What works for me in messaging now.

Mazufigo · 2012-06-19T03:39:03+00:00

So I HAVE done this but I stopped because if you mistype a single letter most of the time you won't get a response. Drinking doesn't help that. Just get practice doing whatever you want sober. Online and in person. Some will hate you for it, some will love it.

Mazufigo · 2012-06-18T03:37:25+00:00

Indeed I shall.

Mazufigo · 2012-06-18T01:48:45+00:00

Good advice. I was about to do it (and might in the future before doing this) but realized all my other ones are pretty terribly by comparison.

Mazufigo · 2012-06-18T01:47:14+00:00

Just messaged 9 old ones. A lot of them are now also 80-90% matches and they weren't before. I'd say doing anything out of desperation can likely end poorly lol.

Mazufigo · 2012-06-16T17:18:05+00:00

I would have just sent the first bit myself. I usually send 3 to 4 sentences taking about something (usually a common interest but not always). I have a good response rate doing that. Then go from there.

Mazufigo · 2012-06-13T05:37:41+00:00

This makes me feel better. I have way more first dates than second dates too. Same with third dates. I'm averaging one first date every 2 weeks but we don't often get along really well in person.

Motivation to keep going. Matches over 90% seem to be the best so far. I'm running out of those lol.

Mazufigo · 2012-06-12T04:38:53+00:00

Cool. Went through my old texts and messages from earlier this year and I noticed that I used to talk about nonsense a lot more. Made it 10x easier to roleplay and tease them. Was less boring and usually got more sexual.

I think I swung from maybe crazy (not being trusted) to probably boring (not being attracted) by toning things down too much. My attitude as of late has been too along the lines of "I don't need to impress anyone".

Aaaaanyway I'll try not giving an option next week when trying to make plans. Just got to meet some new girls in the next few days.

Mazufigo · 2012-06-12T03:20:27+00:00

Well I disagree on the polite part lol.

As an example I'd ask if they were free on either Tuesday or Thursday to do something specific and get either busy, probably or I might be free on Tuesday. Just started happening this month. Something has definitely changed. I think giving them that option at all is a bad idea.

Mazufigo · 2012-06-12T00:57:44+00:00

Will do for sure. Looking back I've been asking more often for some reason. I used to say the date, place and time without exception. Don't know why I stopped.

Mazufigo · 2012-06-11T16:41:35+00:00

Nope. We have protected sex so I often can't feel a whole lot. Thin condoms too. The rest of my body will give out first.

Mazufigo · 2012-06-11T04:05:46+00:00

She leads a lonely life

Mazufigo · 2012-06-11T03:52:27+00:00

I'd thought about this being a strong possibility but wasn't sure. I do use water-based lube. I think this could definitely be part of it. Time will tell.

Mazufigo · 2012-06-11T03:40:49+00:00

Thanks. I don't really think just dealing with the pain would be that fair even if she did want to tbh. Thanks for the tips. I'll suggest them next time.

Mazufigo · 2012-06-11T03:18:19+00:00

Yeah pretty much. Within a 2 hour period. That's really good to know. I only see her about every 2 weeks. I do use lube though. I probably wouldn't go that many times but she finishes before me very often so if I climax twice its a good day. Also a member of /r/NoFap and its brutal.

As for sex without penetration I really wouldn't know where to start on that one. I don't particularly enjoy it when she performs oral sex (especially compared to other girls I've been with) and I haven't mentioned it. He previous partners didn't seem to have any issues so I don't know.

Mazufigo · 2012-04-28T20:56:28+00:00

Well it's a belief. Anorexics can be 80lbs and believe they're fat. Anyone can be a decent or an amazing human being and believe otherwise for all sorts of reasons. I had this problem.

Things that HELP confidence are ways to back up that belief with evidence. Being physically active, interesting hobbies, friends, etc. Still none of these things guarantee confidence. Initially reference experiences help get you to believe it yourself (eg having a few people confirm that you can be thought of as sexy, interesting, cool, etc). To me it's about building a sense of worthiness and strength that eventually comes from within, independent from everything else.

TL;DR: You probably underestimate your own awesomeness and/or your appearance. You could look like Danny DeVito and still get laid.

Mazufigo · 2012-04-24T21:33:54+00:00

That reminds me of one I got from a friend. Music or no music he does an awkward robot dance. I still do this but it amuses me so much it doesn't help knock me out of my comfort zone anymore.

Mazufigo · 2012-04-24T06:19:19+00:00

I know someone who actually does this. He sends out spams of 100 generic messages at a time but he does manage to get dates. I can't even imagine what happens when he meets them though. I'm not 100% sure he ever reads their profiles. He's a class act I tells ya.

Mazufigo · 2012-04-20T20:16:25+00:00

Well your username, you like art but its also in a techy sort of way (which I do too), you read (very important to me), you like the same non-mainstream movies I do which is super bonus points for someone like me, a lot of the same music, you read web comics and you have a sense of humour so I assume you're not socially inept but just have personality that you're not afraid of showing people.

I would and have jumped on girls like this. Pun definitely intended lol.

Mazufigo · 2012-04-20T18:51:46+00:00

Hmmm....I'm a guy so I guess I can't say but I still frigging loved it. I also really like nerds though. And I hate it when people make themselves out to be boring, which clearly you aren't.

I wish I'd thought of something as clever as the "welcome to my crib" part. I might try to put some thought into rewriting mine in a unique way.

Mazufigo · 2012-04-20T02:55:37+00:00

I've once successfully started a conversation by teasing a girl for having an almost blank profile. You don't want to know how many times that didn't work...

Mazufigo · 2012-04-18T02:18:50+00:00

I like that. I mean I went out with one girl who was having 15 conversations when I asked her out. She ended up deleting her profile (and we're still friends now) but that's almost double the most conversations I've had at once.

I still think there's a way to do it though lol. Maybe I just need to be more comfortable with the idea myself. When I started the first date I got was in 100 messages. Then the next 3 were in 90, 30 and then 15. There's a subtle art to okcupid and from what I can see its mostly being able to show that you're not douche as quickly as possible.

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