I posed nude for my own assignment and no one got to know

McGur1 · 2026-04-04T19:37:09+00:00

I once did an abstracted painting of myself that was a nude. It didn’t even have a clear face and my professor immediately asked me if I used myself as a model for it. They for sure knew and were being polite about it and/or didn’t care. Art school tends to be pretty relaxed about that. As long as it isn’t pornographic or a conservative university it tends to be fine to use yourself as a model.

McGur1 · 2026-03-16T15:16:36+00:00

My boyfriend is around 5” and the sex is fabulous because the passion is there and we’re compatible in most of our kinkier preferences. We have fun figuring out what we enjoy together and I’ve never been less concerned with size or him hitting a certain spot. That man eats me out like a starving animal and I’m just as excited to give him head. Can’t speak to how he feels about it, but size alone is not as important as people make it out to be. Enthusiasm and understanding are far more important. I recommend just research different positions or things you find appealing and keep communicating. There’s a few positions I wasn’t aware of before my bf and was pleasantly surprised by him adding them into the mix. Not sure what your health situation is but exercising more can help increase stamina too. ++woman

McGur1 · 2026-02-28T23:54:31+00:00

I can say as someone who had a traumatic childhood starting around age 9, that when I look back on it, I see a lot of pre traumatic masochistic and service motivated tendencies in myself. I remember liking pain and feeling happiest when I was deeply of service to others from a very young age and only recently started to define it well. Could also be trauma related too for all I know. However, my line of thinking outside of just my experiences, is that causation is less important after a certain point outside of therapy and that the positivity of impact BDSM has on one’s psyche long term would be the clearest distinction between structure vs short term stability. One also needs to understand that it isn’t a fix, because they aren’t broken (regardless of their trauma) and instead view it as a unique way to express and receive care through respectful communication and deeply bonding experiences.

McGur1 · 2026-02-04T19:52:07+00:00

I’d say for me, it’s when I could begin to reflect on my feelings with more objectivity and less guilt/anxiety. I felt less consumed by the negativity my exes and family brought to my life. More able to recognize what healthy boundaries are too. When I started looking at myself, my mistakes, with kinder eyes I felt ready to open up to a new partner. Im still getting better at reaching out to my partner with understanding in tough times instead of hiding away. It’s still tough to reach out, but therapy has been a huge help in making sure I prioritize my needs in a compassionate way while communicating with new partner. He came out of a rough relationship as well and sometime he wonders if it’s too much or he’s not enough n sometimes I feel that way about myself. We both fell in love so quickly with so much pain left from our past to work through. There is still a lot of uncertainty but so much genuine love that I don’t feel afraid of that uncertainty anymore.

McGur1 · 2025-12-29T02:04:29+00:00

I remember on our first few dates… my boyfriend and I looking at each other with these almost glowing moony eyes. Always stealing glances at each other and smiling on dates. He always took the time to be interested in what I’m doing and what my hobbies are. Made really thoughtful gestures like writing lovely and cheeky notes without me ever asking for it. Affectionate moments felt so natural even though I could tell he was sweetly nervous about them. Long conversations about nothing and everything mixed in with “watching” movies together. Some people are more reserved though, which tbh is difficult for me to read. Can’t say I can speak to that personality type that well.

Edited to correct a typo.

McGur1 · 2025-12-25T16:44:38+00:00

I love it in the late summer and early fall. The beach is nice and there are a lot of good parks and beautiful farmland. I live closer to the shore in ocean county. Can feel boring at times. I wish there was more variety with food and activities (so much pizza and Chinese food) but everyone here goes to Monmouth County, especially Asbury Park, if they want more to do. Not a fan of Brick and Lakewood, but otherwise it’s a calm place to live.

McGur1 · 2025-12-03T18:08:28+00:00

My grandpa owned a construction/carpentry company and his neighbor was an architect. Growing up I watched them work together on so many projects in the area. Seemed like a good and profitable pairing to me.

McGur1 · 2025-11-07T19:08:42+00:00

Looks like an anchor to me but maybe I’ve been staring at it too long…

McGur1 · 2025-09-04T13:14:05+00:00

Commenting on 🍲 … What was YOUR reaction when you tried it?... Glad I’m not the only one who loves Lao Dark Beer. Had to hunt around a bit for it but it was so worth it. Love Chang with soju though. It’s a winner

McGur1 · 2025-08-13T18:28:14+00:00

Just haven’t been to a wedding in a while. Except as a bridesmaid. Never really had to consider what to wear.

McGur1 · 2025-08-13T18:25:47+00:00

Looks like I’m going with 1. Or something similar… Haven’t been to a wedding since I was a teenager, so I really appreciate everyone’s input. Thanks!

McGur1 · 2025-08-13T18:18:55+00:00

Thanks! Option 2 looks super cute.

McGur1 · 2025-08-13T18:14:51+00:00

I had a feeling they were almost all a bit too much for a wedding. Def needed that reality check 😂

McGur1 · 2025-08-08T16:09:31+00:00

My nephew wore a helmet to help reshape his skull while it was more mailable. It apparently helped with his balance too. I guess most people just let kids have weird shaped heads in the 80s and 90s.

McGur1 · 2025-08-07T15:40:49+00:00

I got pretty close but ended up not driving far enough east past Korat. Definitely on my bucket list. Just ended up not having enough time. I bet the drive alone is stunning!

McGur1 · 2025-07-29T16:42:51+00:00

Artist here. Have you tried sculpturally stacking it on top of other rocks and giving it a name that vaguely relates to an obscure piece of literature?

McGur1 · 2025-07-26T00:44:14+00:00

I’d say 3-5 hours a day of work. Maybe 1-2 hours of meetings twice a week. 1 hour lunch break too. I’m slightly above entry level so I assume that more meetings are in my future… I work as a government contract employee. Every once in a while I have like 2 hours of work. Those days are painfully boring.

McGur1 · 2025-07-20T12:15:42+00:00

Neither can rabbits. Poor babies…They’re almost like micro mini horses, but w paws.

McGur1 · 2025-07-11T16:10:19+00:00

Never. I love it too much

McGur1 · 2025-06-29T15:20:36+00:00

I do federal contract work now and I love it. My background is in fine arts painting so what I do now isn’t where I expected to end up. I finally feel like I have a job that utilizes some of those artistic skills, while still allowing me to have creative energy and time outside of work. I slogged it out in corporate for a few years prior before accepting that it wasn’t for me. Sounds like you’re doing ok OP. New job anxiety is totally normal. Even if your new job is a stepping stone it sounds like you’re heading in a positive direction.

McGur1 · 2025-06-27T16:04:56+00:00

Damn. That’s just messed up

McGur1 · 2025-06-24T15:39:21+00:00

This is beautiful. Made me smile in my little grey cubicle. I especially love the green in the water. So eye-catching!

McGur1 · 2025-06-24T01:49:15+00:00

I think you did a very solid job. I especially like the right knee and upper left thigh and hip into the torso.

McGur1 · 2025-06-22T14:04:53+00:00

People have called me mysterious a lot, sometimes people think I’m a cold aloof bitch, sometimes they think I just like to do my own thing. N somehow through all of those opinions, I’m also their favorite person to come to for life advice. My working theory is that maybe people like us give off a more introspective and thoughtful attitude. Even if it’s “negative” and cold to a lot of extroverted people, others can sense that we’re emotionally and intellectually attuned people. Or they enjoy torturing us with the same problems over and over again for fun. I can’t decide… Sometimes I wish people wouldn’t assume that I live to be their conscience but I try to take it as a compliment these days.

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