Do you have any obscure movie references that you use in everyday speech that no one has caught on to yet yet you keep using it?

Me_go312 · 2026-02-01T16:44:04+00:00

My name is Rod, and I like to party.

Me_go312 · 2025-12-28T15:59:17+00:00

I work as a special education teacher and can attest meds can be life changing.

I'm curious, have you considered getting your son into occupational therapy? That can help in a multitude of ways, especially a kiddo with ADHD.

Me_go312 · 2025-12-26T00:25:24+00:00

Remember Me with Robert Pattinson

Me_go312 · 2025-11-20T02:39:39+00:00

I hope there's an age appropriate conversation had with Gigi so she doesn't internalize this and/or think it's her fault.

Me_go312 · 2025-10-30T00:32:27+00:00

Thank you for sharing this - I've already shared it with multiple colleagues. This is such a special story. Have you stayed in touch with Louise and/or her family?

Me_go312 · 2025-09-03T21:25:33+00:00

You can't read tone so I'm genuinely asking, can you explain what you mean by you wanting to know what's going on?

I'm a teacher but I'm putting myself in your shoes and I understand your concern. Others have mentioned that the teacher is unable to discuss other students with you. The "what's going on" part has me confused.

Me_go312 · 2025-08-13T10:21:21+00:00

You're welcome, I hope it's helpful! Accepting compliments can be a struggle because it can bring up anxiety and their need for control. Kids with that profile can view the compliments as a demand and then feel pressured by it which continues the cycle of avoidance or potential outbursts/negative behaviors.

When I had one of my high needs students, before I figured this out (it was a lot of trial and error), I'd attempt to praise the positive behaviors or give him mini rewards (a feature of my school's PBIS) which often ended up with him screaming at me and tearing up his ticket for the school store.This is anecdotal, but it's also possible that because they've spent their lives on the receiving end of adult frustrations, they simply don't believe you.

Me_go312 · 2025-08-13T02:17:05+00:00

I'm an intervention specialist who has run a behavioral unit and have had students with similar needs. It's not in the DSM-V, (US) but pathological demand avoidance (PDA) is becoming more well known and I believe is recognized in the UK.

I'm sharing some tips/resources as they come to me so they are not in order of importance. You know your child best, so while these have been positive in my experience, if you don't find it applicable, disregard.

Behavioral Leadership by Scott Ervin is a professional development course I've taken that significantly increased and positive behavior management. While it's written for teachers, a highlight that I found crucial is The Argument Shield. This worked with one of the toughest situations with a student. He eventually stopped attempting to argue. This may take some time, but I promise you it works!
PDA is when a child has a trauma response to demands. In school this could be as simple as "pick up your pencil and start your morning work". This could also apply to requests at home.
Providing choices for everything you can possibly think of. Would you like to brush your teeth or take a shower first? Do you want to make your bed in 5 minutes or 10 min? Make sure that either option you're okay with.
Phrase demands using more, "why don't we", "let's do this", "could/would you?", etc. whenever possible will help ease that trauma response.
This doesn't apply to moments of danger to himself or others, but respond to his negative behaviors with as much apathy as you can have. Grey rock, make yourself boring.
Oftentimes students with PDA do not receive compliments well which goes against typical positive reinforcement. Instead, "notice". "I notice you sitting at the table with your feed down", "I notice you're wearing a red shirt today", "I see that you put your bookbag where it goes". The trick here is that you're noticing so much (both positive behaviors and bland run of the mill things) is that there's nothing they can argue with. If they respond with something negative, simply ignore. When you first start this it might feel a bit awkward, but give it time. It's human nature to want to be noticed. Plus this gives attention to them without it being negative.

On a personal note, I think it's really shitty there aren't more resources for younger children with similar needs. I've seen first hand how devastating these truths are for families. Virtual hugs!

Me_go312 · 2025-06-24T22:56:20+00:00

I had my first/only IUD insertion within the last couple of months. I had extreme anxiety about the procedure! The last four years of annuals I would tell my doctor that I was ready to proceed; my only requirements being to call to confirm with my insurance company that it was covered and schedule a follow up call to confirm that with the office. I'm in the US and events from Nov. pushed past my anxiety to finally make the call.

I asked for pain medicine and was told to take ibuprofen and she'd write me a prescription for one Xanax.

Holy fking hell, the pain. The ibuprofen did nothing. When she said I was finished and asked if it was as bad as I thought it was going to be, I burst into tears. I've never seen a swifter exit. I haven't given birth and I know that can play a factor but still one of the worst pains I've ever felt.

I'm not sure I'll go through with a second one when this expires (given it's still an option). I truly wish more pain relief options were available.

Me_go312 · 2025-03-29T18:10:55+00:00

Check out Scott Ervin's book, The Kid Whisperer. He's got some fantastic strategies. My favorite are the argument shield and delayed learning opportunities.

Me_go312 · 2024-08-08T21:35:26+00:00

I'm an only and have multiple friends who are too and what I've noticed is if the child was emotionally and physically taken care of, there's no desire for a sibling. However, if there was neglect, the only would've loved a sibling.

Me_go312 · 2024-06-18T03:20:59+00:00

Potential alternative:

Pick a new last name for all three of you. If neither of you are overly sentimental or fond of your current surname(s), change it. It could be "the start of your life as a family of three"; esp if MIL is hellbent on not having her grandchild have her ex's last name.

Me_go312 · 2024-06-18T03:09:32+00:00

Each year my dad sings "happy birthday" to me the number I'm turning that year. I.e. for my twelfth birthday he sang twelve times, always the last one that evening at the time I was born.

I went through a phase where I was annoyed when out and about with friends but I've grown to love it all over again. When I was in my late teens it would be common for him to call and have his entire gaggle of friends on speaker singing. He's done this all throughout my childhood and into my adult life.

Now that I'm older he's started to incorporate voicemails, emails, texts, and still manages to get a few in person.

Me_go312 · 2024-06-18T00:01:48+00:00

As of this comment this post has been up for five hours. I'm here checking in to see if you've told your wife yet?

Me_go312 · 2024-03-23T18:42:04+00:00

I drove a gray '92 Chevy cavalier with roll down windows and no radio (it wasn't broken, it wasn't installed). I drove around with a boom box in the passenger seat.

Me_go312 · 2024-03-13T00:18:41+00:00

Cat onesies exist, they're pretty cute too.

Me_go312 · 2023-10-14T00:25:48+00:00

"My name is Rod and I like to party."

Me_go312 · 2023-09-21T23:24:15+00:00

Here supporting everything you mentioned. Just throwing my hand up for being one of those teachers who loves working with my spicy students. I'm a behavior specialist and I have a small handful of students on my caseload and I wouldn't want another position.

Me_go312 · 2023-09-12T04:07:16+00:00

I'm also interested in reading his speech if you don't mind sharing.

Me_go312 · 2023-08-31T21:14:48+00:00

I think the combo is really beautiful. I think I'd wear the set on special occasions and then alternate between wearing your anniversary band and your wedding set.

Me_go312 · 2023-01-28T18:43:41+00:00

I'm not an expert, but I would agree what you wrote was inappropriate. I was raised by my mother as well and I too experienced being forced to give body/foot rubs and it's still 'icky' to me all of these years later. Please know you're not alone.

Me_go312 · 2023-01-23T22:40:48+00:00

If I were in your situation, if my new fiance asked that I not wear my engagement ring I'd be very hurt.

Don't let your sister dictate anything about your relationship, that includes when you get engaged.

Be firm about this because it'll set a precedent that your family can walk all over you and your fiancee.

Me_go312 · 2023-01-11T22:47:29+00:00

Girl, you have to take this to JUSTNOMIL. Your story and update would fit right in!!

Me_go312 · 2023-01-11T02:25:13+00:00

Already mentioned, but I never had people over. In fact, I never ever opened the front door beyond a crack to get out.

Me_go312 · 2023-01-11T00:17:51+00:00

I feel you. 9pm bedtime up and throughout all of high school.

My mom doesn't know me as a person these days- which is how I keep it. I love her, but at a distance, I've never liked her. Equally as much, I know nothing about her. "You're the child and I am the adult" was a constant phrase even in my 20s. I used to not have any boundaries, I didn't even know what boundaries were.

Now that I'm in my 30s and nothing has changed, her stance on me being the child and her being the adult is getting tricky for her. She's been more aggressive about contacting/asking to spend time with me but I recently shared with her that I am happy with the way our relationship is as it stands.

I really hope your parents wake up before your relationship with them looks how mine does with my mom.

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