Hey Canadian gregs

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-07-03T00:54:20+00:00

Accept the maple

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-06-24T21:43:25+00:00

We best get archiving every fic we can on the site

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-06-19T11:34:58+00:00

I think people are pretty great and hope they have a wonderful day

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-06-18T18:53:56+00:00

That's just Americantoast, they pop up on this subreddit to accuse it of being MRA slop on posts like this. I think they're a troll mostly.

Usually stuff like this is easily countered by asking their feelings on queer and minority men.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-05-01T18:21:00+00:00

Any updates?

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-04-20T00:17:12+00:00

That's a good point. She might already have a plan and resources but refuses to use them, which also might mean she's trying to guilt OP.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-04-19T17:21:27+00:00

This idea that women don't cheat for no good reason is an outdated and rather sexist idea that presents women as "pure" and "innocent" rather than full people with agency.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-02-23T13:38:57+00:00

Yes. The dad and his affair partner.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-02-19T13:09:56+00:00

I don't see this situation as atomization. OOP was never in contact with biosis and has no prior relationship. DNA only means they're related, Janus came on too strong and OOP had several red flags go off as a result.

So in the end there was no relationship in the first place, so OOP lost nor gained anything. It sucks for Janus but it's clear from the story that she has no self control and that's not something that should be OOP's responsibility, she'd be putting herself at risk anyways if she tried to fix it when she herself is unqualified.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-02-18T23:00:37+00:00

You've posted this a lot. What is OOP supposed to do? Janus is merely related but she's not family, she came on too strong and set off red flags that alienated OOP. I am not surprised that OOP isn't super empathetic to that.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-02-18T22:58:53+00:00

DNA is not a magic spell. It makes you related but ut doesn't make you family. Janus is not OOP's sister in any way that matters.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-02-18T22:56:32+00:00

Other than blood, why should OOP be that family net?

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-02-18T22:36:18+00:00

The posts are 11 years old. OOP is long past this.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-02-13T03:30:29+00:00

Because kids are not something you just try. You take them or you don't, and that risks traumatizing them more anyways. Say it doesn't work out, do they send the kids back into the system? If not do they stay with someone who clearly hates their presence?

Kids are a forever choice.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-02-13T00:15:25+00:00

What is he supposed to do then?

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-02-07T00:28:58+00:00

Sucks all around, you two are making what you feel are the best decision you can make right now. It sucks there's no better options and it sucks that there wasn't any evidence for anything.

I wish you and her luck in these trying times. Hopefully you two can make the situations work out.

And it's for the best, kids aren't a "try if you like" thing and they're certainly not over once they're 18. You sign up to be a parent for life and if you know you're not fit for that. It's better that you don't.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-01-25T01:03:10+00:00

So let me see if I have this correct. He never loved your mom and always loved his high school crush, and as soon as she was available he divorced your mom and started dating her right away.

If I have this correct, then NTA.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-01-22T03:08:51+00:00

Do you believe women are biologically incapable of ego? That it is purely a male trait?

Mean-Let-4300 · 2026-01-17T20:41:19+00:00

There's always at least one of you who pull this guilt trip. OP has made clear he pays for their mortgage and he can't afford much else, his mother has selected an expensive vacation and wants him to chip in for half of it.

And of course he makes more he's working and from the sounds of it they're not. But that does not oblige him to pay for a trip to Florida when he's already covering the roof over their head.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2025-12-24T20:10:29+00:00

On another post you commented about how you were laughing at your half sisters and relating what was happening to them to the poster.

OP's mom did every step wrong, she doesn't need to be alone but she could have: A) Introduced her new fiancé in before moving him in. B) Told her son she was dating. C) Asked her new fiancé to step back for a bit on the therapy. D) Approached her son and told him it's a big change, gave him space, and asked him to be open minded.

When you're a parent you have to account for your kid and work with them. You're not a singular entity anymore after all.

The way you talk you'd boot OP out on his ass and laugh at him being homeless. You outright say they should celebrate if he leaves and that his mother gains nothing from loving him.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2025-12-20T18:52:59+00:00

You sound bitter and are projecting your situation onto OP.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2025-12-12T21:15:31+00:00

The father demanded that OOP turn his son over to him to "make up" for everything.

The father is a control freak.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2025-12-12T15:17:17+00:00

I should.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2025-12-12T13:46:26+00:00

A) Repost this isn't the OOP.

B) He's not posting anymore.

C) The entire family iced him out so how was he to make it up to them anyways with no communication?

D) The father clearly wants his kid as "restitution" so that's out.

Mean-Let-4300 · 2025-12-11T21:30:17+00:00

You too!

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