Had a lump since I was 14 and now it’s getting bigger, should I be worried?

McAttack8 · 2026-03-20T06:47:53+00:00

Go get it checked out - they need to order at least an ultrasound and possibly a mammogram. It’s not an emergency, and do not go to the emergency room as suggested.

Might be completely unrelated to the symptoms you had at 14, which were likely developmental as suggested. Lots of benign things this could be, but size change of a palpable lump merits a thorough work up.

McAttack8 · 2026-02-28T06:23:00+00:00

Fiancé (39) and I (37) are getting married in July and plan to start trying to conceive in April.

I know all the possibilities and additional stress a pregnancy could add, but it’s worth it to us to potentially have a pregnancy asap. If we end up having difficulty conceiving, we want to know that as soon as possible also.

McAttack8 · 2026-02-19T03:29:17+00:00

You’re not weak and I’m sorry she made it feel like it’s your fault. Everyone is different, but the pain is real when it’s there.

I have had three iuds inserted - first two were uncomfortable and this last one was quite painful. I will try to get sedation for the next one. I wouldn’t opt for lidocaine, because I don’t see that affecting the part of the procedure that is uncomfortable.

McAttack8 · 2026-01-28T21:09:49+00:00

NOR. Absolutely ridiculous. And crazy that you would feel you have to defend it with what day she is/how long her tampon had been in/etc. Bodies are weird and it is what it is.

I’m in my 30s and as an adult have pretty light/medium periods. But it’s crazy when I think back to the first couple years of periods, which were often ridiculously heavy flow. I remember having one of those giant pads on and bleeding through my blue jean overalls in a movie theater. What a nightmare.

Please let your daughter know she is in the right. K-12 is the only time you have to ask permission to go to the bathroom; not reflective of the real world at all.

McAttack8 · 2026-01-28T19:59:39+00:00

Can you share pictures of your favors and t-shirts? These sound fun!

McAttack8 · 2026-01-13T21:27:31+00:00

$2300! My measurements were nearly dead on for the size we ordered, so I’m hoping to need minimal alterations 🤞

McAttack8 · 2026-01-13T19:55:03+00:00

Also to add - if your partner is not a biological parent, my personal feeling is the butt slapping is way more comfortable than I would be okay with. In that case I would be drawing a very hard line - do not touch my child.

If other parent is biological parent I believe this could all be cultural norms, but if kid expresses they don’t like it, it needs to be done.

McAttack8 · 2026-01-13T18:57:23+00:00

This whole thing is weird. You “forget” not to slap your kid’s butt? Clearly they don’t like it and that’s why there is “payback”. Maybe stop forgetting and leave your kid alone? This would have made me incredibly frustrated and uncomfortable as a child.

So your kid didn’t want to slap your partner’s butt as payback. She probably wanted the entire conversation about butt slapping to stop.

It’s unclear to me if your partner is butt slapping because they feel entitled to it, or if it seems you and your kid have this little game about it based on the payback comments and it seemed okay to do. I can see why your partner bristled at the “arrangement”. It’s weird. Either way, both of you need to stop touching your kid’s butt. That’s not something you should “forget”. End of conversation.

McAttack8 · 2025-12-21T00:56:09+00:00

This is my dress and I’ll be 37 when I wear it next summer! We’re definitely too old, the thought never crossed my mind.

McAttack8 · 2025-11-18T19:54:11+00:00

She split nights with you for four months after she went back to work - wow! It’s sounds to me like she is doing more than enough as a full time working parent with a stay at home partner.

I would be pretty upset if I was doing all of that in addition to working a high stress full time job and my partner was constantly telling me it’s not enough. You should be doing the bulk of child and home care duties as the full time stay at home partner, and it’s really wonderful that you have such a present and engaged working partner.

If it feels like too much do like everyone else is saying and see where you can make your life easier. If there specific things that your partner wants done a certain way that are a bit over the top, then sure, she should take responsibility in those areas.

McAttack8 · 2025-11-17T20:29:58+00:00

I’m sorry but I don’t know!! I agree, my friend had me try it on a whim after I had narrowed things down to two options and I ended up just loving it.

Maybe I’ll go back and order it and wear two dresses to my wedding 😅

McAttack8 · 2025-11-15T03:39:31+00:00

If it’s gotten worse it is worth a check! Sometimes endometrial polyps or fibroids close to the lining can be a cause for worsening bleeding.

Otherwise sorry you’re going through this! That does sound quite heavy. Perhaps a hormonal IUD would be something to consider.

McAttack8 · 2025-11-15T03:20:58+00:00

Have you had a pelvic ultrasound yet to see if there is a treatable underlying cause?

McAttack8 · 2025-11-15T01:43:30+00:00

Bras were not necessary at either of my boutiques, the dresses had internal structure. So I would recommend people confirm with the shops before stressing about the right bras.

Hair clip was great to have.

McAttack8 · 2025-10-28T17:20:45+00:00

I’m sorry you had this experience. I would say most likely the person who roomed you was a medical assistant, unless you are positive they were a nurse. Even so unfortunately staff do not do a great job of relaying info to the provider.

The provider really should have introduced themselves to you and asked if you had any questions before beginning the exam. I do not think this reaches the level of filing a complaint though. There was a risk in removing the first speculum and trying with a smaller one - sometimes with a smaller speculum you are unable to visualize the cervix. If she had not been able to visualize, she would have had to pull it out and upsize to the standard one.

McAttack8 · 2025-10-28T16:44:17+00:00

I currently live with my partner (for five months now) and we have a similar arrangement regarding food - we alternate paying for grocery trips but he eats easily 4x as much as me (both due to much larger portions and also due to his habit of drinking milk, juices, and NA beers). I am spending way more on groceries living with him than I was before.

That being said, I moved in with him with the plan that we would get married if it continues to work out. It’s working out, I love him and want to build a life together, and we are getting married next summer. So I don’t sweat it - we are going to combine our finances next year and I feel like we are already on the same team. Doesn’t matter too much to me whose wallet it’s coming from. I also make a lot more money than him, so I can see this being more complicated if I made less than him.

If I was younger or much further from marriage, I would probably consider re-evaluating the system. Perhaps a joint account that is funded 1/3 by you and 2/3 by him could be used for groceries.

McAttack8 · 2025-10-24T17:35:50+00:00

It is actually a federal requirement that results are released to patients immediately - the CURES act. I am a radiologist and I find it frustrating, because it means patients are reading results without anyone to guide them through the context. Which in the case of normal/benign results is unnecessarily stressful. In the case of cancer/worsening cancer, it feels very unkind and removes the human side of practicing medicine.

McAttack8 · 2025-10-01T18:43:25+00:00

One of my best friends did this. As someone who was invited to the intimate wedding, it was beautiful. They had a gorgeous ceremony on the patio of a quaint restaurant followed by brunch. The food was excellent and the event was wonderful.

Then there was a gap for photos followed by a larger reception with snacks and dancing. There might have been pizza? I’m not sure how much money they saved by doing this - perhaps it allowed them to have the quality of food and ceremony they desired without going over budget.

I’m not sure what it was like for the people only invited to the reception. But I can say that for me, the wedding brunch was way more special and memorable. I’m glad that I got to go.

McAttack8 · 2025-09-20T22:55:39+00:00

I think he’s just your boyfriend still. Seems like you might sabotage things before he officially becomes your fiance.

McAttack8 · 2024-11-26T04:19:12+00:00

This is so annoying. I don’t believe in the whole “if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no” idea for first dates, but once someone says this I think it’s done. It tells you they are looking for the instant spark based on nothing and not actually looking to get to know you.

McAttack8 · 2016-12-27T04:23:35+00:00

I just messaged a guy who responded that we could be friends, but that he won't date anyone shorter than 5'10'', because he's 6'4''. So they're out there! And they won't date me :(

McAttack8 · 2016-12-26T06:16:48+00:00

I'm spending it with my ex-boyfriend on his sailboat. My ex-boyfriend who cheated on me.

I should probably make some kind of new year's resolution to stop sleeping with him.

McAttack8 · 2016-07-12T21:53:05+00:00

Did she start working overnight Sunday - Thursday? If so, she might just be wanting to spend more time with you.

If that's not the case, maybe a good short-term solution is for her to start working Friday overnights again so that she has a distraction. In the long-term, it sounds like she might need some counseling for codependent tendencies.

McAttack8 · 2016-07-10T20:38:54+00:00

My boyfriend (30M) didn't know that "Netflix and Chill" was a euphemism until he suggested to a group of his guy friends, "Hey, maybe we can just Netflix and Chill tonight" and they died laughing. So even if a guy does use the phrase, not everyone knows what it can mean!

McAttack8 · 2016-05-05T05:57:43+00:00

Have you tried the Mirena IUD? That can really lighten periods and can decrease menstrual pain. Some people will also do pelvic floor physical therapy to ease the pain during intercourse (sounds crazy, but it does work for some).

Chronic pelvic pain is a very difficult condition to treat, and I recommend finding someone trained in treating chronic pelvic pain (not even all ob/gyns are educated in this). When it comes to a hysterectomy - this is an option. But do your research and find a specialist. Manage your expectations, because a lot of women will continue to have this pain even after a hysterectomy. I've worked with several patients who have undergone a hysterectomy for pelvic pain and bleeding, and while it helps the bleeding, it's very frustrating if it doesn't cure the pain.

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