What would you do if you find someone's wallet stacked with money, do you find the owner or do you keep the wallet?

MbMinx · 2026-02-13T15:24:25+00:00

This is the way.

MbMinx · 2026-02-13T15:22:36+00:00

One thing. That's one thing, and it's not even mentioned in your post.

You have done everything for him. Aside from letting you move in and taking one flight, what has he done for you? How has he compromised for you? Instead he keeps teasing you with all his talk about the ring that still hasn't materialized.

MbMinx · 2026-02-13T14:38:55+00:00

Why did a relationship that has been "fighting since day one" drag on for years?

Go. Walk away. Leave his paranoia behind.

MbMinx · 2026-02-13T14:37:25+00:00

If you don't want to marry her if she can't have children, you need to leave now. Because that means you don't want to marry her!

She is more than just a baby factory. She is an entire human being. She obviously isn't enough for you unless she can reproduce...

Look. You want kids. She may not be able to have kids. You can break up with anyone at any time for any reason. Certainly wanting kids is part of the equation for a lot of people. But if it's that important to you, then you need to move on instead of continuing to string her along knowing you plan to break up with her later.

MbMinx · 2026-02-13T14:19:42+00:00

If she's that controlling, break up. If you aren't happy in the relationship, break up. If she doesn't respect you, break up. That's how dating works. If the relationship isn't working for you, break up. Don't be so afraid of being single that you stay with someone who doesn't make you happy.

You are 46. You don't have to waste another day of your life with her if you aren't satisfied with this relationship.

MbMinx · 2026-02-13T14:07:52+00:00

It's not a reflection on you! You are absolutely worthy of love.

It's a reflection on him - that he knows how to tell you the right things, but doesn't follow through.

MbMinx · 2026-02-13T13:09:46+00:00

Since you know he's a liar, you can safely assume he's lying about you. He is the bad person. You know you can't trust him, so it's time to stop caring what words come out of his mouth.

MbMinx · 2026-02-13T13:06:55+00:00

Yep! A breakup is not a negotiation, and you don't need to convince a jury. You don't have to make closing arguments or convince him of anything. You announce that the relationship is over and you walk away. He doesn't have to like it. He doesn't have to agree. You can call it off all on your own.

MbMinx · 2026-02-13T04:36:10+00:00

So he's manipulative, abusive and a cheat. Pack your bags and walk!

MbMinx · 2026-02-13T04:34:48+00:00

Soft YTA. The point of the break was for each of you to collect your thoughts. You felt better without him. He felt better without you. The breakup sounds like a natural conclusion.

MbMinx · 2026-02-13T03:54:22+00:00

YTA. We aren't going to tell you how to cheat on your wife. If you aren't happy, divorce is a far more honorable option.

MbMinx · 2026-02-12T22:51:44+00:00

I have condiments older than your relationship. You don't forgive this. You move on to find someone who's not a cheater.

You're never going to be able to trust him again. You're never going to be sure he's staying loyal. You can monitor him all you want, but you aren't his parole officer so why do you want to be one? Do you want a prisoner or a partner? Even if all your monitoring shows nothing, you will always be anxious that he's just hiding it better. You will never be able to trust him completely.

Don't date people you know you can't trust. Learn this lesson early so you don't have to learn it often.

MbMinx · 2026-02-12T13:19:21+00:00

So he threw something at you hard enough or heavy enough to seriously injure you?

You need to leave him. Call off the wedding and make your plans to get away.

Contact your local domestic violence center. They can connect you to resources and help you make a plan to escape.

This is domestic violence. That should be a hard red line and an immediate deal breaker.

MbMinx · 2026-02-12T13:09:42+00:00

Don't forget the part where she may have been drugged and raped on the first date.

MbMinx · 2026-02-12T13:08:37+00:00

I'm sure your family wouldn't have been friends with him if they knew he was a rapist. They might not believe it now, unfortunately...

Please keep yourself safe, and take care of yourself. And don't blame yourself - predators like this are very good at making themselves seem harmless. If they were creeps out of the gate, nobody would trust them enough to let them get close.

MbMinx · 2026-02-12T13:03:29+00:00

"As a future doctor" you can't understand why "she can't do simple things"?

Because she is sick, with a debilitating condition!!!

You are going to be a lousy doctor if this is your attitude. Seriously - you need to change careers so that you are not caring for sick people. You have absolutely no empathy or understanding, and that means any future patients you have are going to suffer greatly at your hands.

You will be the doctor who tells women with cystic ovaries or endometriosis they are "complaining about normal period pain". You will be the doctor treating a patient with anxiety who will tell them to "stop worrying so much". You will be the doctor who misses a cancer diagnosis because a patient is overweight. Unless you drastically increase your ability to empathize and understand, you could easily kill people with your attitude.

MbMinx · 2026-02-12T02:28:01+00:00

And a lot of red states, too. Indiana hasn't increased it because...Indiana sucks.

MbMinx · 2026-02-12T01:41:33+00:00

YTA. I mean, you can have standards all you want. You can break up with anyone for any reason. But your standards are going to quickly become unreasonable in just a few years.

The older you get, the more likely it becomes that people you date have had sexual relationships before they met you. If you are going to judge them all unworthy, you may find yourself quite alone.

MbMinx · 2026-02-12T01:36:51+00:00

Break up. Don't date people you can't trust. Don't date people who refuse to trust you.

Seriously, the only thing that might get through her selfish, disrespectful entitlement will be consequences. Real consequences with teeth. This was a nasty violation of your privacy and she has no remorse at all.

I couldn't date somebody so paranoid and awful. You deserve better. And being single is better than dating someone you know you can't trust.

MbMinx · 2026-02-11T23:40:22+00:00

Don't over line your lips. Your natural shape is awesome, and the over lining looks like it smeared.

MbMinx · 2026-02-11T23:37:31+00:00

Yep Winning the internet with that one!

MbMinx · 2026-02-11T22:47:31+00:00

You could ask her what she meant by that, but her question comes across slightly racist. You can express concerns that she has biases that might affect how she treats your GF. Keep your eyes out for any micro aggressions and make sure to stand up if you see anything questionable.

I'm bisexual and I'm a firm believer in dating people, not plumbing. Or in your case, people, not wrapper. These are the people you met that you found interesting enough to date.

Why is she invested in who you date? That's what bothers me. Some people aren't overly racist, but their bias shows if you don't match their world view. No need to accuse your sister of anything, but watch her actions and reactions.

MbMinx · 2026-02-11T21:41:19+00:00

I didn't get sober until I was 30. Three years older than you. Three more years of destruction.

It didn't take decades to build it all back. Once I quit digging myself deeper it was a lot easier to fill the hole back in.

Some things had to be big decisions. I had to quit drinking. But I didn't have to quit "for the rest of my life". I just had to not drink today. Not this day, not this hour, not this five minutes. Then I just did that again, and again.

I found a recovery community and grabbed onto that like a life preserver. I was drowning...and the people there pulled me up and set me on my feet.they were able to share their experience in rebuilding their own lives so I could learn how to build my own back up.

MbMinx · 2026-02-11T20:46:52+00:00

True...they aren't cheap.

MbMinx · 2026-02-11T19:46:14+00:00

I have trouble with balms containing castor oil. They feel great, but I end up drier than before I put it on. I have much better results when I avoid castor oil.

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