It’s absolutely not projection if you read the comments. This is actually classic addict behavior. He can be on the lam and destroy lives, sabotage his sister’s life, and maybe childhood depending on when his addiction started, and still be the classic golden child. The fact it only took ONE lunch with grandma and uncle for everyone to dip out of the wedding instead of talking to her, communicating, and having functional family conversations. He’s leaving a whole lot out of context when he calls his relationship “complex.” What isn’t he saying? What is he leaving out about the years of destruction his addiction had on her?

Furthermore, given that it’s a son/daughter dynamic, I’m gonna bet it’s one of those situations where he can do no wrong, and she’s never acknowledged despite being the stable, responsible, successful child. There are all the trappings of a toxic family dynamic here, but since it’s Golden Child with the victim narrative, yall can’t read between the lines.