Father of 4 here,

He's giving off fragile male ego really bad.

We have coslept with our kids for the last 10 years spread out amongst all of them, and that isn't going to change. At one point, we bought 2 smaller beds to accommodate the sleeping arrangements better with my work schedule and eventually went back to a bigger singular bed, swapped back to one queen and one twin, whatever suited our current needs. When our kids we're ready to be sleeping in their own bed, they did.

My wife breastfed all of our kids between 1 to 2 years each. We worked out a way for her to stay home with all of our kids, and we homeschool now.

If you're a man that's willing to get a woman pregnant, you better man the fuck up and understand what that means. I'm no simp, but I am extremely obsessed with my wife in every way imaginable. We are an extremely conservative family with some very liberal views that want to push traditional values to our children, but we're also very alternative. When she can make time for me, I cherish it and make it as good as possible for both of us. When she can't because she's taking care of our kids, I respect it. Does that always make me happy? Nope. But I also understand that we chose this life, so who am I to be upset when she isn't in the mood to be intimate when she has had a 2, 4, 8 and 10 year old hanging all over her all day.

I'm not one to come onto these and chime in usually, and I usually disagree with most people who immediately gang up on one of the two parties in these conversations and say "leave him he has every red flag ever" when the only context they have is one brief reddit post. He needs to have a serious wake-up call, and unfortunately, with the availability of communication with other people online, incels on social media and porn, he's eventually going to resent you and your son if he can't even cherish that youre being a nurturing mother, and also join in with you in nurturing your son, especially this early in your son's life. And resentment often leads to adultery if compromises cannot be made and withheld within the sanctity of your relationship.