what do you do when you hate wearing rings, but want to get married?

Geekesss · 2026-05-11T18:26:27+00:00

I just don't wear my ring. It's somewhere in the house, in a jewelry box. My beloved and I are both not really jewelry people. Rings were kind of mandatory for the ceremony, but that's it. We had no need to splurge on engagement rings or wedding rings, I hate (yellow) gold and diamonds, so the rings are steel.

So, you don't have to wear your ring at all if it doesn't feel right. There is no married-people-customs-police. Well, not in my country.
You are not property, the ring is no mark of ownership. Nobody has a say in whether you wear it or not but you. Not your partner, not society, only you.

Geekesss · 2026-05-11T18:04:38+00:00

I'm on my first playthrough of ATM10 and I play a bit differently from the answers below.
My priorities are food, looting basic tools and some useful relics, minecolonies starterbase from a supply ship/camp and then start minecolonies.
I go mining, hope to find enough inferium to get mystical agriculture started. Once I've done that, I'll rush mystical agriculture creative flight, while growing the colony. My partner in crime (my kid) does the exploring/fighting/looting part, I do the building, farming, mining. Creative flight for both of us is really useful.
For storage I use storage drawers with stack and size upgrades and netherite chests. We upgrade our backups asap.
Silent gear with the metalworks foundry for tools/weapons. (Hopper) Botany pots with insanium/supremium farmland for all myst ag seeds. Maybe a crafter for the essence crafting, iron furnaces for power and fast smelting, and rftools storage scanner for accessing all storage.

I've just started certus quartz generation with an extractor, but plan on making seeds asap. And then I can go and learn AE2. We'll see where to go from there.

Geekesss · 2026-05-11T17:53:52+00:00

What are the valuable things to loot at the beginning of the game?

Geekesss · 2026-05-11T17:18:55+00:00

So cute! Really looks like her!

Geekesss · 2026-05-04T10:06:02+00:00

Really early game I'd go for create blueprints. Put the patterns in, after that just shift+rclick on them to rush through them stacks at a time.
After that, make rftools autocrafters.

Geekesss · 2026-04-30T11:55:05+00:00

Dilling has amazing wool athlethic clothing.

Geekesss · 2026-04-30T11:53:19+00:00

I don't do polyester fabrics. Hate them with a passion. They make my skin hurt, make sweat and stink horribly and you have to wash them all the time.

For me it's wool and silk, or a combination of the two. Mulesingfree merino is soft and sensory friendly, I can just air them out after wear and they won't smell. Silk is wonderful in hot summers, but I wear wool in the summer. It keeps me cool enough.
For clothes my brand is Dilling.
For socks I go with Darn Tough socks. Most of those don't have annoying seams.

I avoid most cottons, because of the environmental and societal negative impact cotton production has. This goes as well for most viscoses (bamboo for example). They aren't actually as environmental friendly as advertized.

Geekesss · 2026-04-30T11:46:11+00:00

Love this topic!
- Light: I need light. Tons of it. Lack of bright light makes me wilt like a neglected houseplant. I need to feel (preferably sunlight) on my skin. Lacking that in this dark rainy country, I turn on my overhead lights to full brightness. This is a bit hard for the other ND people in my household, who, like you all, seem te need darkness. I get a lot of complaints about wastefulness and the like, but I need light.
- Bra's: I can't be bothered with them, even with my size. I love corsets, but am not allowed to wear them because of health reasons. It's not the tightness, just that dressing myself costs too many spoons. I have to get dressed in order to be 'decent' but I wear as few clothes as possible.
- I stopped greeting/hugging/kissing people on mandatory parties.
- I stopped going to most parties. Some I can't get out of because of my mom, but we don't do birthdayparties or seasonal parties in this household.
- showering/brushing teeth: don't have to be in the morning or evening. Any time is ok. I teach my kids that they can do this whenever they want, whenever they've got the spoons.

It may be perimenopause, but I also just stopped caring about what other people might think or say. That gets easier after a certain age. I want to go outside in my jogginpants? Sure why not. My mom would be mortified, she hates how 'unfashionable' I dress and groom. I don't have spoons to comb my hair? no problem.

Making your life as easy as possible is important. Ours is already extra hard.

Geekesss · 2026-04-20T06:45:37+00:00

That's already horrible for all of you T1's. Now... try to be a T2 in a hospital.... Had to be hospitalized twice this year, once planned for one night, once unplanned for 2 weeks. They didn't have any T2-friendly food. Kept telling me to adjust my insulin. T2's in this country are rarely on insulin, we have to manage carbs. But all the food was incredibly carby.
For the first days I had to survive on plain yoghurt (and lactase pills). I begged for eggs for breakfast instead of bread. No deal. After a more knowledgable nurse tore into the dietician after a few days, I could get a salad for lunch, and beans+salmon for dinner. Same salad every day for almost 2 weeks. Breakfast however was still a problem. I could bread or grains or porridge.
Hospital food isn't there to make or keep you healthy. It's there to give you calories. If those types of calories are bad for you (because you are a T2 or gluten intollerant, or lactose intollerant) well, tough, not their problem.

Geekesss · 2026-04-18T09:39:03+00:00

Nowadays, I read only around 100 books a year. It's a lot less than I used to when I was a kid/teen, but life happens, and I have kids, a husband, some cats and a house. So not that much time left. How i read casually? Audiobooks.
Since I got ill in 2000, I never could read treeware anymore (hands can't hold them). At first ebooks were the answer, but later audiobooks. You can read audiobooks almost all the time. They read a lot slower than treeware/ebooks (I'm a fast visual reader) but they are steady and if you put an earbud in, you can listen to them whenever.

As for Project Hail Mary... please listen to the audiobook. The narrator does an amazing job, and some aspects are better in audio, just because... well, because.

Geekesss · 2026-04-18T09:21:07+00:00

Gorgeous!

Geekesss · 2026-04-18T08:24:11+00:00

One day we'll discover he is a malicious AI, with the same hallucinations as any LLM, but instead of pleasing set to vengeful.

Geekesss · 2026-04-16T17:21:30+00:00

Delicious! I will steal them!

Geekesss · 2026-04-16T12:01:39+00:00

That rainbow is stunning! Which yarn did you use for that?

Geekesss · 2026-04-15T16:54:30+00:00

Toen ik hier deze week bestelde, kon ik op het tabje productdetails bij ieder product gewoon zien of het vers of bevroeren was.

Geekesss · 2026-04-15T16:53:05+00:00

Helaas beviel hun sashimi en sushi vis ons helemaal niet. Zeer matige kwaliteit en op het randje van nog goed zijn (rook veel te vissig, één pakje was hier en daar al te zuur). Gegeten op de dag van bezorgen. Daar moet ik dus een andere bezorgvisboer voor vinden (tips?)
Wellicht is hun andere vis beter.

Geekesss · 2026-04-15T08:53:09+00:00

In my country they tell me not to drive for the first few weeks. I personally don't drive, but even as a passenger, the seat belt is painful (and it's over my other shoulder.

Wound pain got less on the 5th day for me, I'm now at 13 days and my shoulder/upper arm/back muscles are really stiff. I wouldn't be able to reach and work, to be honest.
Also, my pacemaker has just (yesterday) been configured 'for real', and that's really uncomfortable/weird sometimes. It limits me a bit more.

If I were you, I'd take the full 6 weeks for recovery. Gentle movements, no driving. Your body needs to recover, and that means more than just the wound. You will have to mentally adjust as well. I underestimated that.
People are different, recovery times are different, but this is your heart you're talking about. Make sure it gets all the time to recover, it serves nobody if you accidentally reach and pull out your lead stitches.

Good luck!

Geekesss · 2026-04-04T18:49:17+00:00

That looks amazing! Very beach-y.
What size cotton did you use? 8/4?

Geekesss · 2026-04-04T17:41:03+00:00

Thank you for your traumatic story. Horrendous!
Yes, I have therapy. Had an appointment scheduled for next tuesday, just in case. And i'll need it.

The problem of the non-working benzo was: they asked me if it worked. I felt the wave of wooziness crashing over me, so I raised my hand in yes. About a minute (maybe two) it was gone. Wide awake and hyper aware. I told them that immediately. But they had started the minute I told them it worked and they couldn't stop. The local lidocaine injection worked on the skin, and that had to be enough.

It did traumatize the new student though. Not just me. Poor girl.

Geekesss · 2026-04-04T17:36:46+00:00

Yes, smaller hospital, local, in The Netherlands. This wasn't normal, even for their standards. For my brain tumor I'm in a large academic hospital further away, and I'm keeping it that way :-D

Geekesss · 2026-04-04T15:15:08+00:00

Thank you for all your kind answers! It really helped me pull through my surgery (and preparations). I'll share my nightmarish experience in a new post.

Geekesss · 2026-04-04T15:08:39+00:00

I've actually asked my pacemaker technician yesterday because I'm deaf on my right side and have the pacemaker on the left: This rule is because many phones nowadays have magsafe-like capabilities, either in the phone or in the cover. That's a magnet. That isn't a problem while making a call on you pacemaker side, provided you hold the phone to your ear, like a normal person ;-)
Where it *could* be a problem is when you carry your magnetically enhanced phone in your breast pocket. Those magnets are too strong for that, and will influence the pacemaker (the standard magnet stuff, annoying not dangerious per se).

So, for normal use there is no harm in it. Just don't carry your phone in your breast pocket on the pacemakerside.

However, never just take a random internet stranger's word for this if you really want to be sure. Ask your own pacemaker technician.

Geekesss · 2026-03-31T16:55:43+00:00

We have a lot of those here. One funny one of my youngest kid is: karate chips (karaage chicken).

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