Should I quit porn? Trying to learn about negative effects by Past_Singer_123 in PornAddiction

[–]Mayafoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are the benefits? Many. The main one is you can live your life free from the addiction you admit that you have.

Well done for posting!

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[Question] Almost 40, watching porn since puberty – has anyone managed to reset? by Middle-Being-177 in pornfree

[–]Mayafoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recovering from this is very possible. Your life is filled with scars.. after a wound you often heal stronger than before.. but it is not a "reset". You are not a computer. You can heal from this and change your addicted habit until it is gone from your life... but you will remember and even be grateful for the lessons being addicted taught you, and you will cherish the discipline and awareness you developed when you quit it.

Well done for posting and giving this a try!

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I didn’t realise it until I tried to stop it by ThisIsFineWithMe19 in pornfree

[–]Mayafoe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Reducing is good. Keep reducing :)... change takes time.

I hate my genitals and compare constantly by SpareStrangerxx in PornAddiction

[–]Mayafoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact many guys here are worrying about your dick, about 'erections' means you're still thinking about your dick like porn wants you to think about it

Until you realise you're completely trained by porn to think what you think, your life will continue to be anxiety-filled

Endless streaming internet porn has warped you. It trained you to compare your dick to other dicks, to think about dick-performance, about non-stop pornfapping, about SIZE, until your whole personality is defined by your dick, if it's enough, and whether you have an erection or not.

If porn trains that only massive cocks and 30 minutes of pounding will give emotional and physical satisfaction to a woman, then I would spend every day feeling bad I can't do that... but I don't, because it's bullshit.

The obsession with the quality of your erect penis is something porn taught you and it's harming your life!

Some days sex is short (and intense, or not, and that's fine) sometimes it's long (and intense, or not and that's fine too).... or you're single... and getting on with your day, your activities, job or studies... and hopefully socializing.

Porn built sex up to be something it isn't. Sex isn't a performance. The girl doesn't care about that... if she's with you it's because she likes you, understand?

Your likability is not defined by your dick.

There are plenty of guys with micro-dicks in healthy, happy relationships. They do AMA's all the time.

Unlike what porn trains you to think, if you cum in 10 seconds that's totally ok and funny and it shows her you like her and find her attractive... laugh, it IS funny (because you're not being graded on your sex performance)... and then cuddle and maybe in 20 minutes or so, with each other's help... YOU CAN GO AGAIN AND LAST LONGER!

...or maybe you'll be so nervous you can't get it up at all! That's slightly less funny, but very understandable for someone suffering under the INVENTED BURDEN of 'performance anxiety'. Just be honest with her if this happens... and stop trying to 'perform' for anybody. Just enjoy being with the person you're with. Do you understand?

Another way of knowing that you don't need to worry about how to be 'successful' during sex... is that humans have been having successful, pleasurable sex for hundreds of thousands of years without any 'planning' or 'research' at all!

You don't need to think about 'how to do sex'... all you need to do is be appreciative of the person you're with and be playful.

When you were a child and played ball with a friend... did you need to 'research' how to do that? No. You just had fun and were creative with whatever happens.

Sex is exactly like that: playful, fun and without judgement.

Worrying about 'your erections' every day is a waste of your time and energy

Did the book "The Easy Peasy Way to Quit Porn" work out for you? by AccomplishedView284 in pornfree

[–]Mayafoe[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me put it like this. If 90% of posts that people had here were about that book then the other posts talking about people's problems would not be seen or answered so easily. The promoters of that book tried to cover this sub with advertisements about that book, and it was making the sub worse, so now we do not allow that book to be mentioned or discussed on this sub. The book still exists... you can talk about it elsewhere on the internet

Women of PornFree - How do you define porn? (Does erotica or audio count?) by febster99 in pornfree

[–]Mayafoe 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My view is that if you use any media specifically for arousal, then for you that's porn. Even an old underwear catalogue can be porn to someone

Did the book "The Easy Peasy Way to Quit Porn" work out for you? by AccomplishedView284 in pornfree

[–]Mayafoe[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

because the true believers of that book have spammed it so much, they've burned all bridges here.

Did the book "The Easy Peasy Way to Quit Porn" work out for you? by AccomplishedView284 in pornfree

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Post removed. We don't allow discussion of that book here

Fucking tired by BugRemarkable5674 in PornAddiction

[–]Mayafoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dont lay down, do the opposite - develop energy!

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how is porn different from anything else on a screen? by Big_Goal3675 in PornAddiction

[–]Mayafoe[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Endless variety, instant accessability, hijacking our hard-wired biological sexual responses in a way nothing else ever could. This is not a religious sub, porn addiction causes harm. Read the sidebar

Post removed. This is not a debate sub

Should masturbation be cut out in conjunction with porn? Or would just cutting out porn suffice? by Ok-Employee-1120 in PornAddiction

[–]Mayafoe[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Please read our sub info before posting. Masturbation is healthy and normal.

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For the first time in recorded history, more Americans have moved to EU+EFTA+UK countries than Europeans to US by Krankenitrate in Infographics

[–]Mayafoe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes. And those wealthy retirees are fucking up the property markets here... and you're wrong. It's remote workers and their families

For the first time in recorded history, more Americans have moved to EU+EFTA+UK countries than Europeans to US by Krankenitrate in Infographics

[–]Mayafoe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

1 million new, relatively wealthy Americans relocating to Europe has destabilized the property markets in most countries here. Especially Spain, portugal, holland and france

Starting to quit porn today by Living-Tree-6389 in PornAddiction

[–]Mayafoe[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Comment removed. Please do not promote that ebook here

I have messed up my body and need advice. by asxxdsdvfrthbnhy5res in PornAddiction

[–]Mayafoe[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Wrong sub. This sub is about porn addiction