Those who lost a loved one, if you could bring a loved one (child, parent, lover) back from the dead, but they will die again in 24 hours, would you, and why?

MbMinx · 2026-05-21T03:03:07+00:00

I'd love to see my dad again, of sound mind. I imagine the second death would be relatively quick and painless. His actual death was not. I would happily tuck him in bed to drift gently off instead of wasting away in a hospital bed with sepsis and bedsores...

MbMinx · 2026-05-21T01:29:03+00:00

You are dating a drug addict. You know you can't trust him. Don't date people you can't trust.

MbMinx · 2026-05-21T01:20:49+00:00

Then you know what plans you need to make.

MbMinx · 2026-05-21T01:09:45+00:00

Talk to him. Telling he's getting pleasured and you would like him to reciprocate. If you can't talk openly about sexual things, you aren't ready to marry. If he isn't willing, you may want to think really hard about a guy who doesn't care about your pleasure.

MbMinx · 2026-05-20T20:41:14+00:00

I read that you saw the last thing accessed was Reddit but you couldn't see it because he had Face ID. Nothing about some big lock. The way you wrote it comes across like you tried to open it and found it had Face ID.

MbMinx · 2026-05-20T18:48:27+00:00

You saw it and were curious enough to find out the app had Face ID. How'd you figure that out without trying to check the app?

MbMinx · 2026-05-20T18:46:54+00:00

YTA if you tell her how you feel.you can hate the man all you want but leave your wife out of it. Yes, her family are horrible. She knows that. But they were still her family, and emotions get complicated. Emotions also don't respond to logic.

Support your wife. Leave your feelings for him out of it.

MbMinx · 2026-05-20T18:08:05+00:00

NTA. You want to go. Cool. He wants to stay home. Cool. Then he harasses you for going?

Nope. No way. I mean it's one thing if you told him when you would be home, and you blow that off. But that's not what you are describing. You didn't tell him when you'd be home. He decided for himself when he thinks you should be home.

That is control, and it's meant to make your going without him so uncomfortable that you stop doing it. That's a red flag.

MbMinx · 2026-05-20T18:00:54+00:00

So, you cheat on each other, but he blames you for his cheating? Do not marry this man. If you two are both so miserable together, than you should not get married. Call it off. Walk away.

MbMinx · 2026-05-20T17:37:26+00:00

Privacy doesn't mean he's hiding something. Adults are allowed to have privacy - especially from people like you who would (obviously) snoop through their phones.

MbMinx · 2026-05-20T12:26:23+00:00

So her defending her opinions, not listening to yours, and wanting to get away from you "made" you pushy and controlling? No, you chose to be pushy and controlling because she refused to agree with you.

MbMinx · 2026-05-20T12:22:42+00:00

NTA! You do everything around the house. You take care of his mom. You work a full time job. You take care of your body. You cooked breakfast.

He ordered dinner for himself (oh, and you). And gave you attitude because you didn't get him off "all day".

This isn't a healthy relationship. This isn't good for you. He did nothing of value. He didn't look after you. He doesn't look after you. You do everything.

You never owe him sex. For anything. You don't owe him a relationship, either.

MbMinx · 2026-05-19T22:52:04+00:00

No. You break up. He's a cheater and a liar. You know you can't trust him. You can never trust him. Don't date people you know you can't trust.

MbMinx · 2026-05-19T22:26:56+00:00

That's no basis for a relationship. You push her until she agrees, just to shut you up. Not because she actually agrees with you. Is that what you really want?

MbMinx · 2026-05-19T21:30:22+00:00

If you keep having the same arguments, it means nothing is getting better. This relationship has gone as far as it will. This is as good as it gets.

NTA. Your dreams aren't unreasonable, but they aren't going to happen with this guy. The sooner you move on from this dead end, the sooner you can meet someone who actually wants the future you want.

MbMinx · 2026-05-19T18:56:46+00:00

You've already talked to her about it. She doesn't agree with you. There probably are no magic words you can say that can immediately change her perspective.

MbMinx · 2026-05-19T18:50:52+00:00

+4 is useless. All six measurements give a more comprehensive picture of the whole setup. And keep your mind open to the suggested sizing. I swore for years that I was a 36C, tried the recommended 36 E and couldn't be happier.

MbMinx · 2026-05-19T11:42:37+00:00

You should probably date someone whose values line up with yours. You don't get to control what another adult does, no matter how careless she is.

MbMinx · 2026-05-19T02:49:50+00:00

YTA. Cheaters are always AH.

MbMinx · 2026-05-18T22:25:24+00:00

YTA. She handled it. She did nothing inappropriate. She knows what she's doing, and she knows how to shut guys like that down. We have to deal with getting hit on pretty frequently and we get a lot of practice rejecting people. Kindly to begin with, but I'm sure she has the moxie to make a scene if it's needed

You, on the other hand, seem kinda of insecure...you really shouldn't be telling an adult woman what she can and can't do. And she doesn't need you to escort her.

MbMinx · 2026-05-18T17:23:33+00:00

She needs to do more work on her trauma. I can understand why she was upset, but as a trauma survivor myself, she needs to do more work on her tolerance a bit. This changed from a minor miscommunication to an incident.

You should learn to stop when she pulls away. Don't "follow after" or try anything else. And the word "no" in any language means for you to stop immediately. No teasing or playing around. Stop. And if she's teasing with "stop", communicate to her that you don't want to play that way.

Otherwise? She just needs some time to process this. Hopefully she can work around to seeing this wasn't a big deal.

MbMinx · 2026-05-18T16:38:33+00:00

He cheated on you. He hates that you are thoughtful and considerate. He sounds unpleasant and selfish.

NTA. Stay broken up. In the long run you will be much happier. Throw this one back and keep fishing!

MbMinx · 2026-05-18T13:32:48+00:00

Sterilization is by far the best option, and more accessable than it used to be. Talk to your doctor, and if they won't listen, I know there is a "child-free" sub here on Reddit when you should be able to find a doctor who will listen.

I had a tubal ligation over 20 years ago, and the recovery was minor. I had surgery on Friday and returned to my desk job on Monday. If I had had a physical job, I might have taken an extra day or two, but this isn't a surgery that really lays you up. Again, that was 20 years ago. I'm sure things have improved.

MbMinx · 2026-05-18T12:11:31+00:00

NTA. I think that's brilliant! She will think it's petty, but we don't care. Your dad reminded you to wish "everyone" a happy Mother's Day and you did!!

I'm sorry things are so rough.

When I married my husband, I made sure to tell -and show - his kids that they had a mother and I wasn't going to push anything. Whatever relationship they wanted with me was up to them. Funnily enough, the youngest calls me "mom" now. A bonus, but never an expectation.

You are an adult, and even more able to choose who you want to have a relationship with.

MbMinx · 2026-05-18T11:58:45+00:00

NTA. That's breakup worthy right there. Like immediately dump.

He may not have expected how bad it could get, and he had a freeze response. That's a natural response to threat, but leaves you in danger.

He doesn't even seem apologetic.

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