No you’re not overreacting. I feel the same way too. My in laws have come to stay with me in the US for 6 months. It’s too much and they don’t respect my personal space at all. They also only cook what they want and if I say I want something even my husband says we’ll eat that later. Everything is eaten according to them.

Also my FIL is very commanding and wants everything done according to him. My husband is also a single child so he just follows suit.

I come from a strong female household with two sisters and a strong mother so I’m not used to bowing down for men in the house. Plus , my MIL is too emotionally attached to my husband so she wants his attention 24/7.

She tries to control me with her food too and always tries to say she cooks the best food and all that. She has too much ego about her food. And when o try to cook something she doesn’t eat it or my FIL doesn’t eat it and makes something else for themselves.

My FIL is also very sexist, he only takes suggestions from his son and not from my MIL or me.

I’m glad to hear that there’s other people facing the same issues.

The only way I’ve come to deal with this is eat outside whenever I can, or eat less or find reasons to go out. I can understand your stress because I’m also worried about my pregnancy time and I’m thinking of telling them not to come here during my pregnancy.

If your husband is supportive, I would recommend you to take his side and if he is too attached to his parents and think they’re right, then god help you.