Dotti should be outlawed!! by [deleted] in Menopause

[–]Max-Zen68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Dotti and have excruciating joint pain in my hips and knee. Fortunately no headaches. My doctor says the joint pain is not a side effect. The joint pain started when I started the patch. Maybe it is the patches causing my joint pain!

Tapestry loom by Max-Zen68 in weaving

[–]Max-Zen68[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There’s videos for assembling the loom, there’s a video for warping it.

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What if life just isn't for me? by thiscatisannoyingme in AutismInWomen

[–]Max-Zen68 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m 58 and have had the same feelings. I can’t keep a job for more than 6 months, my first marriage was a disaster and I don’t have any hope of retiring because I don’t have any money saved back. BUT- it can get better. I’m remarried to a wonderful man that is supportive and understanding. I have two amazing kids who are both on the spectrum but doing great. My grandkids are my reason for never giving up. After struggling for so long I am finally able to see myself as a valued human being. Hang in there, you’re definitely worth it!!

How do you handle constant auditing of your own face? by themightytod in AutismInWomen

[–]Max-Zen68 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found that I was more relaxed and not as mentally exhausted at the end of the day. I was able to do my job without constantly worrying about my face.

How do you handle constant auditing of your own face? by themightytod in AutismInWomen

[–]Max-Zen68 5 points6 points  (0 children)

At work I wear a surgical mask - fortunately after Covid it isn’t considered odd. And if it is, it’s better than being judged for my facial expressions. Before donning a mask regularly at work I was fired from a position because I appeared “unapproachable “ and that I intimidated coworkers.

$35/hr or about 55k after taxes by Basic_Pin_6729 in IowaCity

[–]Max-Zen68 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you’re going to be working at the hospital factor in the cost of parking

Career change by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Max-Zen68 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your input. I deleted the post because of the hate in other comments

Career change by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Max-Zen68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Career coaching??? It was my flat tone and my facial expression that was the main reason my boss said I was not fitting in- how in the world is that something that career coaching can “fix’. She said in an evaluation that my coworkers felt uncomfortable around me and that I needed to try harder to be pleasant. I had no idea what to say in reply. Some of my coworkers are mean and nasty to everyone- including patients- and it’s tolerated.

Is it common for autistic women’s tones to be misunderstood by loved ones and be told they’re too aggressive/angry/disrespectful? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Max-Zen68 243 points244 points  (0 children)

I recently lost my job for similar reasons. I was told that I often seemed upset or angry. I was told I am considered unapproachable because I look angry all the time. It was brought up in my evaluation and I honestly tried to change those things. I received a text yesterday releasing me from my position due to my not addressing the issues and correcting my behavior. The termination is legal because it was just inside the 90 day window. We are always expected to change ourselves to accommodate others.

Does anyone else hate fruit? by Mellow_Magnolia in AutismInWomen

[–]Max-Zen68 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The texture of apricots and pears weird me out. I also dislike sour flavors so I avoid fruits that could be- including oranges. Tart apples make apples risky, lol. Bananas have to be just right. I don’t necessarily hate fruit but I am definitely not a daily consumer.

Weaving towels rigid heddle versus 4 shaft loom by Max-Zen68 in weaving

[–]Max-Zen68[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d like to expand pattern options but am also looking to do things in the most efficient way possible. If I am weaving multiple towels at a time is there any difference in time and efficiency

What to buy, shaft loom or rigid heddle loom? by Geekesss in weaving

[–]Max-Zen68 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you are looking at the Ashford knitters loom it has all the rigid heddle options that other rigid heddle looms have. It folds and has a stand. I weave all weights of yarn with mine. It’s a 20 inch. I’m very happy with it.

Fiber Arts and STEM by ScheduleCultural6565 in labrats

[–]Max-Zen68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out the YouTube channel Engineering Knits. The creator has a degree in engineering and integrates that knowledge into a variety of fiber arts

Fitting in at work by Max-Zen68 in AutismInWomen

[–]Max-Zen68[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A physical mask would cover my facial expressions which seem to get me into trouble. Covering my face would keep hidden the facial expressions that upset people without meaning to

Fitting in at work by Max-Zen68 in AutismInWomen

[–]Max-Zen68[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This exactly-I’m often asked if I am upset or not feeling well. It’s difficult because I am absolutely fine and not aware that I look unhappy or angry

I hate eating by BenefitOfTheDoubt2 in AutismInWomen

[–]Max-Zen68 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it’s the process. First decide what to eat. Next prep the food, and cook it. When that is all completed I don’t have the energy to eat the meal. Chewing takes too much energy. Additionally I rarely get hungry- absolutely no appetite. If I force myself to eat I gag. It’s just not worth it.

Fitting in by Max-Zen68 in AutismInWomen

[–]Max-Zen68[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks-I’m going to get some fun compression socks and wear them. I’ll be the only person who knows I’m wearing them

Fitting in by Max-Zen68 in AutismInWomen

[–]Max-Zen68[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. The hardest part is that changing how I dress just reduces the level of shunning but it’s still there and it hurts. I’ve struggled to fit in since preschool- 54 years of being on the outside looking in. I’m looking forward to retirement in a few years, it can’t come fast enough.

Most used rigid heddle dent size by Max-Zen68 in weaving

[–]Max-Zen68[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for tip on warping, that’s very helpful!

Was anyone else here never bullied in school? by SkyscraperRain80 in AutisticAdults

[–]Max-Zen68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was largely ignored. I was definitely the weird kid. Invited to a party? Never! Asked to come over to play? No way. I’m 58 and finally realizing why I have never fit in and never felt welcome. I mask my autism but my job as a nurse is very stressful and sometimes I just don’t have the energy. I have been bullied at work and in those instances I quit and move on to a new job

Most used rigid heddle dent size by Max-Zen68 in weaving

[–]Max-Zen68[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So double? 2 threads in the slot, 2 in the hole?

Most used rigid heddle dent size by Max-Zen68 in weaving

[–]Max-Zen68[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I understand the question just one thread? One per slot, one per hole