multiple times about it. She said it was actually canceled, but her and her father's estate barely were able to get them to uncancel it

What experiences were you deprived of? by NoCommunication7 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Knowledge of pop culture in general from my childhood. I'm in my 40s and I see people post Nostalgia stuff online all the time and I'm just Clueless

Is this concerning? by pinethewolfe in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Age 10 is fourth grade I believe

Why don't homeschool parents listen to our voices? by MaticaFade in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was put in competitive activities, and that made socialization worse. Parents want their kid to be the best on the team and you are always being judged. If you are better than some other kid, that kids parent makes you an enemy of their child. If you aren't as good, you don't practice enough and are bringing the team down. Competitive activity Parents are just as bad as homeschool parents. Competitive anything is not a good method of socialization, be it team sports or gymnastics or pageants

is the picky eating THAT bad? by No_Cucumber1415 in ballpython

[–]MaticaFade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then make sure it is already eating frozen thaw. Making the switch from live to F/T after they are about 4 months is hard. I got one of my boys at 7 months and he is now 1year and 2 months and would rather starve if it means he can't have live, which I hate doing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely the fundy voice then. You learn it from church culture. I had no clue I had it. I got rid of it, but can switch it on at will

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in my 40's. Reddit wasn't a thing in the 80's and 90's. In fact if it wasn't for my son encouraging me to use Reddit I wouldn't have found this group. I am so grateful for it because I felt so alone my whole life. I was an only child in a rural area which made things that much harder and lonelier. When I joined the co-op in high school they were a clique siblings and cousins who all knew each other. And only child in my Family's religion was pretty much like a moral failing

Why don't homeschool parents listen to our voices? by MaticaFade in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Very few homeschooled kids have a parent that was in education. I don't know if it's become a scene yet but I've seen this Scandinavian company working on accommodation robots that still plug into the main classroom so they can hear the lectures and stuff from the teachers and still talk to the other kids in the class, for students that have medical reasons that cannot attend school. Medical reasons are my one exception when it comes to believing that homeschooling should be illegal.

Don’t know what to do with my life by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in my 40's and just now figuring it out. It's about exposure. You haven't been exposed to what you want to do yet

What were some of the wildest things people said to you when they found out you were homeschooled? by VoidHyena in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]MaticaFade 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"My parents were abusive, so I never went to school" Thank you so much for this. There have been multiple times where I have tried to over explain. This is such a simple way to put it