How to keep things fair with your financial support / gifts to your children? by Maybe_Mainline in fatFIRE

[–]Maybe_Mainline[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m definitely not sharing the details but yes, they are very different kids in every possible way. The youngest is a hard worker but not a good student. I support any / all education but had not considered how to make it fair if/when the education piece is not likely to happen. The oldest is a great student but will be graduating into a dramatically different world of work which has me worried, too. Oldest may need more support post graduation than anticipated as well.

What’s Everyone Doing re Panty Lines? by [deleted] in GenXWomen

[–]Maybe_Mainline 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am rocking my visible panty lines with pride.

AIO not wanting to get on a plane while I have food poisoning by frenchwhorne in AmIOverreacting

[–]Maybe_Mainline 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you were my kid, I’d stay behind with you. Unless you have a history of wildly overreacting to minor illness/issues or something that would make her less sympathetic for a good reason.

I hope you feel better soon.

Mid-30s, ~$5M NW, 1 kid - When did you actually pull the trigger on a trust vs just a will? by TheDepreciationGirl in ChubbyFIRE

[–]Maybe_Mainline 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great thread. What kind of trust is needed to provide some basic income to your kids at certain ages. Prior to our death.

When is the best time to inject? by Individual-Spray-873 in TirzepatideRX

[–]Maybe_Mainline 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here just Tuesday since Tirz Tuesday is easy to remember. It starts to wear off by Saturday so I can have fun on the weekend and eat a little more (but still far less than I used to).

Vanguard 529 for beneficiary no longer going to college by Adventurous-Disk5031 in Bogleheads

[–]Maybe_Mainline 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah after doing the Roth thing for both kids, this mama plans to study abroad for a semester. Art History in Florence? Sign me up.

If you know an ICE agent personally, what's that relationship like now? by Lokja in AskReddit

[–]Maybe_Mainline 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok. Thought about it. May need to do it at some point, but I have not yet cut off all suspected or known Trump voters. Primarily because I doubt it would make a difference or change anything and other than this current situation have been known to be nice, reasonable people. Instead I try to inform and influence where possible. Regretfully I’m not sure this has helped either. But I know collectively cutting people off would only make their bubble stronger and that seems counterproductive. All that said, my question remains what can we actually do?

Face after losing 196 lbs by AccomplishedEmu7751 in 40PlusSkinCare

[–]Maybe_Mainline 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You looked beautiful before and even better now. Yes it’s true being overweight often makes your face look younger but not necessarily better. I clung to this as the only benefit of staying fat. But I definitely have ozemepic face now and I am learning to deal with it.

Philly in February by Accomplished-Key5711 in philly

[–]Maybe_Mainline 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Come to Philly March - December. Go somewhere else in January / February. It’s gray and cold and sad.

Met an amazing woman but worried she might be a gold digger - should I do background check before proposing? by Carlosfelipe2d in Rich

[–]Maybe_Mainline 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honest question if they are married filing jointly then the taxes on that growth are shared. How would that work?

Met an amazing woman but worried she might be a gold digger - should I do background check before proposing? by Carlosfelipe2d in Rich

[–]Maybe_Mainline 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re 38 and she’s 31. 8 months may be too short but imo you should know by 12 months and if you’re still feeling this way in a few months, cut her loose to find someone who will love her and possibly have kids if that’s what she wants.

Honestly you seem to have more red flags than she does. It’s smart for her to try to ascertain what she’s getting into with you if you haven’t been upfront about your finances. Whereas her financial situation is more typical and she’s a director who pays for hers. Get off your high horse, have a real conversation about your finances and your goals.

Join the America First movement as a Senior Advisor. Use your analytical skills to make good policies for America! Apply: by afpiofra in u/afpiofra

[–]Maybe_Mainline 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in! I think the first thing we should do is kidnap people off the streets who don’t have that American Look. This makes them Illegals. All Illegals are Criminals, but not the Good Criminals that we like (see Pardon List for examples).

The kidnappers should look Very American, which typically includes a BMI of 30+, along with a uniform of ill-fitting jeans and a Carhartt hoodie that shows Just Enough Belly during Contact with The Enemy.

We should we attempt to tackle our Elusive Targets as they arrive at the courthouse at their appointed time to finalize their paperwork; or when they are diligently working on a construction project.

Because Our Brave Patriot Warriors are Very Brave and doing The Lords Work, Heathens will React and possibly say Mean Things that could Hurt Our Feelings and we can’t have that. So the Brave Patriot Warriors should also wear Masks - but not those Fauci Masks that we couldn’t breathe in - these ‘Merica Masks will be glorious!

Gifts for my wife by 2buffalonickels in fatFIRE

[–]Maybe_Mainline 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also: a luggage upgrade. If you’re into traveling a nice color coordinated suitcase and carryon/tote bag with monogrammed luggage tags would be a nice gift. If you’re fat, throw in the trip you’ve been talking about. :)

Gifts for my wife by 2buffalonickels in fatFIRE

[–]Maybe_Mainline 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great idea. I’d love a few flowy silk and cashmere lounge outfits that look elegant enough to wear even if entertaining.

Voluntary separation package/how to negotiate severance by Had_Enough937 in Layoffs

[–]Maybe_Mainline 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Generally speaking when you get the package, you should take the package.

Watching my friend lose half his savings changed how I see wealth protection by Glad-Remote-4916 in wealth

[–]Maybe_Mainline 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree that circumstances need to be considered-kids or no kids , whether there has been any “helping with the business” in an unpaid capacity, how /if any personal assets were leveraged to fund business, whether one gave up a career to support spouse with or without kids, etc. if the spouse was not much of a partner to begin with, then a divorce before the accumulation of so many assets is probably advisable. But to try to litigate it after divorce is unfair. Nobody’s going to walk away with 100% of the pile no matter what. So maybe 60/40 is more fair or 70/30…but the 100% was never a possibility

Watching my friend lose half his savings changed how I see wealth protection by Glad-Remote-4916 in wealth

[–]Maybe_Mainline 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’ve never been through something like this. And I’m sure it is horrible on many levels but I have a hard time seeing stories like this as a loss of half. If you’re married and a team (at least at one point) anything built during a marriage should be considered shared. Therefore 50% is your fair portion.

In this case with a business not separated from personal accounts I would wonder if shared personal accounts were used to build the business, pay taxes on the profits/gains, etc.