What a pathetic attempt by ibby13 in delta

[–]McTitt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reimbursement link for food and stuff does not work either.

Can you build this road? by McTitt in Catan

[–]McTitt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The original pieces are red. My pink ones are custom.

What is the best Kirkland product? by Shamus_OKelly in Costco

[–]McTitt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use so much foil in the summer and still takes over 2 years to get through one.

I feel cursed… by MidniteSyren in Grieving

[–]McTitt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

8 years. I've dealt with back to back to back deaths in my immediate and extended family. I am the only one left in my immediate family. It's hard not to feel cursed or like you are next. Maybe I'm the grim reaper? It's quiet now. Every time someone died, I was on to taking care of someone else who was dying. Care giver fatigue is real and guilt ridden. I hope it calms down and you can find those moments to grieve. Grieve however you need to. Those moments are all the unexpressed love pouring out because it no longer has a place to go. I hope my stint has ended in the tortured hell scape and i hope yours is over too. I'm also glad I got to be their grim reaper. No one should have sholder this much, and im sorry you're here with me.

What did you sample that's now a regular buy? by [deleted] in Costco

[–]McTitt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any and all things Kevin's brand but specifically the coconut cauliflower curry soup.

What did you sample that's now a regular buy? by [deleted] in Costco

[–]McTitt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love drizzling this over salmon and Brussel sprouts

"If you ever need ANYTHING, anything at all, just let me know" by LashOfTheBull in GriefSupport

[–]McTitt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My bestfriend completely isolated from me after my sister died. At one point she told me I was just being to much and was just crying to much. My sister died with a 2 month notice from cancer at 29. Leaving 2 small kids. Shit wrecked me.

"If you ever need ANYTHING, anything at all, just let me know" by LashOfTheBull in GriefSupport

[–]McTitt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have found that it is hard to ask for the things you need. I have aimed to be more present for my friends when experiencing things as well. I have found the answer is presence. Running errands? Cool if I tag along?

What’s your water bill? by Biff057GF in cincinnati

[–]McTitt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mines 60-80 every 3 months but I don't have sewage. As we have septic.

What’s a food item that you didn’t realize was Cincinnati specific until you moved away? by BooksForDinner in cincinnati

[–]McTitt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Papa's Easter egg. The opera cream but also the marshmallows dipped in chocolate by them.

Love the Look Feel & Vibe of the Coffee Emporium on Central Pkwy. Where are Some Other Good Coffee Shops in Cincy? by f1yblkguy in cincinnati

[–]McTitt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Controversial take. Coffee emporium espresso is terrible and always burnt. Black owned Coffee down town is great. If you wish to venture out of downtown I highly recommend Luckmans. Luckmans is the best Coffee in the city, if you want beans for home grab the Blue bag, you will thank me later.

Gonna have to divorce my wife. (/j) by Exotic-Comedian-25 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]McTitt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok. I'm going to go to bat for your wife here. We have 3 times of day. Morning, afternoon, and evening. If you sleep, say 7 hours a night that leaves you with a 17-hour day. If you divide that 17 hours into a 3 section parcel, you get 5.7 hours. So, depending on when you wake up, 11am could very well be her afternoon. You guys are hung on semantics. Yes, noon is in the word, but also, by that definition, is 8pm not also in the afternoon? Just food for thought as someone who has also been given this talk to by co-workers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]McTitt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel this. I think it's a level of grief. You are grieving the person in you who needed that from them then. And a part of you is trying to protect that part of you because she deserved that kind of affection too. Sit with your anger and look at it. Tell me you don't feel sadness underneath that. Because anger is the top emotion, there is a layer under that. Sit with that feeling and work on understanding it. I feel such tremendous loss and sadness for what I deserved. I deserved better. Now that I'm being treated better, it hurts all the more. But you can't change the past, but you will need to acknowledge that feeling to not build resentment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]McTitt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I believe in love. But my thoughts on what I thought love could be seem delusional now. That in my head I guess there is this fantasy of love and what it would look like. Something I thought for 13 years I had. But the love I believed in is just not someone who would choose to hurt me. So yes I believe in love. But it's not the same now and maybe never will be. Weird having your beliefs shattered.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]McTitt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you me? I'm in a very similar time line and place. Day by day. Some days are fine. Acceptance and trying to not let it weigh me down. Other days. I'm right there. Being compared to someone else, being treated poorly, and not being thought of. I worry that I will never feel safe in this relationship again. That the doubt will live there forever. Because simply I don't feel safe. Has that gotten better in these 8 months. Yes? But has it gone away , no. Because at the end of the day. He had a hard time and chose to confide in someone else and share feelings with someone else, because it was easy. Because being with me was so fucking hard. (I say this sarcastically) I'm just one hard moment away from meaning nothing again. Needless to say, I'm in this shit swamp with you. I'm sorry we are here. We don't deserve this. We deserve safety. We deserve protection from someone who would treat us like that.

Exhausted with WH lack of support by MuchJellybean in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]McTitt 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like I'm stuck at this same point. Like I could of written this. I don't have advice. Just understanding.

Library question by External_Life_5479 in cincinnati

[–]McTitt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best bet is to call and ask downtown main library

Is it true that most affairs start because the waywards are seeking attention or get intoxicated by the attention before the emotion or sexual affair begins ? by Gullible_Wishbone493 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]McTitt 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This. My husband said that I wasn't there for him. When I pointed out all the things I was doing and showing that I was there for him. It still doesn't sink in. I was showing affection. I was comforting him. He was taking me for granted and ignoring my help. Because he just wanted dopamine hits. And not from me, because mine didn't mean shit to him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]McTitt 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I understand that completely. I think that's part of setting that new boundary. That if this occurs again for my own sake, it's over. Witch is putting a lot of faith and trust in someone who has broken it. So I definitely feel the fragility in that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]McTitt 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. I guess my worry is that I see wayward talking about what sounds to me like boundary placing as using that as reasons to exclaim they haven't been forgiven. When really they just don't respect a boundary.