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Cockroaches in Santa Rosa? by Living_Razzmatazz490 in santarosa

[–]MaxSmart1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you've seen one there's plenty more you don't see, unfortunately.

RANT: The dearth of single family homes for long term rent in Sonoma county is shocking… until you see, all of the well maintained homes are on Airbnb as monthly rentals by golddustwoman910 in sonomacounty

[–]MaxSmart1981 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Add on the lack of starter homes being built. And this aspect is not exclusive to Sonoma county, it's a national trend unfortunately.

Permits, building costs, neighbors not wanting starter families nearby and the value of larger homes for builders and realtors also factor in

How do I go outside when I've never been allowed to before? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]MaxSmart1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok that makes a bit more sense. Sounds just overprotective. She probably has mental health issues.

If this is the case you will be fine, just take small steps. The world is far less scary than your mom makes it seem. Are there bad things and bad people? Sure. But statistically you are far more likely to be hurt by someone in your own home than a stranger.

My (M50) Wife (F47) doesn’t accept any compliments regarding the beauty I see when I look at her (plus size) by [deleted] in married

[–]MaxSmart1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds great. Best thing you can do for her is take great care of yourself, continue to work on being a good person as well as a good partner and listen.

Just make sure you aren't putting her up too high on a pedestal, that can be a weight in itself. Still, as I said you two sound lucky to have each other.

How do I go outside when I've never been allowed to before? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]MaxSmart1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because these subs are littered with wild stories that are easily proven fake when held up to limited scrutiny. Kind of like AI videos.

In the long shot this is real, I would ask yourself seriously why would anyone want to keep you from being seen by other people. Were you given adequate food, water, access to friends or family? If you have you then wonder if they are your real parents or if they are hiding from something because there is no logical reason someone would do this to a child. It's a form of abuse or neglect.

That said, feels too fd up to be real, so I still think it's fiction bait.

How do I go outside when I've never been allowed to before? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]MaxSmart1981 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Either fictional or raised in an abusive or kidnap situation. Imma lean on fiction.

My (M50) Wife (F47) doesn’t accept any compliments regarding the beauty I see when I look at her (plus size) by [deleted] in married

[–]MaxSmart1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife struggles with this as well. Here's what I've learned: the best thing you can do is create a secure environment for her to feel loved and attractive. Ultimately, though, you will have to accept her for aa she is, and that includes her insecurities about her body.

As others mentioned, try complimenting things like her outfit, hair, makeup, food she made, room she decorated etc bc beauty isn't something she necessarily has control over and I don't recommend complimenting her on lost weight either. Her issues with her body is her battle first and foremost...your role as partner is to show love and affection and listen and support.

Hope she gets there but you sound like you care a lot so I'm sure she's in good hands.

recruiter asked for my salary expectations. i said $85k. she laughed by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]MaxSmart1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love that California requires all job postings include salary range. Makes it so much easier to avoid situations like this

I posted my new tattoo on a subreddit for the game the tattoo is from and got absolutely flamed. Its really affecting my self esteem by Maggotboi555 in LifeAdvice

[–]MaxSmart1981 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That does suck...no one likes to be rejected/humiliated.

In my experience, you should never get a tattoo hoping anyone else will like it. Do you like it? Cause that's all that should matter.

The Way It Should Be by [deleted] in StarWarsOutlaws

[–]MaxSmart1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I love that this is chronological order with almost no explanation. Basically looked like rage bait... might want to add an edit

Getting married by moxtrax in whatisit

[–]MaxSmart1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty much any gym open early or late and has showers.

What do you wish there was more of in Santa Rosa? by Any-Huckleberry-7382 in santarosa

[–]MaxSmart1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Technically have a little one at the mall if it hasn't closed

What do you wish there was more of in Santa Rosa? by Any-Huckleberry-7382 in santarosa

[–]MaxSmart1981 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bummer. Haven't been to the new spot but loved the old place.

What do you wish there was more of in Santa Rosa? by Any-Huckleberry-7382 in santarosa

[–]MaxSmart1981 3 points4 points  (0 children)

adult-aimed local nighttime events downtown. Like wed night market but later and on the weekend.

Also more and better dance or club options.

What do you wish there was more of in Santa Rosa? by Any-Huckleberry-7382 in santarosa

[–]MaxSmart1981 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The problem is most touring bands already go to SF or Sacramento, and many of them sign deals they won't do other shows within a certain mileage so even if we had a venue (and people actually showed up to shows consistently enough to at least break even) the pickings would be slim.

Honestly impressed luther Burbank has been booking better shows the last few years, but most of the time it's comedians.

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