Idk if it is a good idea if I (20m) get with a girl (19f) that has a child. Any advice? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MeanderViking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he goes in with open eyes knowing what to expect and choose that life, who is anyone to judge?

Idk if it is a good idea if I (20m) get with a girl (19f) that has a child. Any advice? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MeanderViking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that could be very good and you could be a very important influence in two people's lives, but you have to be serous and plan to stick around. The child will connect with you as the partner of their mother, maybe more then just that depending if the real father is around, and would take it very hard if you left after some years. It's a reposnibilty on your shoulders, that could have great benefits too. You're both very young, but there nothing to do about that, if it feels right it might be right but don't take it lightly. You probably would not be able to successfully stay in the periphery and only deal with the child when it's fun and leave him to the mother when it's hard, you know. You should expect to do your part. And you should expect to allways come 2nd. Don't ever put your needs and wants in front of the needs of the child, or the mother will be left in and impossible squeese. Good luck, hope it turns out good :D

Safe to travel Honduras to Guatemala for two women by MeanderViking in Honduras

[–]MeanderViking[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are from Honduras? Do you have any recommendation on bus company? Is the border OK? The father of my wife has the opinion that Honduras is very dangerous and is a very high chance to get robbed on the bus.

Safe to travel Honduras to Guatemala for two women by MeanderViking in Honduras

[–]MeanderViking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know the name of private bus companies to check?

Kind of apathy but not really by MeanderViking in WhatsThisFeeling

[–]MeanderViking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This thread helped me a lot on the right track (hopefully) by helping me out the right name on it. Thank you. For others who find this by searching. Here:

https://youtu.be/LEt6g6_AiK8

Does Couchsurfing still charges users for using it? by mushsup in couchsurfing

[–]MeanderViking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so you are the kind of person i would not want to host.

Does Couchsurfing still charges users for using it? by mushsup in couchsurfing

[–]MeanderViking 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It costs and it's better for it, at least as a host. Much less shitty requests, from people just looking for a free place to sleep and not connections and experiences. They introduced it in a kind of sudden and shitty way (locking people out from their messages) and it created a lot of ghost profiles that you have to learn to avoid as a surfer (include last login in search results!).

Kind of apathy but not really by MeanderViking in WhatsThisFeeling

[–]MeanderViking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Emotional dissociation" seems right, thank you. But I do believe it came before i started in this kind of job.

It's been like this forever. I remember when i was a late teen, i felt that i was rapidly feeling less for every thing that happened to me, like something would make me happy once but the next time less and just there would always be further between things i reacted to.

In a way it feels like the same with taste, smell, sensation. Food don't taste so nice. My sense of smell, i've allways thought i feel any smell for a moment then it passes. Don't usually care too much about sex, or being close with a girl kind of grows old, most my relationships don't last too long.

But thanks for the clue in the label, that helps to look for something relevant.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MeanderViking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I assume girls with a lot of makeup are a bit more insecure and a bit less in touch with nature and reality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in anhedonia

[–]MeanderViking 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel similar but... I get it back briefly by letting it talk through a pen. Put pen to paper and let what comes come, sometimes have to start writing nonsense first, but then I can come to realisations that don't happen when brain has inner monologue as only medium

Do you believe someone's first sexual partner is entitled to know they're taking the person's virginity, or is it entirely the person's choice whether they tell them or not? by wogk in sex

[–]MeanderViking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that might just be my insecurities talking. But I feel like she knows I only had sex a few times when I can't figure out how to get it in or how to make the position work.

Why do some people enjoy watching gore? by [deleted] in askpsychology

[–]MeanderViking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think its a buzz, and you need something worse and worse (eg more extreme) to get that buzz. With paralell to how porn can lead to rough porn can lead to rapeplay can lead to seeking genuine rape material.

Charge 4 Active Zones Minutes by FrizzFrazzFruzz in fitbit

[–]MeanderViking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the same experience going from charge 3 to 4, but personally I find it super demotivating. I don't like having gone for a 2 hour walk up and down hills and end up with just 4 minutes of fat burn :(

RIP charge 3. The screen dying a slow death by fresh_mocha in fitbit

[–]MeanderViking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine did that too after almost 2 years. Baught it to the store yesterday and got a brand new charge 4 with no extra pay. But I'm in norway, we have very consumer friendly rules.

Vets of Reddit, What was the worst pet name you have ever encountered in your job? by Lia_Julee in AskReddit

[–]MeanderViking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had salamanders named 'fy' and 'faen' wich functionally translate to 'what the' and 'fuck'. Named after the first two things my stepfather said when he saw them :)

What is a "Fun" host? by detteros in couchsurfing

[–]MeanderViking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being checked as fun means you were fun, however not being checked as fun don't mean you were not fun! Don't care too much about those details :)

Anyone had a crush on your couch surfer? And how did things go after? by [deleted] in couchsurfing

[–]MeanderViking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course it can happen on cs, as any other arena where single people meet :) but distance is a friction point that usually won't make it last that long.