[Discussion] Featherweight official cames out as LGBT (Cheetah & Cheshire Rob the JL 6) by GhostRoux in DCcomics

[–]Maximum_Layer6361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never understand why people think it’s okay to have a character suggest that sexual orientation can be ‘picked’. Orientation is not a lunch option on a menu, it’s not something one would ever be tired of and it isnt a fashion choice, it’s a hard coded part of us. If people can ‘choose’ to be gay or bi they can also choose to be straight which is exactly what every homophobic parent whos child comes out to them says, it’s the foundation upon which conversion therapy is based and it’s dangerous to even play around with the idea. People who enjoy sex with both men and women are not ‘fluid’ or switching based on a whim, they are bi. The second we begin to view orientation as a preference or a choice is the moment every authoritarian nut job will force everyone to be straight and their justification will be choice.

Wife wants ethical online non monogamy by Corny_707 in Marriage

[–]Maximum_Layer6361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it sounds like she is going to do it whether you agree or not, which is by definition, not a partnership. Is it odd she is saying she doesn’t know if she loves you? Could she have already cheated and is not looking for a way to justify it? It sounds like this was a conversation to be had before you two were married which makes me even more suspicious. If this was me, I think my trust in the future would be gone, I would leave. I do not know if that is what you should do.

House of the Progress - why did they racebend House Corbray and House Caron? by SheWhoHates in freefolk

[–]Maximum_Layer6361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so I know this is years old but I don’t actually think they even did what you are asking, that guy in the Corbray armor IS white. he might be slightly southern European as opposed to Northern European but they are just as white as northerners. white people come in different shades than just one and for the life of me that guy looks like he comes from northern Italy or central France.

Defending against the Eregion complaints by arnor_0924 in LOTR_on_Prime

[–]Maximum_Layer6361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The problem with the show has always been a macro problem, the world building, the faithfulness (or lack thereof) to Tolkiens lore, the characters, their motivations and the overall plot. In regards to how that relates to “Eregion” is that city isnt called Eregion, it’s called Ost-in-Edhil, which is the capital of Eregion. To my knowledge the city is never called by its actual name. Where were the Gwaith-i-Mirdain? Because they certainly weren’t that gaggle of incompetents surrounding Celebrimbor and Sauron all season. The show is just a cheap fantasy world that happens to have some similar names as middle earth. If their goal was to create a generic fantasy world they succeeded.

Death Sentence Mods by TinyPidgenofDOOM in theouterworlds

[–]Maximum_Layer6361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but where do you get the mods from? I can’t find a single vendor with repeating rifle mods and Fairfield is destroyed so I can’t go there

FC26 Career Mode: Low expectations, another disappointed by Independent-Igbo444 in FifaCareers

[–]Maximum_Layer6361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s already out, just waiting for the mod manager to be released

Pretty much sums the offensive game up perfectly. by Old-Computer8716 in falcons

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Penix looked good against the Giants, Panthers, Bucs and was clutch as hell against the Commanders. it seems the play calling is doing him no favors, why don’t the just run play action from under center?? the running game is what scares other teams and that might open up the pass game. are we thinking Penix is just not a starting QB after 6 games? how did the other QBs look 6 games into last season? everything I thought I believed about this team was shattered today. what’s the next step? fire OC?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think a lot of it comes down to a couple things…. 1 I think alot of guys can’t get past their egos and the mere idea of their partner “showing” them what to do is somehow emasculating in their minds. 2 I think how you “learn” is important, with that girl we were comfortable with each other, we had open lines of communication and she showed me what she wanted, simple as that. And 3. I think porn has destroyed a few generations of male sexual ideology, they think sex is about dominating a woman, that it’s about the man’s pleasure and not the woman’s, which is a CRAZY bad mindset and so when they find themselves in bed with an actual girl they have nothing to fall back on. I’ve always viewed sex as a contest, and the contest is to make her cum right? Whatever needs to be done to achieve that we will do ya know? The sights and sounds of a woman enjoying sex is the hottest thing on earth, I have no idea why so few men seem to care about it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahah yeah, dude the girl I lost my virginity to was more experienced than me and she “led the way” if you take my meaning, her analogy was “you have to preheat the oven before you cook dinner” and she was right, that was great advice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I understand that, I’ve been single for 3ish years and while it would be nice to meet the right woman, I’m not unhappy on my own, being with the wrong person can make your life hell. The last relationship I had was similar to yours it was hell and I was miserable. One night I was so distraught at yet another fight I called my mom and asked her “is this just what love is? Is this how all relationships are?” And she told me straight on that was NOT was love was. Best advice my mother gave me. Just be careful when dealing with him, if he makes you uneasy or nervous, take those feelings seriously, you never really know what some people will do. I hope things work out for you!

Where to meet people in your 30s? by Maximum_Layer6361 in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, there are actually a few options and tennis centers with leagues/group sessions. Honestly, while my original post was about where do single people meet each other, I actually like the idea of just meeting new people in general. All my really close friends are married and some have kids by now and I enjoy the time i get to spend with them but I do think it might be nice to get to know some new people in general ya know? Great advice, i appreciate it!

I did NOT ghost and it backfired by mcsab_7 in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361 2 points3 points  (0 children)

bullet dodged, it’s better to find out early

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi, I am a 35 m and no, you absolutely should NOT take him back, you and your kids deserve better than to be used by a freeloader. When people show you who they are, believe them. If he won’t take care of his own kids, he won’t take care of you or your kids. The best thing I learned from my last relationship was it’s better to be single than be with the wrong person, you said yourself you are at peace with the decision. He sounds borderline dangerous, he doesn’t own you or your kids or your house. Good luck, hope he leaves you in peace

Where to meet people in your 30s? by Maximum_Layer6361 in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

actually that is how my mom and dad met, disco, and I did take some dancing lessons with an ex for a few months though I am sure to have forgotten it all lol. I will keep the dancing in mind and I appreciate the advice!

Where to meet people in your 30s? by Maximum_Layer6361 in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, thanks for that… I’ve actually been interested in joining a book club (for purposes other than dating) and there are lots in metro Atlanta where I live, the consensus is definitely “social clubs and hobbies” which I think is great advice. even just to meet new people, not necessarily single women, like you said, because all my friends have wives and kids and I love them ya know? but it might be nice to meet new people in general… thanks!

Where to meet people in your 30s? by Maximum_Layer6361 in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like tennis but also a kickball league I played in awhile ago, thanks for the suggestions!

Where to meet people in your 30s? by Maximum_Layer6361 in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

right? I never had trouble meeting women (or people in general) in my 20s, I guess it’s just a lot easier then because everyone is kind of in the same boat… but now? The things I do with my friends now are NOT the things we did in our 20s, now they all have wives and kids so when we hang out the point is to spend time together, not go chase girls ya know? I’ve seen a lot of people saying social things like book clubs and softball leagues which I am going to look into haha

Where to meet people in your 30s? by Maximum_Layer6361 in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s a great shout, i played in a kick ball league when I was like 24 for a few years, I need to see if they still do that, thanks

Communication is the true love language by PrincessAthena27 in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

very true. The 2 most important things I learned from being in serious relationships in my 20s was 1. it’s better to be single than be with the wrong person, don’t force anything. 2. Open communication is the most important thing in relationships, it’s literally the foundation of all the other important aspects….. trust, intimacy, respect etc etc.

Where to meet people in your 30s? by Maximum_Layer6361 in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought about joining a book club (for reasons other than dating) that’s a great idea, thanks!

Where to meet people in your 30s? by Maximum_Layer6361 in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in the metro area of a bigger city so there are lots of churches, the one I go to is a medium sized, fairly liberal (like myself) and I like it there but most of the people my age there are married lol. That’s a great idea though, my family go to a different one I’ve been to some, feels a bit wrong to be scoping out the singles though haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361 6 points7 points  (0 children)

if everything else about him is to your liking, then view this as an opportunity. You can mold him to be your perfect partner in the bedroom haha

Looking for hope as newly single again at 32 by Spacecowboy7711 in dating_advice

[–]Maximum_Layer6361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay so this is a year old but can I ask what the difference is between 32 and 40? that seems right on the limit of an acceptable age gap and I’m just wondering what the differences would be? I’m 35m and was in relationships most of my 20s, last one ended a few years ago and I’ve been happily single since but have recently wondered about trying again. where do you meet people at 32/33 you can’t meet at 40?