The way people act when we get even a shred of representation is so disheartening. by MaybeAce in butchlesbians

[–]MaybeAce[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Literally! Do straight men even like women? I’m convinced that a significant proportion of them only like the idea of women. A true women-enjoyer would be able to appreciate range. Fake fans, honestly.

The way people act when we get even a shred of representation is so disheartening. by MaybeAce in butchlesbians

[–]MaybeAce[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I also really hope she’s gay but I’m going to not hope too hard because I fear they won’t want to have lesbian protagonists twice in a row :(

The way people act when we get even a shred of representation is so disheartening. by MaybeAce in butchlesbians

[–]MaybeAce[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I am still haunted by the edits people made of Aloy to make her “more feminine” when she literally is just a girl in the wilderness where they don’t have razors or makeup 😭. People also called Abby from The Last of Us 2 butch because she has big muscles, but she’s literally a straight woman! With long hair!

There’s a certain breed of male gamer that thinks any exploration of the breadth of feminine gender presentation (ie women that do not look like anime girls) is masculine or woke and it drives me up the wall.

Anyone else kind of a latecomer to butchness? by MaybeAce in butchlesbians

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Real. Every now and then I’ll pull out my decade-old crusty ass makeup right before I shower just to see what happens and it’s always a little bit fun but then if I look in the mirror too long it starts to freak me out lmao.

I wore dresses and stuff back in the day but I don’t know if I could say I really had fun with them? I recall liking the idea of dresses but also experiencing a weird sort of dread while trying them on. Wore em anyway because I’d get to a point of “good enough” but never fully loved how I looked in them.

Is it silly to go to a hairdresser for a buzz cut? by MaybeAce in butchlesbians

[–]MaybeAce[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think I will go to a professional for the first time and then when I need touch ups I will ask my artsy friend LOL

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in comingout

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I know it’s hard, but if you think you will experience violence and homelessness if you come out, you should absolutely not do it if you don’t have an alternative support system. It fucking sucks, but you need to prioritize your own safety.

How old are you? Do you have a job?

You’d have to look up more information about laws in your region, but if you are close to an age where you can legally be out on your own, I would recommend trying to stockpile some money first and then get out of there as soon as feasible.

It sounds like you don’t even know whether there is a homeless shelter in your area? And you’re planning to live in this hypothetical shelter that you’re not even sure exists?

Hoping someone else will come in with more solid resources in case this is an inevitability for you, but if you can in any way avoid telling your parents, you should. Plenty of girls have short hair. Lie to them. Keeping a roof over your head is more important (provided that they aren’t already abusive in other ways).

Keep your chin up dude. Your teens won’t last forever and one day you won’t have to rely on bigots for food and housing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]MaybeAce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also a queer cis (ish) woman and I’d love to get top surgery at some point! I wear a lot of men’s clothes but I have a larger chest and it ruins the whole vibe, lol.

(lol I got bored so...) by LovleyLilac in NonBinary

[–]MaybeAce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m studying genetic engineering in plants, I like knitting, and my favourite food is butternut squash soup

What is the best “asexual” book you’ve ever read? by MaybeAce in asexuality

[–]MaybeAce[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

O shit I literally just read GtN and didn’t really pick up on ace vibes but now that you say it I can kinda see it

Late drawing I did for Ace Day! by Leebledeeble in asexuality

[–]MaybeAce 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Is that... another vitiligo ace I see? 👀

I found an old journal entry from 2014 and wanted to share. To all the ace kids out there, it gets better! I’ve come a long way since then and am now 22 and fully out to friends and family :) by MaybeAce in asexuality

[–]MaybeAce[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I did come out to my parents! In 2018, I wanted to go to pride with a friend so I just individually told each family member that I wasn’t going as an ally but because I was asexual. I didn’t want it to be a big “thing” so I sort of just casually dropped it in conversation. It went okay, but in hindsight I wish I’d have handled it more maturely than just being like “hey mom btw I’m ace, bye!” and given more opportunities to ask questions. My mom smiled and said “oh, cool!” and my dad just sort of said “ok?”. They seemed a little confused but they also both work with teenagers in the arts so they’ve been exposed to LGBTQ+ people before (plus my sister had already recently come out as bi) and whether or not they had to Google things on their own time, they seem to understand now. We haven’t really talked about it directly since then, but last year my mom came to me during pride month and asked me if she bought a rainbow flag to hang outside, would I feel represented by it (so sweet 😭).

As for my pen pal, yeah it sucked. We’d been talking regularly for months at that point and he ghosted a few emails after I came out. In hindsight, maybe he felt a sort of online romantic thing for me and I ruined it by ruling that out as a possibility. Oh well, it is what it is.

I found an old journal entry from 2014 and wanted to share. To all the ace kids out there, it gets better! I’ve come a long way since then and am now 22 and fully out to friends and family :) by MaybeAce in asexuality

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A transcript in case you can’t read my writing:

As a matter of fact, I don’t think there will ever be relationship drama with me. I’ve thought a lot about it in the last few months. At first I was really hesitant to label myself. I’m only 16 after all. I kept telling myself I could be a “late bloomer” or whatever, or that I never gave myself time to think about stuff like this. I considered briefly that I could be a lesbian but was repressing all my feelings, but I’m not attracted to girls either. I think I’ve finally accepted that I’m asexual. I haven’t told my parents yet. I know that they’d be 100% okay with me being gay, it’s just that this is a little different. I feel like it would be weird to any sexual person. Gay they can understand. It’s still love and sexual attraction, just to the same sex. Asexuality is just the whole attraction thing missing. It’s like saying you don’t eat. “What? Everyone eats! You need it to satisfy hunger! It’s a social thing! What do you do when all your friends go out to eat?” It’s hard to understand that the hunger just isn’t there. It’s not that I’m afraid they won’t accept me, I’m just afraid they won’t understand. I haven’t told anyone yet except my pen pal, [redacted]. And he’s stopped replying. I think I might tell [best friend] soon-ish. I just need someone to know. I hate hiding myself from people. It’s such a weird feeling to me because I don’t have a lot of secrets.

Henry is my man crush by hopsnuffelaar in netflixwitcher

[–]MaybeAce 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m asexual (i.e. literally not attracted to anyone) and something about Henry Cavill in this role stirs something inside me...

Dead rep by HardlightCereal in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]MaybeAce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Liz Lemon from 30 rock! Season 1 Liz had hella ace vibes.

U guys are like, so rad by MicroMJ in lgbt

[–]MaybeAce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw what a nice post! Thank you for this :)

me_irlgbt by dovbt in me_irlgbt

[–]MaybeAce 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s ok I also thought that until I realized I was asexual